I just need to vent a little

[ruthie]

My 6 month old grand daughter was born with club feet. We are blessed that she does not need surgery. At this time we have a program of stretches and she wears her right shoe on her left foot and vice versa. Next month she will be placed in casts from toe to hip. Well I took her with me to the store and a women informed me her shoes were on the wrong feet. I explained about the club feet and than she asked me if it was because my daughter did drugs. I explained that not all birth defects are a result of drug use and no she didn't.We knew about her feet before she was born as it was seen on the ultra sound. She than said well if her mother knew about it before she was born why didn't she do something about it? It took all of my self control to walk away from this woman and her stupidity. I even left my cart full of groceries sitting in the middle of the aisle. I try not to judge people but this woman is just a ignorant busy body. Thanks I feel so much better now that I typed it out so I am just going to let it go.

 

[Sock Puppet]

Wow, some people, moron is all I can say.

 

[FrizzleFreak]

is all I can say. To say something like that to somebody you don't even know...or to somebody you DO know...

 

[mom2chicksandpups]

I'm so sorry that this ignorant woman was so rude to you!

 

[Katy]

People can be idiots sometimes. My second son was born with the same thing. He got the casts first tho at 4 weeks and then spent time wearing his shoes on the wrong feet and doing the stretches and exercises. He came along before sonograms were routine tho so we didn't know before hand. He didn't have surgery either and his feet still have a bit of a curve to them, but he did well in sports and it never slowed him down. I've always told him it's a good thing his feet aren't perfectly straight...he wears a size 15 shoe which are hard enough to find and if they were straight he might need a 16 which is really hard to find!

 

[ruthie]

Thanks everyone. The up side is that I am the one that experienced it and not my daughter or her husband. I am not sure what their reaction would of been. I have never had to bail any of my kids out of jail, but this may of changed that.

I am not even going to tell her about it.

 

[Judy]

This woman's ignorance is her problem, and I'm glad you decided to let off a little steam here, then not make it your problem. Sounds like your daughter and SIL need to learn the same lesson.

I would have cut the conversation off cold when she asked about drugs. I would not have spoken another word to her. Inappropriate remarks like her question about drugs do not require a response.

 

[Suellyn]

Your sweet grandbaby's feet are treatable, and I bet won't slow her down one bit... However... "Stupid" and "Insensitive" is TERMINAL, and I bet it slows that idiot woman down plenty!!

Too bad HER Mom couldn't ultrasound for *THAT* and "do something about it before SHE was born"!!!

(Okay, that was really mean, but I had to say it....

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[Sunny Side Up]

I'm so sorry for the hurt these words caused you. You displayed an incredible amount of self control & grace in this situation. Your family, & especially your dear grandaughter, are blessed to have you.

Throughout the years I've found myself being a boor magnet, enduring all sorts of rude & insensitive remarks & questions, and have often found myself crying on the way home thinking "Ooooh, I wish I had said..."

Then I read in Dear Abby a reply that seems to work in so many situations: Smile and say "Why ever do you ask?" If the boor continues to probe & pry, continue to smile and repeat "Why ever do you ask?" and maybe add "But that's such a personal matter, and I don't even know you -- why ever do you ask?" And hopefully, the boor will get the hint, or run out of steam, or receive new instructions from the voices in their heads.

Big bouquets of blessings to you, Ruthie!

 

[catwalk]

It was once believed that deformities were a result of sin. A man steals, so his child is born blind. Your daughter did drugs, so hers has club feet. Whatever. Jesus' disciples asked him in John 9 why this guy was blind. Did he sin, or was it his parents' fault? The reply: this happened so that the work of God might be displayed in his life.