I feel really guilty

[OlliOlliOlli]

I think I am getting my boyfriend fat

He's an ex-marine, and he WAS running 5 miles a day...about 170 pounds about 3 or 4 months ago, all muscle. It started getting to be 100 degrees out and he has issues with severe depression at times. He stopped working out as much.

He stood on the scale at the veterinarian office the other day and it came up as 192.8.

He looked over at me and gave me this horrible, horrible look. He's getting soft. I have been feeding him very well...buttery baked fish, pasta, corn muffins, huge belgian waffles, etc...and I can tell he's blaming me.

Maybe I should stop feeding him?

 

[JennsPeeps]

www.cookinglight.com - delicious recipes & the magazine is great!

 

[phishinchicken]

there are things for depression but i am not sure we are allowed to talk about them here.



can you guys go for walks in the mall? or a bike ride? i recently gave up soda and red meat(i eat fish mostly, chicken 2 times a month) and lost 15lbs. i know that is not a lot but i just started the first of may. and he may lose that depressed feeling when he loses some weight and feels better about himself.

 

[miss_jayne]

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he is a grown up who has the choice NOT to put things into his mouth. or eat less of it.

don't feel guilty. make changes. decide how sick of something you are then don't do it anymore. and if you mess up, start again. the Cooking Light sight is an excellent resource.

 

[Xtina]

If he was that fit once, he can be that way again. I bet it's less your cooking and more the fact that he's stopped running. Oh, and those things you can do for depression? Exercise is one of the best ones. So, even though I have a fat husband who used to be fit after boot camp, so I have little room to be giving advice, I'd say the best thing you can do is NOT withhold food from him, but tell him he needs to do his PT before the nice breakfast you're cooking him. Or dinner, whatever. It may not work, because it sure seems like there's not a darn thing I can do to get my husband to do even the slightest amount of exercise, but if you tell him he needs to start running again, and he doesn't, well, the fault lies with him, not you.

 

[Crusty McPottydoodle]

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he is a grown up who has the choice NOT to put things into his mouth. or eat less of it.

don't feel guilty. make changes. decide how sick of something you are then don't do it anymore. and if you mess up, start again. the Cooking Light sight is an excellent resource.

What miss Jayne said.

Feller was complaining about his belly (which isn't much of one in the grand scheme of bellies) just this morning - the fact that he went to a wedding last night and couldn't decide which dessert to have so he had them all - plus icecream and chocolate sauce didn't garner him any sympathy from me. He is very fit - He swims 3 times a week, rides his bike to school most days (which is a 45 minute ride that is mostly up a mountain on the way there) and he does a lot of hiking and mountaineering. That said, he is in his 40s and sometimes the flab just sticks to places we would prefer it didn't.

Cheryl