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rebelcowboysnb said:
I text if I need to tell my brother to call our dad or some other short thing. If I actually need to talk to someone I will drive to their house an talk. I have never felt right talking to someone that I could not look in the eye.


An I dont even check my computer, phone or TV if I have company.
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That last sentence...is what we call respect.
 
drumstick diva said:
Well it's true things have changed but, I think boys were never really brave enough to approach a Hot chick. They would ask their friends to find out if so and so girl liked them first, and vice versa with the girls.

I was very shy - the only time I was the aggressor was when I found a boy shyer than me. Then I felt powerful. The shy guy would get pumped because I (was very pretty way back when) was giving them lots of attention. As soon as their confidence bloomed - they figured the sky was the limit & traded up. Ah me - the story of my life.
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I never had any issues. I learned early on that the pretty girls got asked out the least. I didnt ask many out though cause I didnt have time for all that. Most of my freinds were an still are girls an what little free time I had was spent with them. Over half of them told me later that they had a thing for me. That never crossed my mind back then though.

I had it easy back then though. I was expected to be the aggressor an girls were expected to take that as a compliment even if they were not interested. I remember the first time a girl approached me vividly. I was in college at the time. I was spending more time in the city an was killing time at the mall. Girl bumped in to me twice in a radio shack then started talking to me about TVs. I was being nice an talking to her but it never crossed my mind what I now know was going on. I Just assumed the chick was clumsy cause girls didnt do that where I was from. I bet she left that store lost as to why this dumb country boy didnt get her hints...


But like I said, I had it easy. Any guy in the school could ask out any girl in the school know that the worst thing that would happen is to be politely declined. Girls today make a scene if they are hit on by someone they dont want to go out with. It can be downright rude an very public. Things have changes big time in the last 10 years. I got to watch the change an get use to it, even learning how to handle the rude responses. The kids I mentored though, that is their life. They have watched others get shot down hard an dont want to take the chance. The effect of that is that most girls are not being asked out by anyone anymore, many of which thinking something is wrong with them. You also have a rise in guys hitting on girls is a rude an sarcastic way. I think that is also cause by fear of rejection.
 
Correction.. I was asked out once in HS by a girl that had just moved there. She just bluntly asked me out though an I was not suprised by it after being around her before hand an learning she did not fit what was my normal. Dated her for a while an then later her sister.
 
rebelcowboysnb said:
I never had any issues. I learned early on that the pretty girls got asked out the least. I didnt ask many out though cause I didnt have time for all that. Most of my freinds were an still are girls an what little free time I had was spent with them. Over half of them told me later that they had a thing for me. That never crossed my mind back then though.

I had it easy back then though. I was expected to be the aggressor an girls were expected to take that as a compliment even if they were not interested. I remember the first time a girl approached me vividly. I was in college at the time. I was spending more time in the city an was killing time at the mall. Girl bumped in to me twice in a radio shack then started talking to me about TVs. I was being nice an talking to her but it never crossed my mind what I now know was going on. I Just assumed the chick was clumsy cause girls didnt do that where I was from. I bet she left that store lost as to why this dumb country boy didnt get her hints...


But like I said, I had it easy. Any guy in the school could ask out any girl in the school know that the worst thing that would happen is to be politely declined. Girls today make a scene if they are hit on by someone they dont want to go out with. It can be downright rude an very public. Things have changes big time in the last 10 years. I got to watch the change an get use to it, even learning how to handle the rude responses. The kids I mentored though, that is their life. They have watched others get shot down hard an dont want to take the chance. The effect of that is that most girls are not being asked out by anyone anymore, many of which thinking something is wrong with them. You also have a rise in guys hitting on girls is a rude an sarcastic way. I think that is also cause by fear of rejection.
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I had a quite a few guys later on after high school say they would have asked me out, but were afraid that I would say no. What? This was in the 70's. It sure is different today. Girls >> text my son, ask, what ya doin on Sat? Let's do something. And, there is usually something already thought of. Off they go..usually a group for now, but he is seeing one girl more than others now. ;)) I like her.
 
rebelcowboysnb said:
I learned early on that the pretty girls got asked out the least.

But like I said, I had it easy. Any guy in the school could ask out any girl in the school know that the worst thing that would happen is to be politely declined. Girls today make a scene if they are hit on by someone they dont want to go out with. It can be downright rude an very public.
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That first statement. #truth. Lol

The second. That happened to me the day after I got asked out the first time. Only I was brought up well and was nice to the guy. Although I was a little flustered since he came to my office with a bunch of other people and I'd never had to tell a guy no before.
 
Cynthia12 said:
I had a quite a few guys later on after high school say they would have asked me out, but were afraid that I would say no. What? This was in the 70's. It sure is different today.
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I dont think being afraid to ask someone out is a new thing but it had no basis in reality before. Nothing bad would ever actually happen. The fears guys have always had are now real things girls actually do when asked out. Its not a "no" anymore but a "how dare you speak to me." Girls that are not that way are picking up the slack an being the aggressor. Its probably a lot easier for them to be to. Guys do a lot of non nice stuff but being rude to a girl for asking him out would get other guys questioning their sexuality.
 
Lothiriel said:
That first statement. #truth. Lol

The second. That happened to me the day after I got asked out the first time. Only I was brought up well and was nice to the guy. Although I was a little flustered since he came to my office with a bunch of other people and I'd never had to tell a guy no before.
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So nothing an then twice in 2 days? Interesting...... So is the second guy one of your friends or are the two guys friends? Second guy clearly had to know about the first guy cause that timing can not be just coincidence...


An good for you for being nice.
 
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