I am so bummed... Quick update pg6 5/29 and pg 7 post 67

[monarc23]

I can only imagine how that must feel I am so sorrry!!! I also hope your yorkie gets stabilized soon and can come home and give you some sloppy wet doggie kisses

 

[StrawberryHouseMouse]

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I would urge against this one - it would be flat out legally wrong. If you had no contract for such at the onset of this arrangement you cannot try to enforce one now after the fact.

I think you should consider being honest and tell him that you and your kids have grown very attached to him and visa-versa. And the separating him now would be quite stressful for all concerned and could he find it in his heart to gift the dog to you and your kids. And in return, you'd help pay for a new puppy for him.

Well they had no legal contract saying that he would leave the dog there for over a year either and then expect it back. I know the law with children is if a father does not visit the child for over a year then he no longer has rights to the child. I wouldnt be surprised if it was the same when it came to pets. I would out right tell him, hey you left this dog with me for over a year and NOW you want it back?

 

[onthespot]

I would suck it up and give him his dog. I might be tempted to feed him a half a box of laxatives before he leaves and when he craps all over their new love nest say "yeah, he always does that now. About every two weeks we have the whole house steam cleaned." He would be back in a day.

JUST KIDDING!!! It would be cruel to the dog, but serve the nephew right.

 

[domino7]

Give the kid his dog back. Hard, but right.

 

[Judy]

I know you feel the dog will adjust fine but I still do not think this is fair to the dog. He will grieve no matter how much he likes new people, or how well he remembers your nephew. I would probably refuse to let him go, both because of this and because of my kids. He may not continue to be such a great dog with this kind of upheaval.

On the other hand, the chances are better than 50/50 that this relationship will also fall apart and the dog will be back again, no matter how well you like the new girlfriend. (I notice you did not say wife.)

Next time make it a permanent arrangement.

 

[chickenmum]

 

[NancyDz]

How old is the dog? At this point have you owned it longer than he has? Does he know what's going on with your other dog? I think I would stress these points with the nephew, tell him you and your kids are so attached now as you thought it would only be a few months but now for a year he's been part of your family. I think if you've owned it longer than he has... maybe I would fight for it. But if it was his dog for years and you had the agreement.. I might feel it is right to give it back... as long as he's in a stable environment at the new place. Agree to take him back again if it doesnt work out but if you do ... it's for good this time... the dog is then yours.


You can also make sure your kids and you bawl your eyes out when he comes to get him ... that may sway him

Sorry... good luck!


Nancy

 

[tdgill]

in the year that you've had him, did the "owner" ever inquire about him? call? bring food? ANYTHING?

Don't worry about doing the right thing. He hasn't.

The dog is yours.

 

[Shanay235]

I don't know what the laws are where you live but here, in WV, the dog would legally be yours.

 

[redhen]

I dont think i'd give him the dog back..honestly. Its a lesson learned for him..dont get animals unless you know you are stable enough.... If he had had to bring him to a shelter he would not get the dog back now. I'd tell him you and the kids are very,very attached now. its been too long..you've had him a year now. and that he can come and visit anytime to see him. but that you really cant hurt your kids this way now... get him a pup as a house warming gift!