Hubby is not doing well. long post

[horsejody]

Don't lose hope.
Jody

 

[arwmommy]

Alley

I pray that whatever today and tomorrow brings, that you will be able to find the strength to get through it. Recovery is a long hard road, and so is a funeral. Your children love you and need to see you express your emotions, as well as to know that you guys will get through it.......it seems impossible, but you WILL get through this.

Your life is different now, whether Davey lives or dies.... you are forever changed by this. Create your new life, drawing on the love that you and Davey have for each other, and for your children.

You are in our prayers....

 

[sunnychooks]

We're all sending our love and our prayers to you and your family. Stay strong and remember we're all here for you.

 

[GAhen]

Alley,
I know you are so angry right now.
I am so sorry this is happening to you.
But, you can do it, you can bear up under it.
You have your family and children.
You can make it I know you can.
Please Alley, take it minute by minute.
Pray for strength and know that God will not give you more than you can handle.
I can not explain why I know this right now....but I know it is true......
I pray for you and Davy and your family!
Tammie

 

[jkcove08]

I am so sorry thing are not getting better yet!!! I realize it is just overwhelming and it will get better!! You are a very strong person and you have 3 wonderful children to show for it. Man I wish I could just fly there right now to be there to help you through it!!! Please remember if you need to talk call me!!!! I have been through this with so many families when I worked at a hospital I know how frustraiting it can be and so hard to understand. You are in my thoughts and prayers constantly!!!! Hang in there and keep your chin up. One day at a time!!! Jenn

 

[ilovemychickies]

I am so sorry Alley. No matter how hard it is, don't loose hope. I'm praying for you, Davy, and your kids. Your not in this alone!

 

[megshenhut]

Still praying for you and your family. This too shall pass, whatever the outcome, God does loves you and your family and He will be there for you, He is there as are we to listen to all your outpourings.

 

[Farmer Kitty]

Alley,

I'm so sorry to hear about Davy's strokes. I pray that they can get them to end now.

I know your going through a hard time and doubting everything in life right now. That's normal. You keep talking about if Davy doesn't make it-don't look ahead. Take it one day or hour or minute at a time. It will make things less stressful to you. Worrying about what might happen doesn't get you anywhere but sick. If Davy should pass please remember your children need you. You are strong. It is hard at times to remember that but, you are. You can get through this time and move on. I pray it is with Davy. Vent to us all you need but, please as others have suggested, go somewhere private and let it out. Whether it be screaming, crying, or a combination let it go physically (but safely). You will not only feel better for letting it out but, you will be able to think about the now easier and not worry about the later continuously.

Just a little smiley for you:

 

[chicknmania]

WELL, I have to tell you...that we went through a VERY SIMILAR experience a few years back. Same thing basically, except my husband started acting wacky, (we thought he was on drugs)...couldn't breathe, finally went to the hospital in the squad when we found him shivering on the couch, totally out of it. When he got there he actually quit breathing and they ended up doing a tracheotomy, because they said he wasn't getting enough oxygen...this was just before Christmas too and they called us when we were out Christmas shopping and told us we'd better come to the hospital, that they didn't think he'd live, and on and on...a nightmare that lasted about two months. They diagnosed HIM with sleep apnea and pneumonia...the wackiness was caused by his brain not having a high enough oxygen level. He was in intensive care forever and we spent the holidays without him, except, of course going to visit him in the hospital. But, enough about my nightmare....you have your own...the bottom line was...he did get better. He was in the hospital all that time and then in rehab for another three or four weeks...came home on oxygen. After battlimg with an assortment of doctors who were, for the most part, a hassle to deal with, (and that's putting it politely)...we found a marvelous cardio/ pulmonary and sleep specialist who decided my husband had no permanent lung damage, and did not need a trach, and probably did not need oxygen. He was right. Today he breathes on his own and (Thank God!!!) we got rid of all that hidious oxygen equipment. He still has some health problems that are not related, but basically he is ok and we are happy to still have him with us. SOOOO, your husband can get better too. I think the key is to finding that really good doctor who isn't out to pad his pockets (and I'm not saying they all are, there are a lot of decent, ethical, good doctors out there, but certainly some are, I can testify to that!!!!) My word, I could tell stories for days..... I haven't read all the posts in here yet, cause I'm going to run out of time in a minute, but I will try to and I just wanted to let you know I can relate to what you're going through. Keep your chin up. I can tell you that I was very greatful to have the support of my friends and family. Keep us posted.

