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I cant believe its been a year!!
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I gave birth with a midwife, in a tub, completely natural. It was a really beautiful experience for the whole family. My husband even cried, maybe because we didn't know the sex of the baby until she was born, but it was definitely a wonderful surprise!
I practiced hypnobirthing (not hypnosis) for the last four weeks of my pregnancy and my birth was literally pain free. No BS here. Giving birth is all about relaxation, breathing, and keeping the tension level to a minimum. I highly recommend a midwife and a hypnobirthing course for all first time mothers, not because I am militant, but because I've given birth in a hospital setting and I have given birth in a birthing center.
In all honesty, I truly regret every minute of my hospital birth! I wish I would have been more educated not just about birth, but hospital "procedures" in general that are totally unnecessary! If I ever get pregnant again, I would never ever give birth in a hospital.
Sorry if anyone gets offended, just passing on some personal experience.
I practiced hypnobirthing (not hypnosis) for the last four weeks of my pregnancy and my birth was literally pain free. No BS here. Giving birth is all about relaxation, breathing, and keeping the tension level to a minimum. I highly recommend a midwife and a hypnobirthing course for all first time mothers, not because I am militant, but because I've given birth in a hospital setting and I have given birth in a birthing center.
In all honesty, I truly regret every minute of my hospital birth! I wish I would have been more educated not just about birth, but hospital "procedures" in general that are totally unnecessary! If I ever get pregnant again, I would never ever give birth in a hospital.
Sorry if anyone gets offended, just passing on some personal experience.
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Hi all I have been reading the posts lately but too busy to make a post myself. Welcome new people and congrats to the new mom.
I got my results back from the amino. What a relief!!! Its a boy for sure and normal. I was very worried because of my age (44) and the stats say my chances are very high for chromosome defects (1 in 35).
This is baby #8 for me and will definitely be my last. I have a son who will be 25 years older than this son. Things have really changed a lot in those years. I still believe I prefer no pain medication until after the birth then because I have had so many pregnancies I have lots of pain and really need pain killers.
I have been induced to labor once and that was the worst, but here I am doing it again. I personally think that health of the baby and mother should be priority but comfort should be considered too.
For me labor is kinda like a marathon that I always win. The baby my trophy. I do have to face facts that because of my age I may have complications and need a c section. I feel I will have still run the race.
Remember that labor is the easiest race in parenthood. For the rest of our lives we will be running along with our child and reaching milestones but never will we cross that finish line again because there will always be another millstone that our children and ourselves must cross first.
I got my results back from the amino. What a relief!!! Its a boy for sure and normal. I was very worried because of my age (44) and the stats say my chances are very high for chromosome defects (1 in 35).
This is baby #8 for me and will definitely be my last. I have a son who will be 25 years older than this son. Things have really changed a lot in those years. I still believe I prefer no pain medication until after the birth then because I have had so many pregnancies I have lots of pain and really need pain killers.
I have been induced to labor once and that was the worst, but here I am doing it again. I personally think that health of the baby and mother should be priority but comfort should be considered too.
For me labor is kinda like a marathon that I always win. The baby my trophy. I do have to face facts that because of my age I may have complications and need a c section. I feel I will have still run the race.
Remember that labor is the easiest race in parenthood. For the rest of our lives we will be running along with our child and reaching milestones but never will we cross that finish line again because there will always be another millstone that our children and ourselves must cross first.
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the thing i like about hospitals is that someone is taking care of me for once..i mean, at home..there isnt anyone to bring me ice chips, or clean for me, or bring me stuff to eat..i feel like im on vacation or something. granted, im sure my husband would do those things at home if i asked, but you know what i mean.
as for procedures...other than my first child, it was very laid back..i was able to do what i wanted, eat or drink if i felt like it and i roomed in with the baby so i didnt have that much interference, although i do wish they would encourage people to utilize the nursery more without making them feel bad. i did but i felt like a jerk for doing so..but i knew that the 3 days i was up there were going to be the only days with that much help.
as for procedures...other than my first child, it was very laid back..i was able to do what i wanted, eat or drink if i felt like it and i roomed in with the baby so i didnt have that much interference, although i do wish they would encourage people to utilize the nursery more without making them feel bad. i did but i felt like a jerk for doing so..but i knew that the 3 days i was up there were going to be the only days with that much help.
Depends on the medical reason and if it's really something that can't be handled by a Midwife. The last four weeks of my pregnancy my blood pressure did go up, but I wasn't overly concerned. Actually, after I started doing the hypnobirthing it went back down, so I do believe stress can play a huge role on pregnancy and it's outcome.
