hardest thing did we do right?

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It has been probably one of the hardest days - You all know how much my lovely Oes meant to me. So you know what I feel when animals are not looked after in what I would feel is for their best interest.

Some folk we know got a puppy despite us telling them not to get that breed of dog because they had a bad reputation. Of course they went ahead anyhow. Since then they started a young family and the puppy grew.
It was supposed to be a Staffy . With a young family they had little time for the dog and more and more often it was left without excersize. Eventually it was kept more and more in a cage. When we saw what was going on we told them all it was doing was causing the dog to become frustrated and will only lead to aggressive behavior. 3yrs later and the dog finally started to crack. It went for their small dog and caught it up by the throat. It shock it like a rag doll. This was alarming as they have small children. They tried to advertise it in the paper and on line but were told it looked as though from the pictures it was x with a dangerous breed and the adds were taken down.

With little option they turned to us. We phoned the different pounds and none would touch the dog. The best offer we got was that he would go on an 18 month waiting list. We phoned the Dog warden who said they would take him but he would not be a candidate for re-homing and that he would be put to sleep in 7 days. So we phoned our vet. They said they would put him to sleep that night but it would cost £85. We decided that we would phone around (The council warden would have been free but he would have spent a week on death row which didn’t seem fare either?) We phoned our old vet we used before we moved and they said bring him the next day. We took him in this morning.

All the way to the Vet I was thinking how terrible it was to be in a situation of putting a healthy young 3 yr old dog to sleep. What a contrast to our Oes when we cried for days. This dog we were not sure what the vet would say so we told the folk to make him ready to go to the council pound. When we went to get him – it was like when we rescued Murph all over, only this time we were not the rescuers were we? There was NO color, No bedding, No toy – it was obvious he was unloved and unwanted. No wonder he was aggressive. Dh had said what if we took him for a week? Maybe we could turn him round? But all I could think was Dh is only out of hospital after a second bout of heart surgery. We just lost our lovely big Oes and I don’t like staffy type “fighting” looking breeds. I am a big stupid fur ball girl. I don’t like scary dogs.

On the way to the Vet I heard him crying – we put Murphy’s mussel on him so as to make sure he was safe.
But he whimpered and cried and I felt like I was taking him to his execution and he was begging for life.
I saw all the lovely fields and thought if only we could stop the car and take him to play – but he hadn’t been in a field for a long, long time and what if he got away? What if he hurt someone?

So we pulled up to the vet and they took us straight away we didn’t have to wait at all.
The vet asked about the attack and we told her what we had been told. She looked at the fellow and asked who was in that house. We told her they had small kids and she said the neck hold was not play it was a deathblow. She said he would eventually do it to the children. She said she would give him a sedative before the job because he was so hyper. She did and I felt a little better. She asked if we wanted to stay but DH and I just looked at the lad and said No we don’t he isn’t our dog. It would have been like supporting it? We didn’t because we felt given the opportunity he could have been a lovely dog. With the right owner in a home with no kids or other pets. But he didn’t get the chance. So we signed the consent and walked away. I felt bad because when Murph died we held him in our arms I held his paw we cried and cried. But this dog was unloved in death as he was in life. I felt cruel but I had no feeling for him either? If I took him home he would have been able to get our little dog or our granddaughter? And I didn’t like him. Honestly I felt bad because I didn’t like him. – I mean look at my avatar. My choice is a big fur ball that you couldn’t possibly be scared of. It was just pure fighting thing? How can I take that home when all I want is my beautiful trustworthy steadfast old Murph. It was not my dog – I walked out and left him to die alone and unfriended. All I did was wait for Murphy’s lead and color and his muzzle.

The only thing that justifies this cruel act is that he will never harm the children.
If he was brought up right he would not have been aggressive I am sure!
why do dogs that are loved and have good homes die and these folk do this?

Oes –
 
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You did a brave thing.
So many would have turned the other way so as not to have their own feelings ruffled.
 
At least he had someone who cared and was treated kindly at the end - sounds like that was more than he had every gotten before. Although difficult, it was the kind of thing that people who work in animal shelters have to do all the time - and most of them love animals as much as you and I. you and your husband what had to be done, which is more than can be said about the so-called owners.
 
Shame on these folks for getting any dog much less than one that I believe is restricted in your country, correct? It was very nice of you to take the dog in to be euthanized; I'm afraid I would have had to tell them they would have to clean up their own mess.

So sorry you had to go thru all that.
 
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We did it for the children not for them. Certainly not for the dog. If we could have found him a home we would have. However he was sold to them as a staffy pup. When he got nutered the vet told them he didn;t think it was a pure breed. Hay they got it from some fellow at a rock bottom price £150. No papers and they didn;t see the parents. Cardinal sins of puppy buying but they were told not to do it. When they tried to advertize him for sale the on line folk took the add down because they said he looked staffy x American pit bull. They are an illegal breed here because a lot of young kids have been killed by them in the last few years.

