I am so very blessed so why do I let this depress me... **Update pg 3

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Pretty much the same thing happened to me last month. I'm crying about it again, as I type. It's not because I feel like I was ignored or simply overlooked in a very busy life, but because she is old and her memory is failing. I want my mother to be the vital, sound thinking Mama I remember, not the one who doesn't remember that she just asked the same question five and ten minutes earlier or cannot remember whether her grandson has graduated from high school yet. I'd gladly exchange that for having my mother forget because she was so busy with her book clubs or her garden or her sunday school class or planning an occasion or any of the many other things that used to keep busy.

 

[Mattemma]

Happy Birthday!

Forgive your mom if you have an otherwise good relationship. I have forgotten birthdays and feel soooooo bad about it when I realize I forgot them.

 

[cassie]

One year I forgot my own birthday.

 

[greyhorsewoman]

I refuse to give any particular day that much power. Birthday, anniversary, Christmas ... remember or don't ... My family is there for me every day of the year and not just when it is 'expected.'
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[SparksNV]

Sonoran Silkies:

It's not because I feel like I was ignored or simply overlooked in a very busy life, but because she is old and her memory is failing. I want my mother to be the vital, sound thinking Mama I remember, not the one who doesn't remember that she just asked the same question five and ten minutes earlier or cannot remember whether her grandson has graduated from high school yet. I'd gladly exchange that for having my mother forget because she was so busy with her book clubs or her garden or her sunday school class or planning an occasion or any of the many other things that used to keep busy.

Yes - that's it that is exactly how I felt - my mom is starting to get forgetful and this is the path I see her taking. She is restricted from driving and doesn't have much going on in her life.

I didn't mean for it to come off as a pity party for me - I'm not like that but I wasn't able to quite say what the whole picture was and you said it very well for me.

I am sorry for you, me, our parents, and everyone else - it truly is sad to see that decline ...

carol​

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Yes - that's it that is exactly how I felt - my mom is starting to get forgetful and this is the path I see her taking. She is restricted from driving and doesn't have much going on in her life.

I didn't mean for it to come off as a pity party for me - I'm not like that but I wasn't able to quite say what the whole picture was and you said it very well for me.

I am sorry for you, me, our parents, and everyone else - it truly is sad to see that decline ...

carol