I live with a bunch of pigs!

[EweSheep]

<<<<<<<<<<< on strike!

Hubby blamed everyone in the house for loosing or misplacing his things. Well I don't misplace HIS things but had to clean up his tools, putting them in boxes and keys in the container. Now he could not find anything. Sorry, you got the WRONG person to blame.

So daughter and hubby have their messes....not cleaning up. So far, hubby is cleaning up after himself but daughter isn't. Whats funny is that hubby decided to bag up her clothes that she was lazy about putting them up after folding them, boy, she got up, "saved" the bag and put the things back in the drawers!

Dirty clothes, sorry, none goes in hamper will not be taken down to be washed. You run out, too bad!

Same for the bathroom, daughter has a habit of taking her towels with her in the bedroom or sitting on a chair. She went in, took a shower, voila, NO towels. She was hollering and I refused to help. I told her if she would have put the towels BACK on the drying rack, it would be there on her next shower.

The kitchen was a crumbling mess, crackers, cereal, spilt drinks from both daughter and hubby. Hubby was grumbling about crumbs under his bare feet. Sorry, cleaning lady on strike. Funny he did clean up the living room floor!

Slowly but surely..........as much as I itch to clean it the way I clean, I had to remind myself for my sanity....let them pick up their messes! i gotta stick to my guns! And won't take the blame to "lose" things that both hubby and daughter kept doing. The sockets are still on the kitchen floor...what should I do with those????? Car keys, I won't play the game by throwing them in the box or dump it on the workshop table downstairs. Really, does hubbies need to bring their workshop tools all around the house???!!!

Wont pick up his side table garbage can...overbrimming to the top that the contents spilling over to the floor. I kept mine emptied...what they do, come over to my side of the garbage can and use that one. Grrrrrrrrr! Kitchen, is overflowing but there is a limit to that if it started to stink, I have to take it out. Hubby does not have sense of the smell anymore (it was damaged by accidents and fights, broken his nose more than once).

Yep, day THREE of strike and its looking good little by little!

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Maybe allow them to EARN back the privilege of staying alone in the future with extra chores, and the reminder that the extra chores are a result of the house being trashed. Oh, clearing up the mess and chaos they crested is a given, but not part of the extra chores.

 

[kareninthesun]

My great grandmother used to share a story of when she and Pops were first married and lived on a farm. She used to gripe all the time when he'd drop everything right where it slid off his body and leave em there. One night she bit her tongue and waited until he left the following morning before daybreak. As soon as he left (walking over clothes) she nailed every item to the wooden floor. Many years later, after Pops died and she moved out, her children went through the house first, helping to pack, then in remodeling for sale, lovingly cut out each little hole and handing them out to family members on the day each was married to remind them of good communication skills.

 

[CluckyJay]

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I thought mine was the only one that did this!!!!!!!!!!!!! This makes me feel much better about my marriage.

 

[CluckyJay]

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OMG, this made me tear up.

 

[EweSheep]

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I thought mine was the only one that did this!!!!!!!!!!!!! This makes me feel much better about my marriage.

Hee hee!

I am not alone in it...his father is the same way, misplacing things. His was due to his early stages of Alzeihmers and sometimes I wonder if it affects hubby too. He was just dx with PTSD from years of bullying from his schooling years. He has to be reminded or he simply forgets it. He won't admit he has a memory problem. Besides I can not do everything FOR him.

To date, they are behaving but less mess this time. Got the results fast but not ALL the way I wanted it to be.

 

[r4eboxer]

Well it sure is good to know I'm not alone

. This must be a bigger issue than I realized. This morning on the radio a woman had the same complaint about her husband not picking up after himself and blaming his mother. One lady even suggested bringing in his mother to have her clean up his messes, another suggested punching his mother right in the nose.

I have gone on strike before and they just walk over the filth, it doesn't really bother them. BUT I told my 16 year old I was going to throw his stuff away and I did not care if it was his basketball (season change) uniform or not it was getting tossed. My family room has not been a mess since. DH is still a pig in the kitchen and I plan on having a talk with him too.

I have been going home doing laundry on my lunch hour still but it is totally under control. I don't even have a full load to do right now and all is put away except one basket.

I actually got to work outside all weekend, got my garden fences rolled up, all my weed fabric up and the gardens mowed down. It was really nice to be outside and have the inside in some organized manner. I still have a long way to go but I do see some progress.

Ewesheep: My husband leaves his tools all over the place too, I have managed to break him of sawing wood in the family room with his electric saws. I cannot believe he would do that, I mean REALLY sawing in the house, who does that!!! His mother would have hung him by his hyde but for some reason he felt it was ok when I was trying to keep house.

 

[EweSheep]

Tools are very touchy subjects for men....its like an extra appentice outside of their bodies. If you try to use it, they would be very upset.

Bag up those things and put in the garage until they have no more clothes to wear or throw them inthe corner of their bedrooms LOLOL!


Aren't we MEAN?

 

[chicmom]

My husband says the garage is his territory. And it's a terrible mess! If he doesn't get working on it this weekend, so I can park my car in there during the winter, I will clean it up myself!

He really hates it when I do that and gives me the cold shoulder for a few days. If I ask him to clean it, then he becomes a mule (so childish), refusing to do it! So I will take care of it, whether he likes it or not......He's got the weekend to handle it.

He also leaves his socks on the floor each night by the bed. He steps on his socks and pulls his foot out, so he doesn't bend over.....AND sometimes he leaves used dental floss on the end table beside his chair and I get really annoyed when he does that!

He works hard, but he's a lazy guy at home.....But I love him anyhow. I quit nagging long ago. IT doesn't work with him.

Sigh.

 

[r4eboxer]

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Oh the garage, yeah I hear ya sister!

and eww on the dental floss. I'm trying to stop nagging too it doesn't really help.