I am so frustrated and depressed right now.

[dun chick]

I remember this when our babies were little. My mil would always say "let me baby sit," but always had an excuse when we needed her too so we just would forget about it. I don't think we went out 3 times in the first 10 years we were married without the kids.
HAve a date at home, seriously. Get the kids to bed, make a nice romantic dinner, even if its just pizza or chinese food. Put on the candles, maybe pop in a movie and cuddle up together. You know what happens next.... As long as you spend some quality time together you can make it work. We used to have scheduled monthly dates like this. Me and dh laugh now when we go out and talk about the old days and our lil at home dates, our 25th anniversary is in october.

 

[beak]

We have 5 children that need watching if we want to go out. My DW stays at home and she gets real stir crazy. I have a job that allows me to set my own schedule, So I stay home in the AM some times so she can go to the store and get away. We have a 17 yr old son that can watch the kids on occasion for us. He has fallen through a couple times. I would suggest you accept the offer for next week. Sometimes you gotta take what you can get. Sucks I know.

 

[RubberChickenLubber]

Quote:
This is not a good one to use with me. We went for years not knowing if we could ever have a living child. Our first daughter was stillborn at 36 weeks, our first son (second child) died at 17 days old, and our third pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. This is one of the reasons we are so picky about who watches our children we were finally blessed to have.

 

[ems_chick]

i can relate to the no date thing, my bf is a single father to a 5yo and its been the three of us for 2 yrs now. (the mother is completely out of the pic) i would never trade having his daughter in the pic but sometimes i just want a "normal" adult night... makes me feel very selfish.

RubberChickenLubber that must have been horrible to go through... i see you have two little ones who you must love more than anything!

 

[HobokenChickenEmergency]

You are singing my song!

Dh and I have been married almost 5 years, and we've gone out kidless exactly 5 times--once per year.

Once to a concert with my sister, once to dh's employee Christmas party, once to Wal-Mart of all places, and twice to drink international beer at the museum. It's crazy.

Usually it's my mom doing the sitting for these "dates", but she lives in Wisconsin and we live in Indiana.

For the Christmas party, I got one of our neighbor's 15 yr old daughters to watch them (the 3 little ones). She called us 6 times in 3 hours, and when we pulled into the driveway she was waiting in the doorway to grab her money and split. Apparently her boyfriend was waiting. On top of that, a few days later I caught her outside hitting my then-5 yr old because he was on their lawn without her permission. And she wonders why she hasn't been asked to babysit again!

To be fair, dh has 3 kids, I have 3 kids, and we have 1 together. I don't really expect to go out very often. His oldest is 15, so she could probably watch the youngest 3, but she has a heart condition and we don't feel comfortable burdening her like that.

Oh well. Someday we'll have all the time in the world to go out, and we'll spend it wishing our kids were kids again.

 

[English Chick]

I totally understand how you must be feeling....... it was not until this year that DH and I finally got to spend some time together.... we went on holiday for one week without any children...... until then it hd been nearly 13 years since we had any real time for us together......it was bliss.............. so

to you....... wish I was closer I would babysit for you.........

 

[KatyTheChickenLady]

Make a deal with a freind from church/work/school . . . somewhere that you will watch their kids for the evening on the first Sat of every month, then they watch yours on the 3rd sat.
My girlfriend and I did this for years. I was a single mom with three kids and she was married but had a monster child with ODD. It was the only break either of us ever got in a month. But it was perfect, just the right amount.