How to apologise to an In-law?

[Mattemma]

I would just apologise and move on.Also, I would move out of HER home.Rarely ever seems to work out when you live in someone elses home.Family are worse than non-related landlords.Seems a bit nosey on her part to be coming into the home for *cleaning*.Landlord usually don't clean the homes they rent out.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Ok so you apologized for forgetting when she was coming, that was good. Did she offer up an apology of her own for the way she spoke to your hubby. I was also wondering why she was coming to clean the basement in the house you live in? You need to either clarify with each other the landlord/tenant relationship or just move out.

 

[Reurra]

The house I live in used to belong to my MIL aunt. When she passed away my MIL inherited the house and said we could move there. Everything in the basement was left over stuff from her aunt. She wanted to go through it last year but did not have the time. So she wanted to do it this spring. Thats why she was down there. We dont use the basement, its creepy and cold and uses a trap door to access it. My MIL wanted to sort through things on her own so she could decide what she wanted tossed out and what she decided to keep.

Yes she said she was sorry to me for the trouble but she and my husband are so alike. they wont budge, at least for now, on who was right and who was wrong. That is now up to them. I mended things between my MIL and myself and she is happy and I am happy. Sadly though because both are stubborn, they will need to come to some sort of agreement. Im very supportive of my husband but also I understand her and her feelings so I am not going to get into the middle. I told my husband I was sorry for the trouble but he assured me that this is something that happens every so often with he and his mom and its nothing to worry about. Both have mentioned that it will blow over. Apparently they get into a tiff every few years. Ive been married to my husband for almost 4 years and this is the first time Ive seen them argue.

 

[sourland]

Well done on your part. I understand the bit about stubborn people. I never saw my father and his father talk - as a matter of fact I never saw the two of them together. All over a misunderstanding - what a loss to both of them. Being put in the middle is not fair to you. It's really hard trying to keep the rest of the world happy.