Hubby is not doing well. long post

[Alleyoops25]

I also forgot to ask the doctor something that has me confused, and its been bothering me all evening. So any people that have medical back grounds, or have been on blood thinners might be able to clarify this to me a little while I am waiting to pick the doctors mind. Since my DH is on blood thinners how did he have a stroke? Shouldnt the blood thinners have dissolved these blood clots? This has been buggung me, so any thoughts would be great, thanks.

 

[hoosierhen]

Hi Alleyoops, I can't get you and you DH out of my mind. Every time I wake up I check for an update. I'm sorry to hear that he hasn't improved yet, and that he has had a stroke.
I am a nurse, but not an acute care nurse, so I don't deal with a lot of emergency medical situations-someone else can probably enlighten you a lot more than I can, but here is what I know about using blood thinners.
Whenever you use blood thinners, you increase the risk of bleeding. If a person has any type of assault to their tissue, they will bruise or bleed easily. I would imagine that he is on a rather high dosage, since they are trying to disolve his clots, and also trying to prevent them from getting lager and preventing any new clot formation. When you use high doses, it can cause the blood to seep. Also, because you are preventing clot formation, any bleed will be worse, because the clotting time is increased. So if you take them off of blood thinners, it takes a while before the body can produce a clot to stop a bleed. That is probably why they are talking about shunt placement- rather than being able to stop the bleeding right away, a shunt will move the blood to another area, and reduce the pressure on surrounding tissues, in the brain, minimizing damage to the tissues. Since he is there in the hospital, and they can do this in a timely manner, it should decrease the amount of damage that the stroke caused.
I am keeping you im my thoughts and prayers. I hope things get better for your DH soon. I will give my DH a hug as you have suggested. He and I don't always get along the best, but, I would sure hate to lose him! He has had multiple health problems over the past several years, and a couple of major surgeries. During the last one, I thought he was going to die. If it wasn't for my pastor and friends from the church praying for him, I don'think he (or I) would have made it. God has a perfect plan for each of us. We may not understand what it is, but we must have faith that He is God, and knows best. I think that someone on BYC has a quote that says something like this: "If God brings you to it, He will see you through it." He is with you Alleyoops, just lean on him! He will see you through this. Take care.
Mary

 

[Alleyoops25]

OKay I spent some time trying to PM you all some little notes. However if you did not get one I am sorry, I am having treouble keeping one thought, I may be developing ADD, who knows. Anyway I I didnt get you one sent I am sorry and please forgive me. Thanks

 

[lurky]

I wish i could drain every bit of strength from myself right now and give it to you.
I have been following this from the start and praying for a happy ending. My heart goes
out to you and your family.

 

[jjthink]

You, Davy, your FIL and the kids have been in my thoughts over and over each day. I am really sorry things are not yet improving. My x-dh had a stroke while on blood thinners after open heart surgery to replace his aortic valve. He couldn't speak or use his arm BUT he did heal, and he was quite a bit older than Davy. I fervently hope this will be the case for Davy. Your post brought tears to my eyes - know that many good thoughts and energy are with you.. You are wise beyond your young years. I have to go right now but will be back to check in on you. JJ

 

[hencackle]

I wish I could be there with you and hold your hand.

I'm so sorry Davy, you and your family has gone through this ordeal.

 

[tiffanyh]

Stay strong.

 

[horsewishr]

Oh, Alley,

. I'm so relieved to hear that Davy is still with you. I wish the circumstances were better. Remember that Davy is YOUNG, and strong. And I can guarantee that he's strongly motivated to fight for himself. He has a wonderful family.

I'm an RN, too. I don't claim to have all the answers, but feel free to email me if you have questions (I'll be at work this evening, though). punyrosa at charter dot net. And don't be afraid to ask the docs and nurses questions at the hospital. It's their job to be there for YOU and DAVY.

Michelle

 

[bamagirl68]

Alley, I think of you so many times each day. Even my DH is asking about Davy and that is unusual. Ya'll are being lifted up in so many, many prayers. This is heartwrenching for us all because you are one of "us". Please continue with the updates when you have time. We are here and willing to listen to whatever you feel you need to talk about. And don't worry about anything but Davy and your family right now. May God be with you.

 

[cockadoodlemom]

Alleyoops, I am so sorry to hear that Davy had a stroke and the other troubles you have had also. I check in on here a lot to see how yall are and my dd has been checking too. Davy, you, and your family are on my mind constantly and I keep asking God to be with yall. My husband and I have been married 16 years and we do exactly has you were talking about. I Love You and a kiss just to go pick up kids and be back in 20 min but each one is cherrished. Stay strong and keep your faith in God as hard as it may be. I wish I was there to hug you, hold your hand, and pray with you. I will continue to pray and keep yall in my thoughts.

Look to the clouds and see if God sends an Angel your way. Some think I'm crazy but others believe and are amazed. When we nearly lost my mom we were by her bed all night and looking out the window God showed me Angels that were similar to this one. Don't know why but I just wanted to share that with ya.