With my first child I stayed at home until my husband recommended we should leave. As soon as I got to the hospital they wanted to hook me up to a fetal monitor which wasn't necessary. I was already in active labor! I knew I was in active labor! They didn't even want me to go to the bathroom, but I did anyways.
When I went in to squat I felt my son's head crowning, I told my husband and all the nurses started to flip out -- This really only made matters worse.
They were trying to rip off my clothes and strap me down, I literally had to scream to get them to stop. After I finished undressing I was rushed to this white room, door completely swung open with about eight nurses standing around me holding my legs open and forcing me to lie down. One nurse was trying to stick me with a needle to give me Pictocin, something I didn't need either.
Well, once it came time to push the IV came out and blood was squirting everywhere.. By this time I was so nervous I couldn't even sign my own signature, my husband did it for me. I was forced to push for ten seconds as if I didn't have a clue how to give birth. I was so scared and in a lot of pain, I was actually ready to give up because they were pulling so hard on my legs, they were nearly touching the mattress.
After about twenty minutes of pushing, my son was yanked out. He was not even given to me. They didn't wait to cut his umbilical cord either, so he was completely pale, blue and whimpering. I think I waited AT LEAST ten minutes before I got to hold my son. I literally said, "Where's my darn baby?" Just horrible. This is not how birth should be, and with my second baby it was NOTHING like this.
Actually, while I was travelling throughout Louisiana I saw an OB GYN once. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. She tested me for GBS at TEN weeks pregnancy, and it came up positive. She wanted to put me on antibiotics for the rest of my pregnancy and I refused. She then tried to tell me my baby was going to die from GBS to see if I would fall into her lie. I was calm and explained that I had myself educated enough that I would not take antiobiotics unless it was necessary and I would only do it before the birth. That's when she got upset and told me I could no longer "see her." She was nothing more than a bully. It scares me to think how many women were put through unnecessary procedures because of her bully attitude.
I completely avoided doctors after this and planned my birth with a midwife outside of a hospital. This was the best thing I could have done. When I came home to see the birth center I was so excited (Baby Love Birth Center.) My midwife was awesome and allowed me the choice of whether I wanted to do the GBS test at 25 weeks. I did and the test came back positive. So, I ended up taking the antibiotics once labor started.
Right after getting that first dose my labor stalled, so I left for home. I think was home for about five hours when my labor picked back up, within about two hours time I was ready to give birth. Once we got back to the birth center, thirty minutes later I was in the tub holding my baby. Everything was calm, no one was grabbing, pulling or forcing me to do anything. My water was not broken, it broke on it's own. I was never told I needed to push, just when I felt it was necessary and I did. I had complete control over my body and I think this is what made the experience so beautiful. I actually can say I enjoyed my birth!
I think the problem today is too many doctors like to play off the fear of women. What if? Well, you have to assess the risk yourself, because if you let your doctor, mom, coworker, grandmother, or whomever convince that you can't give birth on your own, you've really been mislead. It's only been the last twenty years that women have been pressured or scared into taking drugs. I couldn't tell you how many times I was pressured into taking pain killers with my first baby. I had to refuse at least five times. All I am saying is, birth is what you make it. As a person who has had two births experiecens that were polar opposite, I think hospitals aren't really the place to give birth unless it's absolutely necessary.
The most important thing is to trust your body!! So many women go into birth planning to take pain medication because they have had other women, doctors, and hollywood completely skew the imagine of giving birth as some traumatic ER experience when in reality it's nothing more than your body doing what it's supposed to!! Unfortunately, this idealogy has ruined many births experiences. But surprisingly, this type of attitude really only exsists in America where conflicts of interest seems to play a role in almost every aspect of human health.
If you have health problems, fine. However, don't let a doctor convince you to do something without fulling assessing the issue yourself. Doctors are not God and trust me, they make mistakes too. Otherwise you wouldn't see billion dollar lawsuits caused by drugs like Paxil or deaths due to unnecessary procedures. In any case, good luck to all of you with whatever birth plan you may have.
Kind regards,
Rachel
With my first child I stayed at home until my husband recommended we should leave. As soon as I got to the hospital they wanted to hook me up to a fetal monitor which wasn't necessary. I was already in active labor! I knew I was in active labor! They didn't even want me to go to the bathroom, but I did anyways.
When I went in to squat I felt my son's head crowning, I told my husband and all the nurses started to flip out -- This really only made matters worse.