 

[Alleyoops25]

Well I have bn kicked out by my FIL. The doctor came and pretty much told us the sam thing. He looked at my hand and told me it was tim for th cast. He had m come ovr to his offic to have it done, which is right acrossed the street. I didnt want to leav and told the doctor that bones have heald without a cast before, and that I wasnt in a place that I could leav Davy. Betwern my FIL, the doctor, and a nurse they twisted my arm into going. I was not happy about his at all. But he did make m go over before he opened up shop. So I didnt have to wait. He checked my blood pressure and rest of my vitals. He told me that he thought I should go get some anti- anxiety pills because I was to stressd. I was sacrassed with him and said, " well ya, I am here acrossed th stret and not in that room.. Of coarse I am stressed." I guess the nurses cuaght on to me being sick, and told the doctor. I asked him if he thought I would be any better half sedated., I told him that I was on some many different prescriptions already, that if I kept taking them I would at best be totally sedatated if not anothe Heath Ledger. He askd m what I was taking and then he stopped pushing so hard, ( for that second), I changed th subject to focus it all on my hand. I told him that last night I had totally forgotten about my hand for a whole scond and reachd out to pusha door open and it has been hurting mor ver since. He felt around and then tried what I thought killing me himself. I guess one of th bones had slipped away from the othr and was jamming up my hand. So he squeezed it back in place. Then befor it started swelling he got to work with the cast. but while we were waiting for it to dry he startd in on me again. he told me that if I kept on going at this rate he would end up treating me from a bed aswell. He got really irratating, And I finally told him that he neded to be focusing all this enrgy on my husband, instead of trying to push pills. I already have a doctor who is quite capable of adding to my prescropitions. And to finalize it I told him that I didnt even have enough money to pay for another bottle of pills. After that he said alright fair enough. But he said he has noticd a huge change in me since he last saw me. He then told me that he knew I didnt fully trust in him, and didnt blame me after the last Doctor, the state of my husbands health, and the fact that he knows h really hasnt proved himself. I just let it all go by and listend to him. He told me that this is by far the worst case he has ever had to work , and he spent his weekend talking to.......... Umm I forgot the exact name. But it is who ever deals with mal practice, and actually can take the docotrs right to practice away. He said that if Davy had ben treated that first night he wouldnt be in the boat he is in. I asked him flat out if I should start making funeral arrangments, and face the facts that I lost the most loved person in my life. He said that he wasnt giving up, if he did he would have unplugged him, and that if it were any other case he probably would have done that after last night. He said that he didnt because he couldnt bring himself around to giving up, but he would have to if we give up. And then he asked me if I was ready to throw in the towel. I told him that I couldnt do that, and I was scarred to dath that I was going to have to. He promised me that at this point in time, and as long as he could he wouldnt ask me to. By that point in time the cast was done. And I really wanted to go back to thew hospital so I endd it by saying that if he wr telling me th truth then he better lt me get back to the hospital. I went to write him a check and he said he would tack it on to our bill, and that he would be around checking on us. I thanked him, and left. Now I am back over here. My FIL went to get him self a shower. The kids and my MIL are supposed to come back with him. So I better get off of here and try to enjoy being alone with Davy while I still have the chance. I have a feeling I wont get to do that much more even if he does live since the whole family is coming. I dont want you all sending any donations. Take that money and use it on your mates Valentines. Aside from that I opted out on having him on the guest registery, since everyone that I want involved in this already knows, and then some. I appericiate the thoughts and prayers. That means more to me than more than anything you could ever send in th mail. Anyway I have got to get going.


By the way my typing may get even worse, I am still not good with the on handed thing, and even though it hurt I tried typing with both, and I know the cast may have hit a few extra keys.