Personally I don;t believe in bad dogs just bad owners! I think Dogs like that need really tough owners who can be "top dog" in their home. The harder the dog the tougher the owner has to be. It's like chickens there is a pecking order and they NEED TO BE BOTTOM all of the time. It is hard hard work. Silly insignificant things like always going through a door before them. Making them wait for meals until your fed first. Not greating them the instant you come in " because they are not that important in your life! " your top dog so why bother to acknowledge them - for at least twenty mins! We had to be really tough on Murphy because he had an aggressive streak. Bigger the dog the more controlled they should be. But I didn;t have the time or energy or incling to do it all again with that bad boy. He wasn;t my dog I didn;t do it to him. All we did was take him away and I think he for the first time in his life got peace.

I feel bad because I walked away though and I didn;t sit with him while the deed was done. But he wasn;t my dog and I only just watched my beautiful oes put down I didn;t want to go through it again so soon. Least of all with him! How can I be like that - I feel I failed him too because I couldn;t love him? But I just couldn;t he frightened me and I just couldn;t " gel" not with him. There was just something not right!

Anyhow I feel bad about the whole thing. I don;t think the folk should have another dog, but doubtless they will.

Oes
 
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Thank you so much for doing the right thing by this dog, even though it put you in a very uncomfortable place.
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So many others would have simply said that it's not my dog, not my problem and not bothered trying to help in the first place. Taking him to the vet to be destroyed immediately is far kinder for him than letting him sit in a kennel surrounded by strange, unfamiliar sights, sounds, and smells for a week or more before being put down in the same manner, alone. I understand feeling badly that you didn't want to stay with him. But truthfully, that was not your duty. This is a dog that did not know you, and while it would have been very generous of you to stay with him through the end it would not have brought him any additional comfort. In fact, with the wounds of Murphy's passing being so fresh it's likely that staying with him would have caused you to become emotionally distressed and he would have picked up on that, making his last moments even a little more stressful.

Personally, I disagree with the assessment that he was a danger to the children simply because of the attack on the other dog. Aggression towards other animals or other dogs does not translate directly into aggression towards humans. If a Jack Russel (or Parson Russel, whichever name you choose to call them by) did the exact same thing to a rat, no one would make the bold claim that it was a death hold and that the baby would be the dog's next target. However, given the dog's shady genetic history (purebred or not, getting a dog just because it is cheap with no idea what the parents are like is just a bad plan all around, especially when there are small children involved) and the "owner's" lack of socialization and care I do agree that this dog probably was a time bomb and that the children in this family were most likely in danger. You are right, he probably could have been a lovely dog if only someone had taken the time to socialize and train him and exercise him. It sounds like these people like the idea of a dog far more than they actually care for the dog itself.

Unfortunately, this is a no-win situation for everyone involved. It's understandable that you feel bad about the whole thing. You did nothing to bring this on, yet you were there to handle the aftermath of irresponsibility and neglect. Knowing that this dog might have had a chance at a good life under different circumstances makes it very difficult to do what you had the courage to do. However, you can't change the past, and you can't dwell on what if's. You did the best you could, and you did your absolute best to make sure that this dog's suffering was minimized as much as you could.
 
Your right about the bit at the end and thanks for that. I never had much time with this dog as it was always in a cage in the kitchen whenever I visited and they always said " don;t go in the kitchen , it upsets the dog?" In reality he was just bored and wanted someone to play with him. Sadly it was not me! For that I feel guilty. But as you point out that was not my choice.
My dogs did spend a lot of time in the utility and I was often told when they came to visit that it was also a cage but bigger? It was their justification. My dogs had their own beds and their own toys and access to a large side yard. We also walked them and they loved the beach and sea to play in. If my Dogs had to leave me they would each have had a little bag with all their things and a file with their background and paperwork. But their Dog didn;t even have it's own color and we used our own mussel and travel cage. It is totally different. My dogs would sit with me in the evenings and I have posted one of my favourite pics of me and my Murph on the couch, he loved to sit with me and watch TV! I have lovely memories of my dear lad who enriched my life so much. I couldn't imagine him having a life in a cage? (My little Schnouzer would grab his neck and hold on but I don;t think it was a death grip either. I am certain the schnouzer could not have meant anything more than play to Murph. Now Murph is dead Gizzy is very clingy and he has never shown any aggression to humans ever.) It is very raw with Murph passing. Perhaps I am selfish but I didn't want to remember another dog like that when I have the picture of Murphy's last moments on earth so fresh in my mind. When we cried and held him and he died in his daddies arms. When we asked if the owner of that dog would come sit with him they both said NO. How sad is that?

Oes
 
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