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that's interesting. do you all live together?
that kinda reminds me of what we learned in class today. there are a group of people in the mountains of china. in their language they don't have a work for father or husband. the home is made up the mother and her children. no husbands, no fathers. so the grandmother, mother, and children (both genders) live in a house. the men go to female's houses and do the deed. of the women get pregnant, they might not know exactly who the father is. the men are not required to care for the children or give the mothers any money. they may have several mates... sounds like every young mans dream to me HAHAHA.
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Family doesn't have to be blood. Family is a close group that sticks together and cares for each other.
i like that! okay.
Second, can you describe your family, family members, and how and why you are related to different people in the family (by marriage, for example).
Ok, for my crazy household......... My siggy says it all. I am a foster parent with one biological son named Keven (stage 4 non hodgkins survivor and 4 years in remission), one adopted son named tyler from my first marriage to a gal named Kristy. I went back to college after the divorce and met Kelly my current wife. We were friends for 2 years before we got serious then dated for 4. This cinco de mayo will make it 2 years married. We're expecting our first son together on July 17th. Also living with me are my foster daughters. Danielle, Autumn, Jennifer, Cheryl, Cassie Shanna. Those that have grown up and moved out are my daughter Ashley (Hodgkins survivor as of 3/2010), and grand daughter brooklynn who turned 2 this past christmas time.
My parents are Boyd and Meri. My mom and dad divorced when I was 5 and remarried to Donna and drew.. So I have two sets of parents Boyd + Donna, Meri + Drew. I have two step sibs Danielle (my slightly older army brat sister whos back in Iraq for her 3rd tour?!) and Damon who works for google and makes obscene bank. My biological sister Nichole is now a proud mommy of 3 and married a great guy from Paraguay and lives in Plano Tx. My father is retired from General Motors and owns several small businesses, my Step Mom Donna is retired from the County DHS, my mother Meri retired from the county CMH (and now has a pain management and full service rehabilitation center in texas) and my step father Drew has been a jack of all trades. Farmer, Barber, builder.
Now for grand parents...... My father boyd's parents are Boyd Sr. and Barbara craven. My grandpa and family moved up this a way to work for GM where he retired from. Before moving up here he was a sharecropper in southern alabama in a lil town called chocaloc (sp?), was a an armored vehicle commander in the korean war. Grandma ran the household. My dad has 1 living sister who is also a home maker (retired programmer) and my uncle who passed away from cancer. My mothers side is Bud and Donna Chapman. Grandpa retired from GM, grandma ran the home. they had 3 daughters, Linda, Pam and Meri (mommy). Aunt linda owns the one of the largest string of physical rehab clinics in Texas, Oklahoma, and northern California. (aunts house is awesomely fab btw) My aunt pam was an anesthesiologist for 20+ years and is now a partner in a plastic surgery center in houston. my mom I've already covered
Donna mom's parents.. I knew her mom Muriel for a short time. She lost her battle with cancer when I was younger, but I remember her cabbage stew was divine! My step father Drew's side I know his step dad and mom Lowell and betty. They are a hoot!!!! My grandpa there knows how to pinch a penny. He was a barber for 60 years and is finally retiring. Grandma ran the household
I do know that my grandpa Boyd (whom I'm named after him and my dad) had 11 other siblings. Only his younger brother Uncle Tommy is still with us. I remember my great grandpa (grandma chapmans dad) who taught me the bullfrog song when I was 4. It was to be the last time I saw him. He was feeling poorly and we got there before the ambulance. He sang that song with a michevious gleam in his eye while he was sitting on the couch and made sure I remembered the words. He grinned when I could recite it twice without help. He passed before the drivers got there surrounded by family. He died with a smile on his face and happiness in his heart.
My great grandpa (grandma craven's dad) also passed about the same year. I remembered he lived on a lake close to my moms house. I remember all the picnics as a kid we'd all go out there and the old VW microbus he refused to give up on. the ladies would cook up a storm in the kitchen, the men would BBQ, the radio was on an AM station and we were always hopeful that the Detroit tigers would see the word series (which they finally did in '84) and fish for carp. We didn't eat them but gramps would have us bury them in the garden when we caught them. Try fighting a 20lb fish on a cane pole with 5lb line. Pretty fun really, and even more fun when the guy trying to net the bugger in is hit with a ball of muck made out of clay/marrow and sand
And then I could get into all my cousins but I am not sure how much detail you want
wow, okay, that's a lot of reading HAHAHA immediate family is good, hahaha. the 3 generations, you daughters and grand daughter are perfect, otherwise my kinship chart i have to draw is going to be difficult hahahaha.
Third, ask about how the family operates. For example: When do people see one another? What happens when a baby is born? How and why do people change their expectations of family roles? You should try to elicit information about gender roles, life course, access to resources, and/or division of labor.
lol that question is straight from the hw assignment.
good for you for adopting!! by the way, it takes people with special hearts to do that! and for the Hodgkins surviors, congrats!! and my mom says congrats as well!!! she has a friend with lymphoma who doesn't really try to take care of himself. it's sad.
we think he just wants to die. it's sad. i dson't think he should give up that soon. i think he's going to city of hope soon.
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Ok, well my kids see me pretty much all the time to their horror, Ashley and the baby about once every couple of weeks now that they live an hour and a half away. Gender roles..... ok sorry, this is going to sound horrible.... Currently, all the women folks stay home and tend to the kids, cook, clean, and get pamered by their hubbys. The hubbys generally work at least 1-2 jobs and pitch in with whatever momma can't finish on her own. The guys usually have control of the checkbook, pay the bills etc. Not that any of us are doing this on purpose, its just how it's worked out. Coincidentally, I am the better cook. The kids beg me to cook when my wife wants to
My kids help split the chores in the household. Even outdoor gardening. Yesterday they were double digging a new 10x25 garden plot and will be helping me put plastic down tommorow to get some of my starts going in the ground.
When babies are born......... Hooooooooooboy. Expect 30+ family members to show up from across the continent. Same way with a major illness. I had a minor stroke in 2008. Mom flew home, and dad almost beat my wife to the hospital. Mom bounced back and forth when my son was sick to help out as much as she could. Now as far as why their expectations changed on family roles.... its pretty basic. Reality. In reality I should have been a chef, and the wife should have been a psychiatrist (which is what she's studied for 7 years) but both of us are content with her staying home and running the house. We get by and survive because our huge family sustains us in more ways than one.
Access to resources..... Hm...... College is there for any who wish it, and it is mandatory for my children, otherwise their life is made to be very hard and I'll often push them into fast food jobs by the age of 16 if they can't get the picture I'm trying to paint. After doing that for a couple of years and seeing how hard it is to maintain a stable steady income they are craving the school life again, and the prospect of being smarter than I am. I never graduated college. Division of labor..... I make the $$, they run the house. We all pitch in on chores and food production.
i didn't mean biologically, i meant like her mommy.. lol. do you get it? lol
wow you had a stroke? how was that experience?? my grandpa had one after his heart attack, but i don't talk to him much, i don't like him really, i know he's family, but he once tried naughty stuff, and i don't like him
wow it sounds like your family is unique! i've never met anyone with foster children. i think it's amazing! i'd love to adopt one day!
how old are are your children (not for homework, jsut my own curiosity)
