There is so much more to the story, but I don't have time to write a book! I have a history with my SIL, she hates me, because my DH told her to mind her own business one time, and we have been at odds since, a long story, but it was a build up of stuff before he finally blew. She has since then dictated how i will see my nephews ever since. I on the other hand bend over backwards to see them, I do what ever it takes to have a relationship with them, and this is my last straw so to speak. We live across the street from each other, my brother takes what ever she dishes out just to survive, she wants a divorce. That being said 2 weeks ago my son(9) and her son(6) were on the front porch at my house and my son peed off the front porch and then her kid did too. I do not condone that behavior, but I also know boys will be boys. My DH seen her kid do it but not mine, and told him You can't do that, he said my son did it first, and of course my son denied it! So my husband believed him, because he has never not been truthful to him before, me yes, but not daddy. so my husband told my nephew you better watch how you tattle on my son, because you know your mom will not let you play here. He has said untruthful stuff to his mom before, he is only 6, and eveyr one knows how that is, and she has not let him over because of it. So a week goes by and my brother has called and asked if my son will come over and play, and my son didn't want to go,( later found out he was afraid to go) so I asked if he my nephew could come here and was told no.I asked why and he said he really wasn't sure. So I find out through the grapevine she wants my kid to say he is sorry to her kid, I'm not sure why, but I tell my son your aunt wants you to say sorry to the nephew, and I think it is because you made him look like a liar. So before all of this my son got in trouble one, for doing what he did, and 2 for lying about it. So in his 9 year old eyes he felt that was enough. I asked him to go over there and say he was sorry, not in front of every one, but in private because my neighbor and her kids were there and my son was going to spend the night at the neighbors and that is where she was picking him up! So before my son could leave, she said in front of everyone you owe my son an apology, so my boy, went into a back room and told my nephew he was sorry. What he didn't tell me at first, was that she said this in front of every one and that she gave him a mean look that made his tummy hurt, as he put it! But he did say he was sorry. While he was leaving his friend asked what was that about, and my son said I don't fricken know why I had to apologize , she is just being a witch(with a b) and i'm never coming here again. Well she over heard him say that. Again, I don't condone this kind of thing, but seeing as my son did, here she was making him feel humiliated in front of everyone, and I think he was just trying to save face in front of his friend. Just being honest about his feelings, she wasn't supposed to hear that. So now she want to make my son say he is sorry again then my nephew can come over here, but my son is only aloud to play there. I know it is because she want to be able to make him say he is sorry again. Well we feel she is just trying to control the situation, and that if my son didn't want to say he was sorry in the first place he would not have went over there, knowing he had to do it! I let this woman control me I will not let her make my son feel, like she makes me feel. I keep my mouth shut because if I say anything I won't be aloud to see my nephews. But I'm' tired of bending over for her so my brother can have it easier, cause she will take this out on him. I think my son's apology was enough. What would you do? There is so much more, but I won't bore you with the details. My nephew sits in his drive way just watching us, and it is killing me, but if we make my son do this apology again, where will this leave his self esteem, and when is enough a enough, because next week we will be summoned over her house to hear what bad thing my son is teaching her kid! So what would you do? Oh and my kid got it for saying that under his breath to his friend. At the same time I remember doing that as a kid when I got yelled at by my parents, or who ever, I just made sure no one heard me! She really likes to make me feel inferior to her, she is good at it. I know if I was to pull this she would tell me to go stuff myself, and not have any feelings about it! My brother sent a pic of my nephew seating and watching us to her, and she said "oh well i don't care, he will get used to it" I think that is sadistic! My nephew doesn't even have a clue why any of this is going on he just want to come and play with his cousin! Please what would you do?