Hubby is not doing well. long post

[Patchofheaven]

We are praying for you and Davy. You are strong and you will get through this. You are so lucky that you have your family there with you and a good hospital taking care of your husband. I'm the just like you, I wouldn't leave my husband's side if he was going through this either. Keep your chin up, you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Dana

 

[BirdBrain]

Alley, I didn't have access to the computer last night (DH brought work home) and I couldn't wait to get on this morning and find out what happened with ya'll. You have been in my prayers all yesterday and this morning. I am so glad you arrived safely to the hospital. I hope that he has improved since your last post, or at least stabilized.

You are right, your husband is in the hands of the doctors and nurses, but he is also in God's hands and that is even better. I wish I could tell you it will be all better and that this is just a nightmare, but since we don't know that, it is useless to say. Definitely stay with him if at all possible, but (this probably sounds morbid and if so, I am sorry) if for some reason things don't work out as we hope and he passes on, there is nothing more you can do for him and your kids will need you immediately and you will need to be as strong as possible for them. Try to get some sleep. You desperately need it.

Again, there are a bunch of us holding you up in prayer!!

 

[jjthink]

Hi. Here. Thinking of you. Hang in there. So glad you're in the hospital so he can get the oxygen he needs till they can sort through this.

I hear you re: the ventilator - so very sorry about that part. I imagine they'll keep him sedated a lot of the time so he doesn't have to deal with that discomfort.

Re: the blood thinners - try not to worry about this part. Gazillions of people are on them and do just fine. The bruising right now - he is probably on very high doses just for the time being. My 75 year old mom had this situation last winter and was a cacophony of blue, purple, yellow, black bruises from head to toe - broke my heart to see her that way because I knew it alarmed her and I also hated to see the abuse her body was taking. But she got through it and she has no bruises now - the body's ability to heal is truly amazing. And she was in really really REALLY dire shape.

Sleep - hope you can get some soon. Thank goodness you and Davy have the support of others. I was really hoping for you on this point. My dad and I hardly got any rest when my mom was in hospital last winter for 3 months and this did make it hard to think clearly on her behalf. It was complicated - I lived an hour+ away from the hospital and had the animals that needed to be fed/medicated daily somehow. And my folks have my disabled brother living with them and so dad or I would race over there to bring him food. Dad has bad hearing so whenever I would leave the hospital for a bit there would be nobody there who would hear correctly if a doc stopped in - it was a total mess. And my other brother didn't bother to show up - it would have made all the difference if he had because then we wouldn't have had the gaps in coverage. There were many doc/hospital errors and it is actually a miracle that my mom made it anyway. Long story short, since it sounds like you've got other good eyes and ears on the way, hopefully you can get some rest. It will make all the difference. I only share a little of my story to tell you that I really feel your situation right now. Make sure you also eat and drink. Your body needs extra fuel to do its job right now. This is not self indulgent - it's for Davy.

Hopefully the clots can be dealt with and then the improvement will be dramatic soon after.

Please do not be thinking about life on your own - you will survive just fine if you need to - many of us do - instead, try to focus your thinking and your energy on a good outcome. Keep visualizing the outcome you pray for. There is power in that. It's hard, I know. I found myself straying to worries about my dad without my mom, how she deserved to be well and have fun now after a very hard life taking care of my disabled brother, and how empty life would feel without her, etc etc. - it's understandable and I imagine we all do it - yet I knew it was not good to put my energy there.

So glad you are able to write from the hospital - stay in touch and keep us posted. Sending good wishes and energy your way. Hope you are sleeping as I type this!!
JJ

 

[hsm5grls]

My prayers are with you. everything i was going to sat has already been said so just stay positive ans take care of yourself. I am thinking of you and your DH, praying for a fast and full recovery.
Tracy

 

[GAhen]

Your dh is in my prayers,
Now that he is being ventilated, they can sedate him and decrease the work load of his heart.
Some of the meds they give will make him forget all the bad stuff that he might be feeling right now.
Now that he is on the blood thinner they will be checking his Pt and PTT ( clotting factors) frequently to make sure his blood is as thin as they want it to be.
Is this a pulmonary embolism??? Thats what is sounds like to me??
They will be cheaking blood gases and adjusting the Ventolator to give him the best care possible.
It is all out of your hands now.
Just let him know you are there, tell him the kids are fine and tell him we are praying for him and let him relax and recover.
Best wishes and prayers are with you........

 

[Farmer Kitty]

I'm relieved to hear you made it to Junction! I'm sorry he is on the ventilator though.

I understand your not wanting to leave his side at this point, I wouldn't either if I were in your situation. Just please remember to take care of yourself, for Davy and the kids. Sleep in the recliner if you don't want to leave and remember your meds. Stay strong!

Prayers and hugs are being sent your way.

 

[chickflick]

My prayers are with you! I'm so sorry you and hubby are going thru this. He's young and strong and alot to live for. Be strong and know that you have lots of people praying for Davy.

 

[cockadoodlemom]

Praying for Davy, you, your children and your family. Wish there was more I could do to help you.

 

[texaschickmama]

Wow, I'm so glad that you got him to a good hospital. I hope that he stays strong and pulls through. I'm glad you have family there for you. You have to stay strong for your kiddos. I will say a prayer for you and your family.

 

[jkcove08]

Ally, Your family are in our prayers!!! Being on a ventalator is certainly not the end of the world. I used to work in a rehab unit of our local hospital and the body is an amazing thing. Kepp talking to him and telling him how much you love him!!! There can be complications with blood thinners but those are minimal compared to a stroke if those clots would have come loose and gone to his brain. You did a wonderful and coragous thing getting to this hospital. You do need to get your rest to though. Also maybe you can go and meditate in the hospital rectory. He is still very young and strong and can pull through this will all the love and help of his family and friends. God is with you. Jenn