Grandmother again (maybe)

[Sjisty]

Some of you will remember my daughter's story. My daughter and her hubby have been married 10 years this week. She miscarried her first pregnancy six years ago and was never able to get pregnant again. They worked with a fertility specialist, who did a procedure (I have forgotten the terminology) three different times, but that never worked. Then they tried in vitro fertilization. The first time didn't work. The second time she was pregnant with twins, but lost them.

Stage two, adoption. They went through Child Proctective Services in the state where they live, took the classes and tests, became elligible, and received two beautiful toddlers last year. The adoption would be final in six months. Well, it turned out there was a sister of the mother of these children and Child Protective Services decided to place them (the week before Christmas) with their aunt. Daughter and her hubby were devastated!

Since then, they were offered two children a couple of months ago, but an hour later CPS told her that the parents had kidnapped them.

Fast forward to this week: Monday, they were offered three siblings, ages 2 months to 2 years. Hubby said NO to three. Daughter was very upset. Yesterday (Wednesday) a 4-week old child came into the system. Daughter and hubby were being considered, but the baby was given to another couple. Again, daughter devastated. Two hours later, daughter calls and tells me "CPS is on their way over with a 2-month-old baby! She didn't even know what it was! What a roller coaster of emotions this week was!

Anyway, she now has a beautiful baby girl, hopefully for good. She was taken from her parents, who were very young, for neglect and given to a family member. Family member decided she didn't want the baby (parents were threatening), so gave her back to CPS. No other family member has agreed to take her. Hopefully it will stay that way, and in six months this beautiful baby will be adopted by DD and hubby and will be ours!

 

[henjoy]

My thoughts are with you and your family. I definitely know the feeling of waiting for the outcome of kids placed by CPS. ALL of our grandchildren were adopted from the foster care system and I know it doesn't happen overnight. It is a nailbiting time but well worth it. Our grandkids are a joy. One has even grown up and now has presented us with two great-grands. Your daughter and her husband WILL have the family they are dreaming of.

 

[Glenmar]

Awwww.

 

[Sjisty]

Okay, another aunt came forward and is taking this baby, too.

I'm beginning to lose hope that my beautiful daughter will ever get the chance to be a mother. It just isn't fair. I just watched the news last week where a woman beat her little toddler and killed her. When they showed her picture, she's pregnant with another! People like that have baby after baby, yet my daughter can't have one.

They/we can't afford a surrogate and can't afford a private adoption. The Child Protective Services is just ripping my daughter's and her hubby's hearts out. I feel so helpless and hopeless!

 

[BakinInAZ]

It's amazing the homes they send the kids to, while there are so many better chances out there for them.

 

[nikki1]

After a LONG wait for children, we adopted our son 9 years ago. I've come to the conclusion that adoption is THE most difficult life event ever. It was a beautiful, rewarding process, but also monumentally frightening and heartbreaking. It's not like "the old days" where you went to an orphanage and came home with a baby. You have to bare your entire life--finances, medical history, family history, and generally everything that people generally hold very private--and hope you cut the mustard.

And the whole time you're doing this, you see teenage moms keeping babies, drug-addicted babies going who knows where, and babies being dumped. Basically people with no business raising a baby getting babies, while you wait and wait. It's enough to make you want to give all of society a good shake!!!!

A hug to all of you out there fighting the battle. It sounds trite, but the baby that belongs with you will make its way to you. Keep up the fight! Adoption DOES happen. Don't give up hope.

--Nikki