I know I can't be the only parent that refuses to buy a ton of stuff for my kids for their birthdays or holidays. I do get them gifts however I try to make the birthday or holiday about family or the reason for the holiday. I didn't buy anything for my youngest when he turned one because he didn't need anything. He has tons of clothes and of toys. Instead we had a very nice dinner and cake. My DH took a day off work and we all spent the day together. For Christmas I buy my kids very few gifts and never spend more than $100 total for both of them. And I tell people don't buy my kids stuff, if I invite you to their party its not for the gift its because I want your company at the party. My family and friends all think I'm crazy. I really don't think in 20 years my kids will remember that I spent a ton of money on their birthday and they got everything they wanted but they might remember that they got whatever they wanted to eat for breakfast lunch and dinner and we spent the day together doing fun things. I just left my sisters house and her kids are literally swimming in toys, they couldn't play with everything they have in a week! I went over to pick up a birthday present for my i year old. She spent about $20 on junk. I get so tired of junk. My husband and I don't buy each other gifts for Christmas or birthdays, we decide on things we want and save up for them. To me a birthday or a holiday should be about spending time with the people you love, not the gifts you get. Not to say I don't enjoy certain gifts, to me homemade things have almost always been my favorite. I would much rather have a hand made quilt or sweater than some over priced thing from a store that everyone else and their dog has.