How did you get through a break up???

[bawkbawkbawk]

Such good advice from so many people! Many of them echo what I would tell you: do your best not to become bitter. I've seen people who've made that anger an obsession that takes over their lives.

And think of all the things you can do now without him - weren't there times when he drove you nuts? Surely the guy had some nasty quirks that you're grateful to be done with?

 

[MagsC]

No, I refuse to become bitter about this whole thing, I actually think we can do this and be civil to each other.
LOL, bawkbawkbawk, oh yes, there were definitely things that drove me to insanity!! But none of those were the reason for break up, I can accept someone, warts and all.
It was a lot of little things that finally made everything topple.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Here is Doctor IHWIMY's treatment plan for a broken heart: (works best for women but some men benefit too)

Get the makings of a sundae of your dreams. Rent Steel Magnolias and then a video of your favorite comedian of funny movie (no romances)

Watch Steel Magnolias, cry, eat ice cream, blow your nose, try not to get boogies in your ice cream, wipe your eyes, wash your face and put in the next movie. Amazingly enough this really does help. It is self -indulgent and lets you get that pain out. And then remember that life really is pretty absurd.




Alternate Plan for those obsessive moments when you want more than anything to call him and try to get him back:

Get a bucket of hot water and cleaner and a scrub brush - go scrub your kitchen or bathroom floor on your hands and knees. No mops allowed. Remember to wipe up the tears, when you are finished the urge will probably have passed, you will be tired enough to sleep and you'll have a clean floor. A positive tri-fecta!


Broken hearts become either scarred or stronger in the broken places. Work on stronger. Good luck.


(Oh yeah, hang out with chickens, does wonders!)

 

[MagsC]

Absolutely a GREAT remedy!!!! My daughter is going to wonder whats going on because I got a ton of ice cream and chocolate for the weekend.
She has yet to suffer a broken heart. I pity and envy her by turns!
And the chickens are a good treatment plan too. Right now I have four eggs pipping but no one is out yet.
I have never seen Steel Magnolias??????

 

[bigstack]

Just a quick note from a guy.

So Sorry!!!!!

but
You need to go out. Don't stay in and suffer too long. You do need to have some time to morn so to speak. But you need to get back out there asap. Trust me, If you found 1 guy who treated you right. You will find another. But, DO NOT SETTLE!!!! You know what you want in a guy. You deserve to get what you want! Stick to your guns and Go For It! There are still Good guys out there! You just have to look more. SO..... Take some time. Do some soul searching. Figure out what qualities you want in a man. List them in order of importance. Take a long hot soak in a bath with a poultrey catalog. Try to forget the past and prepare for the new Adventure. and GET OUT THERE!!!
Make sure he treats you right, NO excuses! There are to many men out there to stay with one who isn't worthy of you! A woman is the most precious thing on the planet. He should treat you that way! If not he's gotta go!

Good luck and God Bless!

P.s. Don't try to change him tooooo much. We really resent that.

 

[MagsC]

Good advice!

And yep, I am not going to completely isolate myself after this weekend, just want to get it out of my system as much as I can, then pick myself up, dust myself off and keep going.
And,lol, you have me a good idea for another post!!!

 

[rainplace]

I did horror movies, the sort where I had to peek between my fingers in order to get through the gory bits. I did isolate myself (something I am good at) and didn't mind it all. It was sorta nice after being around someone else so much. Ice-cream and snack foods are great too.

WoW gave great advice also... do those things you wanted to do but didn't because he was part of your life. Enjoy yourself, remember who you were...

 

[MagsC]

This only happened yesterday and I already am finding out how "ME" was lost in the relationship and I dont know as much as I thought I did about myself anymore.

 

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

The music of Liz Phair.

ps, how YOU doin'?

 

[MagsC]

LOL, hey, my kids and I say that all of the time, only different ways

(HOW are you DOING? and so on. Yep, we're weird

) My youngest son says it in Chinese.