I feel for you. We came home a few mths ago to find our 19 year old daughter gone, moved to another state to be with her "friend" and married him last week. Why marriage? Because his Mormon father refused to help them unless they were married..so now both kids have severe ADD, are more like 13 year olds, married, no car, working fast food and living with his dad. My daughter knew better and this blew up in her face and now she is picking up the pieces...but..God gave me free will and I am passing it onto her. While peer pressure is not a reason to join the military...having a degree is no way a guarantee of a good job either. Your family has my prayers.