I don't have anywhere else to vent...

[Sequin]

...so please bear with me while I vent just a little here. You don't have to read this even, if you don't want to. I just needed to let off a little irritation and then I can be right as rain once again.

Ok, so at work, there is all this "he said, she said" stuff floating around and people pretending to get along with one person but then in private saying mean things about that same person blah blah blah DRAMA!!! And I feel trapped in the middle. This person on that side tells me this stuff, then that other person over on that side tells me this other stuff, and I am the person that everyone tells all this stuff to because I never say a thing about anything!!!! ARGGGGGHHHH!!! Work is driving me nuts! Ok, then my hours got cut for no real apparent reason. This means that I am on someone's bad side. And I do Not know why?!!!! So this is driving me batty because I can't figure out what I did to deserve the cut in hours, when then our part time person who is Supposed to be the fill-in person is starting to get more like full time hours. So, they get more hours, I get less hours, and ... UUUGGGHHHH!!!! How am I supposed to feed my family and my pets on hours that have been pretty much cut in half?!!!

Ok, so today I decided that it is up to me what I want to listen to. And so I have decided that I liked my life better when I felt there was good in every person around me. That no one was backstabbing and mean and out to get everyone else. And I feel that I am able to create that environment if I really want to. So, that is what I am doing. I am going back to thinking good of everyone around me again. I am not listening to other peoples mean talk and joining in. I like who I like, I am nice because that is who I am, and that is that.

I just do not understand why people are SO unable to get along with other people? We are all imperfect, and we all do things that need forgiveness; so why are we SO unable to forgive others their sins as well? I just don't get it. I hate having feelings of anger or meanness against someone else. It drains me of precious energy that I would rather spend elsewhere. Sometimes, I feel that people I am around have all gone absolutely insane with being caught up in the drama. That maybe their life isn't complete without some sort of drama around them. And I am just tired of the emotional and dramatic roller coaster of it all. Blah. I am so glad I have decided to not have any more part of it!




Thanks sooo much for letting me vent a little here. Thank heavens for the chickens in the coop and the dogs in the house/yard that bring sanity to my life. They keep me grounded and real. They don't care who is who, or what is said; they are just happy to be with you, even if you don't say a word. Our animals are such a blessing. They are unafraid of going into jails and meeting up with those doing time. They follow and bond with homeless people as well as those with millions of dollars. Our animals don't care what our homes or cars look like. They don't care if you are wearing the latest fashions or not. It doesn't matter to them if you have a degree or are a huge success. They love you for being you and for being a part of their life. How people can be cruel and merciless to animals who give so much of themselves, who trust us to care for them, I will never understand. I am just tremendously thankful they are there when I come home from work so I can care for them and love them. I would be lost without my animals.


Ok, I am done rambling now. Thanks again for letting me "blah blah blah" for a minute or two.

Take care!!!

 

[Dar]

I totally undersatnd what you are going through...my work is the same ...thats why I work nights...no one is there...lol

 

[Sequin]

I WISH that were an option. I'd take it in a heartbeat!!!

 

[patyrdz]

I'm sorry you are going through this! When I was working with 50 plus women I would listen and go on about my business! I saw around me all the drama and meanness. I was always the one telling goofy stories and FYI tidbits about stupid stuff. That was the way I liked it, because even if my world was falling apart, you would never know it by my attitude at work. Some people jut can't live without stirring up a mess around them. We just have to take everything they say with a grain of salt, and not lower ourselves to that level. I applaud you on not being sucked in to the abyss of meanness.
I LOVE your description of our pets, it is so poetic and true!

 

[Jena]

Sequin,

You are certainly not alone in feeling like this. I gave up and went to work nights as well for many years.

So even here in the UK we are suffereing from the same issues.

I hope you find a way to reslove things, to me it seems like a few old fashioned values have gone down the drain, and it has led to me opting out altogether really and setting up my own business where I can control those values around me.

Things like friendship, integrity, honesty, understanding and patience seem to be in very short supply. I think stress and unrealistic expectations are behind a lot of the changes, but maybe it will change back again, wishing you all the best.

 

[Sequin]

Oooooo - HUGE hugs (

) in thanks to you all. You let me vent and ramble and still you are kind hearted; I hope you all realize how incredibly Awesome that is!!! And also how much I appreciate everyones support and care. Thank you again, so very much, for allowing me to share a bit and relieve some irritation with events going on at work. I feel so much better, you might never realize or know it, and I wanted to let you all know that I am grateful to each of you. Thank You!!!!

Hoping you all have a wonderful and enjoyable day today!! ... ohh, gotta go, something(a critter no doubt) is getting into the garbage cans outside and I need to encourage it to pass on through... Take care all!!!

 

[Chickenmaven]

Oh, boy, I do know how these things blow out of proportion!

I would like to make a suggestion: If you need the hours, please have a calm discussion with your supervisor. Long ago, when I was a 20-ish supervisor, I cut the hours of a waitress that had been giving away shifts. She had been calling around , begging people to work this one or that one. Plus, ***** I had heard through the grapevine ****** that she was planning to quit. (Yeah, I know, bad me.) She approached me, calmly, and explained that she needed the hours. I countered that it appeared not to be the case. After I talked to her, I knew that she was just going through a rough patch & was committed to her job. But, yeah, I was guilty of listening to gossip...

 

[chicks4kids]

That used to happen to me alot too. You can always try putting the "gabber" on the spot when they're saying something bad like "Oh so and so she's/he's such a ___________ " You can say "really? what makes you think that?" (you're setting them up for a fall here) When they reply, you simply say "oh, you've SEEN her/him to this, or HEARD him/her do this?" and keep it going, steadily drilling them for specifics like when and where, or why... they will stop eventually and realize they don't want to justify or explain what they say.

I learned this from my husband...get detailed specifics especially when it comes to gossip. Eventually, after drilling them like this they won't want to bother explaining it, people like that just want to let it roll off the tongue. They'll learn that you are not the person to gossip to.

 

[Holly O]

BIG HUGS!!

Been there. It's no fun, you are right. I'm happy to hear you want to just be a positive person.

You have the right attitude, Keep it up!

 

[Stumpy]

I feel for you! I absolutely abhor the whole office politics/drama scene. I always say it's like going back to kindergarten.