How did you get through a break up???

[WriterofWords]

Mags it's too soon, all he's figured out is it's hard out there alone especially when he wants "company". If you feel the need to, just date him, don't move back in, don't pick up where you left off, and most of all, NO YOU DON'T NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET. You need to stand your ground until you know he's figured out you aren't going to accept that treatment anymore. If it's been going on for years, a couple of weeks won't change squat and more than likely it will go right back to the way it was. Only you know your true feelings and whether or not you are willing and able to accept being treated like a doormat. Treat yourself with respect, or he won't either, if you cave in this fast, he knows he's got you in the palm of his hand or under the sole of his boot.

Live with yourself awhile first before you try and live with him again.

 

[MagsC]

Sigh. You are right.

I also didnt realize how much energy this drained out of me until I wasnt talking to him. I felt lighter somehow.

 

[debilorrah]

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That right there should tell you a lot.

 

[WriterofWords]

Give it a lot of thought hun,,, don't jump back in. We are here for you!!

 

[elijahboy]

even though its been days you put him in the past for a reason

people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you

hes been like this for how long? think about that do you think its going to change really

 

[MagsC]

Change? It hurts my heart to say it, but likely not.

 

[highcountrychickens]

MagsC,

Your poor heart... I'm so sorry

First, I will say this: Don't lose yourself... use it as an opportunity to re-establish who you are at your very core, and while you carry your heart through it - be honest with it, and question things with absolute truth. What I mean is, if he brings things back around to you - be sure you really consider the very true depth of character in him, and whether that may or may not eventually be worth the sort of thing you're going through. I don't know anything about the circumstance, your relationship, or either of you, but these are important things to consider when looking down the long road of a relationship.

With that on one side, also read this... I found it quite unexpected, and VERY profound

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/02/fashion/02love.html?_r=1

best of luck to you

 

[sfw2]

Mags, keep in mind that we all like you, independent of him. So you must be worth liking for yourself, right? And if all of us like you (and you know what impeccable taste BYCers have), then you should like you, too. Independent of him.

Not sure I explained that very well, but I hope you get the gist.

 

[redhen]

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I think thats telling you that you may really be done with this guy... Thats how i felt. It was a good feeling after it was all done and over.. a relief , really.

 

[MagsC]

Well, its good to know I am on the right track. Its confusing sometimes.

But lessening of tension is amazing.