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This time you have my attention. Apparently you didn't absorb what Nova said, and her teen years weren't as long ago as mine.
As a mother and a grandmother I grew up with the thought (drilled in by my dad)
two wrongs don't make a right and you can be your own worse enemy!
Are you really trying or just belling aching about it. Sometimes you do have to bend over backwards and try to please instead of being the so called rebellious teen.
I am sorry to say you have no sympathy from me about feeding the dogs late. Can they go get the food out themselves?. Or turn the water on and fill the buckets. That was one of my DH's pet peeves. That the animals didn't have fresh water. You saw the buckets and commented they didn't have water for two days. How would you like to go without. Even if it had been your brothers responsibility was there any reason you couldn't fix his wrong after you noticed it. Why make the dogs suffer? Then you could have pointed out to your mom, that you had done something that you weren't asked to do that your bro was to do. That would have shown her a more grown up and responsible attitude. And maybe made brownie points.
Didn't yesterday you say you realized how much you mom loves you? Well kiddo step back and look in the mirror as to what you have been like lately. Is this a person you really like? Or say you had a daughter would you want her to be like that? And ask yourself what you would do if she was like the way you are saying. Put some thought into that one. Keep in mind you yourself may be a parent someday. And that is one thing God did not give us, was an instruction manual with each kid. We all try, we all make mistakes. And we hope we are doing right trying to raise our kids the right way and to grow up with a good life for the future.
You are making an impression to me that you want all the rewards with nothing that you have earned. Being a family has to be a working unit. Everyone has to pull their weight to keep harmony and if you see something that need attention jump on it and maybe mom won't jump on you. Do you appreciate the things that you mom and dad do for you? Maybe they would appreciate more of what you do if it wasn't a hassle to get you to do it. Life might just go a little easier for you.
And what is up with all the name calling? Believe it or not name calling CAN hurt!
Even if your brother did ruin two drawings, let me ask why weren't they put up so he couldn't. Seems to me like you have no one to blame there except yourself.
I don't think one haircut will ruin the chances of a outing, maybe postponed. There are still a few days left to this holiday season.
Life isn't easy no matter how you look at it but you make it what it is. Try to look at it from your mothers point of view and think that yes, she was also a teen. If you can talk to her mom . Not to get stuff to throw in her face, but ask grandma do you have any ideas on how I can get along with mom better we have really hit a low point right now and I think we are both actually hurt by the wedge that is coming between us. Maybe you could even talk to your dad as you say he is more mellow. And has known your mom longer than you. Would it even hurt to try to talk to your mom? Maybe you could even ask your mom what is stressing her so much. The holiday season can be hard for grown ups.
Food for thought..... you should actually cherish every moment you have with your mom. Mine has been gone for 20 years and I miss her terribly all the time. There are a lot of could've, should've would'ves that I wish could still be done, but can't. Even if I could tell her just one more time.................
Life is too short, kiddo