They were trying to rip off my clothes and strap me down, I literally had to scream to get them to stop. After I finished undressing I was rushed to this white room, door completely swung open with about eight nurses standing around me holding my legs open and forcing me to lie down. One nurse was trying to stick me with a needle to give me Pictocin, something I didn't need either.
Well, once it came time to push the IV came out and blood was squirting everywhere.. By this time I was so nervous I couldn't even sign my own signature, my husband did it for me. I was forced to push for ten seconds as if I didn't have a clue how to give birth. I was so scared and in a lot of pain, I was actually ready to give up because they were pulling so hard on my legs, they were nearly touching the mattress.
After about twenty minutes of pushing, my son was yanked out. He was not even given to me. They didn't wait to cut his umbilical cord either, so he was completely pale, blue and whimpering. I think I waited AT LEAST ten minutes before I got to hold my son. I literally said, "Where's my darn baby?" Just horrible. This is not how birth should be, and with my second baby it was NOTHING like this.
Actually, while I was travelling throughout Louisiana I saw an OB GYN once. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. She tested me for GBS at TEN weeks pregnancy, and it came up positive. She wanted to put me on antibiotics for the rest of my pregnancy and I refused. She then tried to tell me my baby was going to die from GBS to see if I would fall into her lie. I was calm and explained that I had myself educated enough that I would not take antiobiotics unless it was necessary and I would only do it before the birth. That's when she got upset and told me I could no longer "see her." She was nothing more than a bully. It scares me to think how many women were put through unnecessary procedures because of her bully attitude.
I completely avoided doctors after this and planned my birth with a midwife outside of a hospital. This was the best thing I could have done. When I came home to see the birth center I was so excited (Baby Love Birth Center.) My midwife was awesome and allowed me the choice of whether I wanted to do the GBS test at 25 weeks. I did and the test came back positive. So, I ended up taking the antibiotics once labor started.
Right after getting that first dose my labor stalled, so I left for home. I think was home for about five hours when my labor picked back up, within about two hours time I was ready to give birth. Once we got back to the birth center, thirty minutes later I was in the tub holding my baby. Everything was calm, no one was grabbing, pulling or forcing me to do anything. My water was not broken, it broke on it's own. I was never told I needed to push, just when I felt it was necessary and I did. I had complete control over my body and I think this is what made the experience so beautiful. I actually can say I enjoyed my birth!
I think the problem today is too many doctors like to play off the fear of women. What if? Well, you have to assess the risk yourself, because if you let your doctor, mom, coworker, grandmother, or whomever convince that you can't give birth on your own, you've really been mislead. It's only been the last twenty years that women have been pressured or scared into taking drugs. I couldn't tell you how many times I was pressured into taking pain killers with my first baby. I had to refuse at least five times. All I am saying is, birth is what you make it. As a person who has had two births experiecens that were polar opposite, I think hospitals aren't really the place to give birth unless it's absolutely necessary.
The most important thing is to trust your body!! So many women go into birth planning to take pain medication because they have had other women, doctors, and hollywood completely skew the imagine of giving birth as some traumatic ER experience when in reality it's nothing more than your body doing what it's supposed to!! Unfortunately, this idealogy has ruined many births experiences. But surprisingly, this type of attitude really only exsists in America where conflicts of interest seems to play a role in almost every aspect of human health.
If you have health problems, fine. However, don't let a doctor convince you to do something without fulling assessing the issue yourself. Doctors are not God and trust me, they make mistakes too. Otherwise you wouldn't see billion dollar lawsuits caused by drugs like Paxil or deaths due to unnecessary procedures. In any case, good luck to all of you with whatever birth plan you may have.
Kind regards,
Rachel
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After my planned homebirth, which was wonderful, I kind of had that attitude. But here I am pregnant again, 9 years later, and I have completely changed my tune. Why? Because this baby is due just days before my 43rd birthday, and I'm considered old to be having a baby. I feel the need to be the most medically prepared in case something goes wrong during the delivery. The moral of this little story is, never say never.
After my planned homebirth, which was wonderful, I kind of had that attitude. But here I am pregnant again, 9 years later, and I have completely changed my tune. Why? Because this baby is due just days before my 43rd birthday, and I'm considered old to be having a baby. I feel the need to be the most medically prepared in case something goes wrong during the delivery. The moral of this little story is, never say never.
I have a friend who is also in her forties. She is actually your age, first baby and she is going to the birth center. They aren't treating her as high risk.. I guess this is all a matter of perspective..
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