How did you get through a break up???

[MagsC]

Maybe it says something that my 17 year old isnt too broke up about it.
Sigh...but my mom, she had her sights on him as a son in law. Probably another reason we were together for the amount of time we were.
I told her tonight that I think she wanted him more as a son in law than me as a daughter.
Of course she denied it.

Opa,lol, that is exactly how I feel about my ex's!!!!
I am glad I posted this, deep breaths. Note to self. Healing is already happening even if I cant see it.

 

[shawnkfl]

don't worry about meeting someone else. work on YOU first. love yourself and be perfectly happy with it first. everything about you! when you're ready, just date and have fun with it. no ties, no strings. just fun. life is too short not to.

 

[MagsC]

That is absolutely right. I am not going to be in a big hurry to meet anyone else and think of this as a learning experience.

 

[Mahonri]

Stay busy.

It's going to hurt for quite some time, especially if you loved him.

Find things to do for your children, your parents and other loved ones. They know you are hurting, it will be good to spend time with those who love you, no matter what.

Sorry you are going through this.

I had a break up once as a young single adult.

Looking back on it now, it was the very best thing that could have ever happened to me.

Hindsight is always 20/20.

Obviously there was something that wasn't working in the relationship.

Hang in there, there are lots of folks that care for you.

 

[Gonzo]

My first husband and I were together for 16 years, and when we divorced, I poured myself into our daughter and work. It was the only way I got through it. Good Luck!

 

[MagsC]

Thank you!

It was a mutual decision, more mine that his.
More weekends away from here and up at the family place where there arent so many memories of him.
Though this weekend I am stuck, hence the chick flix marathon...

 

[WriterofWords]

Ok, I'm not one for great relationship advice but this is how I handle it myself: Once I close the door behind them, I close the door permanently. I don't look back, I don't usually cry, I look forward to what I'm going to do that I never had the time to do or he never had the time to do with me. Get comfortable with yourself, get to know yourself before you do anything else because you haven't been the person you were for a long time. As much as we like to say we don't change for others, we always do and just don't always see it. When I divorced Steven's dad I decided to find me again, and once I did I remembered how much I enjoy my own company. I went hiking, camping, shooting, riding, just got in my truck and went wherever I wanted to whenever I wanted to. Steven was young and I could just pack him and go. You have a 17 yr old you can invest a lot of time in now, and now is the time to do it because they will be on their own soon. Look at it as a blessing in disguise that means you have all the time you need with your child now. Remember the good times, but don't get bogged down in them, look ahead, not back and go for it!!!

 

[easttxchick]

You have to allow yourself time to grieve-you're entitled to it. Time truly is the only thing that heals loss(or a 6 ft. 2 incredibly handsome cowboy type coming along and sweeping you off your feet!).
It will get better, just don't try to rush it.
Then when you feel better, come on down here to Texas(once it warms up) and we can hang out by my pool and go sit and watch chicken TV!
PM me if you need to, more than willing to talk or just listen.

 

[M To The Maxx]

 

[rhoda_bruce]

Well I did everything wrong. I cried and cried and prayed to get him back and begged and made a fool out of myself for a long time.......then one day I stopped the foolishness, even though I was still praying to get him back. I did that a while and then I changed my prayer......it went something like: "Okay, I can't have him......he is not mine and its over. I accept that. All I ask is that he doesn't die in sin and that he find a really good woman and falls in love with her...one that will take the best care of him possible. And I already know I WILL be jealous, but I can handle it. Just take care of him. I will get on with my life." That was a major turning point in my life. I could continue until we say,"Happily ever after," but thats not the point. The point is how I got past the pain and was able to take care of myself through the break-up.
BTW......my birthday happens to be on Feb 11th.....he broke up with me Feb 9th, so I missed my birthday and St. Valentine's Day presents.