Im going to be coming and going here for a while.

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by aran, Aug 2, 2007.

  1. aran

    aran Songster

    Apr 28, 2007
    rochester ny
    Hi guys...for those of you who dont know my marriage is over, my wife is leaving in about 5 weeks. Long story which I really dont want to go 3rd parties/drugs/abuse/violence/alcohol issues ( well at least not from me), im just not what she wants anymore i guess. Tough pill to swallow after 20 years but there you go. Anyway my son and I will push on with our chickens, and I am just going to focus on keeping my chin up and being a great dad to my son. My teenage daughter is going to live with her mum and my son is staying with me. They are just going to live around the corner so i will still be seeing them very frequently.

    Anyway if you dont see me around for a while dont worry i will keep popping up from time to time.
  2. ruth

    ruth Life is a Journey

    Jul 8, 2007
    Woodville, MS
    Aran, I'm sorry to hear that. Don't give up - with God all things are possible - even the restoration of marriages and family that seemed over. I'll be praying for you.

  3. arwmommy

    arwmommy Songster

    Apr 13, 2007
    So sorry. That is so challenging. How old is your son?

    How are the kids doing?

    That will be great that you are so close in proximity to each other. My parents divorced when I was 7 (I am the oldest of 4 girls) and they lived within 5 miles of each other until I was married. They were great friends, just crappy partners. I didn't realize how great it was that I got to see both of them all of the time, and that they GOT ALONG until I was older, and sadly realized that it rarely happens that way. The remarraiges were MUCH MUCH MUCH more difficult than the divorce.

    While there is always some bitterness at first, hopefully you guys can still be civil to each other--- it really DOES make it much easier for the kids, and for the two of you, who will have to be in contact with each other forever. (weddings, birthdays, grandchildren, etc.... My parents have been divorced for 27 years and now live in different states, but still see each other at least twice a year for family things they are both invited to!)

    Just do your best, I am so sorry.
  4. pattycake

    pattycake Songster

    May 7, 2007
    fingerlakes, ny
    Oh, Aran, I'm so sorry! What a crummy thing to happen. I'll be thinking of you --please come to the chicken board when you need to chat!
  5. Poison Ivy

    Poison Ivy Songster

    May 2, 2007
    Naples, Florida
    Your Family is in my Thoughts & Prayers. Just give us a peep when you need someone to talk to.
  6. jackiedon

    jackiedon Songster

    Jun 4, 2007
    Central Arkansas
    Just remember you have a family here and we care about you and are thinking of you.

    It's great you will be close to your daughter.


  7. aran

    aran Songster

    Apr 28, 2007
    rochester ny
    thanks for that guys...actually my wife and I have been best friends since we were 15 when we started dating and we are now in our mid 30s. I dont see that friendship changing anytime soon. I love her as my best friend above all else. Its hard that its not going to be more than that but thats what happens i guess...i will just suck it up, be a big boy and get on with it.
  8. CtlisencedArborist

    CtlisencedArborist Songster

    Jul 20, 2007
    So sry Aran.My folks separated when I was 13.Was a very hard time in my life.Its really good that you will be friends with her and keep the kids close.In my life there was drugs,booze,needles...etc are what count....and babies!=chx's[​IMG]
  9. aran

    aran Songster

    Apr 28, 2007
    rochester ny
    I couldnt agree more...I think more than anything its just the shock of it being over which Im dealing with. I mean apart from being man and wife we will always be best friends and will still be spending heaps of time together as a family. My kids will be staying between the two houses and we are only going to live about 1 mile apart. We have already started making plans for next xmas together. As i said im sad obviously but i love my kids and my wife and i believe that if we are meant to end up together again that we will one day...who knows crazier things have happened.
  10. Lunachick

    Lunachick Chicken Slave

    Mar 19, 2007
    Brick, NJ
    Good luck with everything Aran.

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