I think the breed and breeding lines can play a big part of it. My silkies are mainly food motivated and don’t seek attention like my bantam Ameraucanas, but once the silkies crest grow in you can easily pick them up and hold them.
we start out sitting on the floor next to the brooder and just lay our hand in there with chick crumble on it. After a little while they will sit on our laps and let us stroke their chest. I’ve taught my daughter not to grab at them especially from above this spooks them. We always sit on their level and let them to come to us in their own time. Once older we can walk right up to the roost and stroke their belly and chick.
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