I just don't feel welcome here . . .

[EweSheep]

I believe it can happen to anyone in here and BYC has been growing ALOT since then. I had alot of helpful folks and after awhile, we would let folks answer and if we feel like it was not the best answer, we can step in with a bit more experience.

I think Welsummerchicks said it best!

 

[annie3001]

oh i am sorry you feel this way.
i have noticed that it some times depends on time that you post or waiting for advice etc.
more folks are on in the evening. youll get more responses etc.

i think we have all been there before, its upsetting i know. i posted a while back, some pictures, and got 2 comments. just depends.

YOU are very welcome here.

 

[spiritdance]

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All you need to do to fix it is talk to me!

I'll give you snooty answers that make you feel welcomed! --er "Snotty" answers. Sorry, I'm often accused of being "snooty".

Now, if you're being ignored, try a catchier title (or a really stupid title) something like "I don't feel welcome here . . ." Or, "My nose turned green and fell off after cleaning the chicken coop, what disease causes this?" Or, "Are all people who keep chickens "challenged"?" Those are bound to get a response!

Oh! Good for you! I see you tried my first suggestion and you look, you got some responses! (Aren't I smart?)

Now, I'd like to invite you to the poodle bashing thread (if you say anything that even hints you dislike an animal, people will jump ALL over it!): https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=494597


Oh, another tip: Some people on some forums prefer to see lots of smileys and excessive punctuation. (Not really my thing, but I recognize the necessity with some folks; it sort of equates to a prerequisite to communication.)

Like this:

(Psst, btw,

)

Or this ....

[Sorry ... couldn't help myself ...]

 

[ChickenDreamer]

Like yourself I have been here for three years but do not post very often. I think not being "seen" effects the number of responses in some way because although I am familiar with many regulars here...they don't know me (or you) from Adam

Please don't be discouraged. I have read your posts in the past and would miss you if you left.
Angela.

 

[KlaHaYa Gardens]

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Actually, I just came from commenting on that very thing on two other posts where people were downright rude to OPs looking for advise ... it's great if someone knows the answer to a poster's questions, has sage advice, etc., and I've gained a HUGE amount of knowledge from this site and the wonderful people on here ... but there are those who think they have a right to pass judgment on others, and do so regularly. It's certainly NOT the majority of posters on here ... I LOVE the sense of community and shared passion that most threads demonstrate ... but I know what this OP is talking about. All I can say to the OP is, don't give up because of a few arrogant airbags ... most of us on here are more than willing to share what we know, accept kind advice from others, and be cordial in the process. I think you (the OP) have just had a string of bad luck, but don't let that drive you away. And for the record, I probably just P O'ed a couple of airbags, because I didn't just sit on my hands and fume this time ... I told them I found their attitude unwarranted. I LIKE the friendly, helpful atmosphere this site fosters, so I've decided I'm not going to sit quietly when others disrupt it from now on. It really doesn't take that much time and effort to formulate a post that considers others' feelings, even if one disagrees with an OP.

I've received a few replies like these. I think the natural thing to do is start a thread like this: (Title) "To all snotty, snooty, know-it-all and judgmental posters" (First Post) Please kindly refrain from posting in threads I start. Your attitude and approach will not receive the appreciation and attention you desire. Please respond here, so that I know who you are and likewise, I will avoid threads you start."

 

[KlaHaYa Gardens]

Heckel's Hens :

I'm sorry you feel that way! Some dry humor comes off very badly on message boards!

Very true. Thus, it is our collective responsibility to wet down such dry humour with a hose -- like a fire hose.

 

[TJ]

Hello LoupGarou, I'm so sorry to hear of this. I don't think it's anything other than there are some folks that are short in their answers and yes, there are some that do say odd things and I just take it that they're just odd themselves and that they just don't know any better. I know from experience that folks will address an emergency first or the questions that they know they can answer. Other than that it's really the luck of the draw as to how and if your question will be answered here. And not to mention, the forum here has grown by leaps and bounds so there's more of us with questions too.

Just hang in there and don't take it to heart, for the most part Backyard Chickens is filled to the brim with great people but you'll always, always, have those few that are just plain rotten. Don't give up. )

~tj

 

[DuckLady]

If something is happening that violates BYC rules. please report the post and we will look into it.

Perception is relative. On the internet it is hard to gauge emotions or attitude. Best thing is to either report a blatant rules violation or let it roll off your back.