How do I handle this

[AmberT]

My aunt has 5 chickens 4 female one male a year ago I got 6 chickens and they live on my aunt and uncles property. After my uncle passed my aunt does nothing with her chickens I do everything from feeding them to cleaning their coop on top of taking care of my own. Recently she has now started to complain about my chicken run being shaded claiming they need light all the time I saw online and asked a few people they cant have light 24/7. she is not a chicken expert never read any information on chickens and tells me she only got the chickens because my uncle was alive to take care of them and she rather have them get killed by a hawk. I have plywood as a skirt around the chicken run to protect them from critters and my aunt says it looks like crap I told her its to protect them from the critters they are in a fenced in yard but not all fences are secured but she doesnt believe me. I have no place to put them and also I paid for them not her what should I say to her to make her understand my point of view. Also I have had the plywood around the coop since June and its now September and she is complaining about it now.

 

[Barbours]

My aunt has 5 chickens 4 female one male a year ago I got 6 chickens and they live on my aunt and uncles property. After my uncle passed my aunt does nothing with her chickens I do everything from feeding them to cleaning their coop on top of taking care of my own. Recently she has now started to complain about my chicken run being shaded claiming they need light all the time I saw online and asked a few people they cant have light 24/7. she is not a chicken expert never read any information on chickens and tells me she only got the chickens because my uncle was alive to take care of them and she rather have them get killed by a hawk. I have plywood as a skirt around the chicken run to protect them from critters and my aunt says it looks like crap I told her its to protect them from the critters they are in a fenced in yard but not all fences are secured but she doesnt believe me. I have no place to put them and also I paid for them not her what should I say to her to make her understand my point of view. Also I have had the plywood around the coop since June and its now September and she is complaining about it now.

Then give 'em away to someone else or sell 'em. Technically their yours and she don't what than any how.

 

[AmberT]

Then give 'em away to someone else or sell 'em. Technically their yours and she don't what than any how.

Oh I dont want to get rid of them my uncle is the one that let me have them my aunt doesnt take care of any animals it was all my uncle doing doing it. I pay for my feed and she pays for hers because I wont pay for them she needs to learn to be responsible sadly she has two cats and now a puppy.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Sounds like she does not want chickens on her property. Or at least she does not want the plywood. You cannot change her mind. That puppy is going to grow into a dog and could become a problem. My advice is to at least figure out a way to get rid of the plywood since she does not like it. Can you afford hardware cloth to lay in its place and cover it with rocks or gravel? It would keep your birds safe and look a lot better.

 

[The Moonshiner]

Then give 'em away to someone else or sell 'em. Technically their yours and she don't what than any how.

 

[Barbours]

Oh I dont want to get rid of them my uncle is the one that let me have them my aunt doesnt take care of any animals it was all my uncle doing doing it. I pay for my feed and she pays for hers because I wont pay for them she needs to learn to be responsible sadly she has two cats and now a puppy.

Ohhhhhhh, okay, I get it now. Then I don't really know. If she has her mind set then I don't really know what you can do

 

[Loving my girls]

Sounds like you’re in a horrid place mentally at the moment. So big hug
Do you think it’s possible you aunt sees the hens as your uncles or a reminder of your uncle ? Perhaps she finds it hard having them around ? It may explain her venomous words.
Perhaps you could try to enrich her life, she sounds very unhappy. Maybe ask her to give them something nice to eat ? Try to get her to see the plus side of them ?
If it’s not possible is there somewhere else you can move them to ? Further away in the garden ? In someone else’s garden for the trade of some eggs ?
Don’t be sad you will get through this. No one (well, not many anyway) is horrid just for the sake of being horrid, I’m sure that she has a reason buried deep inside.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Honey, your aunt just lost her husband. Had he been sick for a while? It can be exhausting caring for a dying person. Believe me, I know. The last thing she may want to do now is take care of chickens. After my husband died someone wanted to give me a plant and I did not want it, I didn't want to have to take care of anything, I was just fried. Do your best to be supportive and compassionate, do whatever you have to do to cooperate with her to make her willing to let you keep your chickens on her property. Otherwise you may lose that privilege and then what will you do?

 

[Loving my girls]

Honey, your aunt just lost her husband. Had he been sick for a while? It can be exhausting caring for a dying person. Believe me, I know. The last thing she may want to do now is take care of chickens. After my husband died someone wanted to give me a plant and I did not want it, I didn't want to have to take care of anything, I was just fried. Do your best to be supportive and compassionate, do whatever you have to do to cooperate with her to make her willing to let you keep your chickens on her property. Otherwise you may lose that privilege and then what will you do?

 

[AmberT]

Honey, your aunt just lost her husband. Had he been sick for a while? It can be exhausting caring for a dying person. Believe me, I know. The last thing she may want to do now is take care of chickens. After my husband died someone wanted to give me a plant and I did not want it, I didn't want to have to take care of anything, I was just fried. Do your best to be supportive and compassionate, do whatever you have to do to cooperate with her to make her willing to let you keep your chickens on her property. Otherwise you may lose that privilege and then what will you do?

My uncle had stage 4 lung cancer she never really took care of him I took care of him for the 10 months that he had left in his life. I made him meals spent all my time with him she did nothing, she would rather go shopping than to stay at home with him. So I would take care of him and all the chickens. Before he got sick me and him would take care of the chickens together my aunt did nothing with the chickens even when he was alive. I live in an apartment so I dont think the landlord would let me have them on the property. When my uncle was dying he asked me to keep taking care of the chickens until they all died. right now they are alive and happy, she just doesnt want to responsible for them anymore