I need advice, too (another crazy neighbor post) --sorry so long!

[Stumpy]

Oh, gosh, what a nightmare!

Obviously the children are being taught absolutely nothing about manners, respect, etc.

I'm sorry you're having to live this way, and I'm sure someone else will have good advice for you.

Fairly early in life I discovered I disliked having neighbors in general, and bad neighbors especially. I converted my husband to a non-subdivision guy and we now live miles from the nearest town. There's no such thing as too much privacy in my book. I hope you get yours back one day.

 

[JessaLynn]

poverty breeds poverty

Not always true.Ignorance is to blame.Kids are kids and they do as their taught.Without good guidance from SOMEONE yeah it's a lost cause.I came from poverty abusive parents but I wanted better for myself and my kids but all it took was one special person to show me the right way to.You can't really get mad at the kids because it's all they know but teaching them mannors and respect (or just a person for goodness sake) Being stern doesn't make you mean! Treat them how you treat your own kids Don't go around acting like a lunitic because they (kids) aren't civilized folks because it doesn't help the matter. The parents are to blame! Just my opinion though.I do hope you find peace for you and your family and these folks are relocated soon.Honestly then they are moved and they are someone elses problem.So sad!​

 

[horsejody]

Maybe you could SSS. Just kidding.

 

[Whispering Winds]

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Not always true.Ignorance is to blame.Kids are kids and they do as their taught.Without good guidance from SOMEONE yeah it's a lost cause.I came from poverty abusive parents but I wanted better for myself and my kids but all it took was one special person to show me the right way to.You can't really get mad at the kids because it's all they know but teaching them mannors and respect (or just a person for goodness sake) Being stern doesn't make you mean! Treat them how you treat your own kids Don't go around acting like a lunitic because they (kids) aren't civilized folks because it doesn't help the matter. The parents are to blame! Just my opinion though.I do hope you find peace for you and your family and these folks are relocated soon.Honestly then they are moved and they are someone elses problem.So sad!

I knew when I wrote that line, someone would defend themselves, and I honestly meant no insult whatsoever. My husband came from a horribly abusive family, they weren't "corrected", they were beat with belts, pipes, whatever was handy. They weren't poor either, actually were pretty wealthy. DH was kind and gentle with our five, so I know that it doesn't mean you will necessarily be that way . . .but, where I live, it seems that poverty and ignorance walks hand in hand. I worked in a school system for 16 years and the things I saw and heard was really something out of a nightmare sometimes. I also think that in this day and age alcohol and drugs play a huge part in how children are being raised. There was just a story on the St. Louis news where people donated clothes to Goodwill or Salvation Army and a pack of Meth was found in a child's pants. They actually tracked down the donators, and the kids were actually sleeping right next to the chemicals used in making the meth. . .totally out of their control and not their fault whatsoever. We are living in sad times, and I wish someone would reach out and make these people see what they are doing to our future.

 

[mmtillman]

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Yes...I was gonna suggest this as well..time to let the law handle this problem....I offer you lots of

for trying to be a good neighbor and concerned about these kids...but they are not your problem!! Use that little word ..." no '' and hope you have a peaceful summer!!! Bless you !!

 

[JessaLynn]

Whispering Winds I wasn't insulted at all but did want to correct ya that it's not always the case

I don't know how teachers do it really.I give them alot of credit! I thank my kids teachers every chance I get and want to show them how much they are appreciated.They put up with alot.Not with my boys but their class mates,O MY word! My kids aren't angel's but they sure make them look like it. I just feel it's our responsibility as a community to make sure there is hope for the kids who are less fortunet and try to show them the right way.You can only try

Sorry to go off subject a bit but when it comes to kids I just can't help myself.I have 4 of my own and also do daycare and have seen alot of sad cases of neglect and abuse.Just breaks my heart.

 

[HobokenChickenEmergency]

I don't know. I agree that poor is one thing and ignorant is another. The parents are just as loud as the kids. I grew up with parents who fought ALL THE TIME, so I should be immune to loud, annoying people.


Anyway, I called the city clerk's office today, and they gave me a bunch of phone numbers to call tomorrow. The woman I talked to was really sympathetic when I explained that I moved here from Milwaukee, and that these neighbors were worse than what I moved away from. So, tomorrow I'll be burning up the phone line.

 

[NancyDz]

I feel for you.. I have a neighbor like this right now too, I have been calling the landlord who lives behind us on property. I've seen him stumbling over here with bed head at 3am to talk to her.
He tried giving her notice last month but she cried... so he gave her one more chance. She was good for 2 weeks then the 2am screaming profanities at her boyfriend and friends, slamming things around and peeling out our gravel driveway started up again.
I've been up til 5am with this psycho woman's tantrum and loser friends. Well last week he finally gave her notice after I called him yet again. So I saw him yesterday and he said it may be a month or possibly 2 before she moves as he didnt actually kick her out but tells her he will if she doesnt move. So why she may have 2 months... I don't get. He said if he does it that way then it won't be like they are in a feud and he can show the house? I say he needs to get some and just boot her!

I suffer from migraines too and lack of sleep brings them on. I have had more since I moved here in December than I ever had in my life.

Good luck.. I do recommend calling the landlord, and getting all the neighbors to also. I think a registered letter may be a good idea too, to have more documentation.

Nancy

 

[vckums]

We had almost hte same situation here a few years ago. The police would come when we called but the kids would scatter and technically there was nothing they could do, them being renters and all and we had an HOA. They did tell us to call the landlord and tell him that if he didn't control the tennants there'd be a civil suit. Out here each neighbor who would sign the civil suit papers were entitled to $5,000 for each person in that household. Once the landlord sees that high amount(there was a lot of neighbors here ticked off) they got kicked out.

Another thing, build a tall privacy fence. Keep them out of your yard.

 

[Dustin Biery]

WOW!!!! I had a friend direct me to this, and I am glad that she did. I want to say that this saga has brought a smile to my face after a long day at work. I hope you take that as a compliment. Its not often that people can just open up and put this kind of thing out there, I commend you for being as strong as you have been....BUT we all have a breaking point. I think that there have been a ton of great suggestions, and I really dont have anything to add. Just want to say that you are a much stronger person...cause the IEDs that SpottedCrow talked about....It would be on like Donkey Kong!