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Because that person is in contact with one of her children and wanting more contact and visits. With the history and the sudden interest in touching base with the children only now, I'd be checking on them, too. Plus, some other family member or mutual friend probably tipped her off about what they were doing.

I'd copy the pictures and then report them to facebook that they are posting pictures that are of you and belong to you (or of your minor children if that's what is it) without your permission or consent and that you specifically asked them to remove them and they have refused. FB should get rid of them for you at that point.

I think I'd tell them that if they can't respect your wishes as the mother and return your property and be civil and respectful, that you see no reason to allow them to have continued contact with your minor children. The children can make that decision when they turn legal adults.

Good luck.
 
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Wow!! My first reaction is.............

Do you honestly think with 3 jobs, a farm in the works and a family to raise I have the time or the want to look up people who I have no desire to have a relationship with online????? Really?

I have removed MYSELF from any relationship with my children's family. Been there, done that. HOWEVER, IF you had teenage daughters you would know that you can not prevent them from doing certain things. Like use facebook. I don't like the fact that they use it but can I police them at school, friends houses and other computer access spots? I do however have spies working for me that keep tabs on things and report regularly.

I have told both girl from the beginning that it is up to them to have or not have a relationship with their father's family. I did the best I could to protect them and teach them how to protect themselves. And IF they choose to have this relationship I will be there for support.

As far as the pictures on facebook.................
I will be contacting facebook and appreciate everyone's input as I am facebook illiterate.
 
I'm going to say that they just happened upon your kids on facebook. There are people on facebook that I haven't seen/spoken to or even thought of in over a decade (and I'm only 21!) that all of a sudden pop up on facebook. I'll add them or they'll add me. It's not like we're stalking or anything crazy, the person just happens to pop up somewhere. I'd honestly say to play it nice. You won't get the pictures, and being "rude" to them is only going to peeve them off. I'd just ask for duplicates of the photos. As for the relationship, so long as they're not being rude or talking smack, let them have a relationship with the kiddos.
That's all just my opinion, I don't know enough about the situation to give anything better.
 
I don't have any advice for you on anything else, but if you want copies of the pictures that got posted, it's very easy to get them from Facebook.

First, get to the picture you want, on Facebook. Click on it so that it's full-sized and not just a thumbnail. When it's full-sized, use your *right* mouse button and click on the picture. You will see a box with a number of options. In that box you will see an option to 'Save As'. Click the 'save as' option.

Then you will want to open your documents folder on your computer (or your Pictures folder, or wherever you store your photos on your comp), and rename/save your picture just like you would any other document.

Most stores like CVS, Wal-mart, Walgreens, Target, etc can also get you actual prints of your digital pictures for a small fee, so long as the picture isn't copyrighted or you have a release from the person who took the picture (ie, wedding photos). I did it last Christmas with some photos of our honeymoon (presents for family) at Costco and it was quick and easy.


Hope that helps, if nothing else, I wouldn't talk to Facebook until you've gotten copies of all the pictures that you want. After all, if they take them down, you won't have the chance to get the copies.


Whitewater
 
Not knowing what kind of relationship you had with "his" relatives, I would say....tell them if they are really serious about starting a relationship with your daughter, really serious about starting over and being adult about things...to return the photos and chest and whatever else you should have gotten. You have the paperwork and couldn't get the ex to play by the rules. If they are serious, they should. What do they want with your stuff anyway? If they are going to have contact with your daughter, I would stick my nose right in there. You know the saying ...keep your friends close and your enemies closer? This is a perfect example.
 
When you post pictures to facebook, there's a little box you have to check which is an acknowledgement/agreement that you have the copyrights and all the legal stuff straight....which these folks don't. The pictures were supposed to come to you as part of a divorce settlement; divorce cases are lawsuits; therefore, these pictures are part of a judgement that's not been met.

Contact facebook. Report that these are YOUR images -- not theirs -- and FB may very well take them down.

BUT...be sure to get screen grabs of them first, because chances are excellent that you'll never see the original copies.

ETA Linky..

http://www.facebook.com/help/#!/legal/copyright.php?howto_report
 
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