isnt it odd...

[shadowpaints]

How just ONE word that a person uses that isnt directed towards you or anyone you love can just set you off? i was down right offended by my worker that comes on the weekends when he used one word to describe a movie, and i think i scared the ever living daylights out of him. i think that he was sure i was going to haul off and hit him! im glad i reacted that way tho, now there is one less person in this world that will use that word

 

[Mahonri]

Good job!

 

[annaraven]

Good for you!

 

[welsummerchicks]

It is not anyone's place to go postal at work, especially not over one word spoken to someone else on the weekend.

It is different, of course, if someone slams you up against a locker and snarls the word in your face, together with threats or ***ual remarks. There is a matter of tolerating the occasional slip, and, especially if your Employee Handbook says nothing about language and you know there is a history in your company of tolerating it, of you personally tolerating different language at the office.

If it continues, and is not a one time thing, keep it cool, speak quietly privately to the person, in polite tones, in the way you wish him to talk in your presence. Tell him that word is offensive to you and makes you uncomfortable, and you hope that you and he can work this out without you having to bring anyone else further up into the discussion.

If he does not stop speak just as calmly and politely to your supervisor. 'I find Jim's language offensive given my beliefs. Is there anything you can do to help me with this problem?'

I would NOT go to my supervisor over ONE WORD ONCE. But for a pattern and only after discussing it politely, privately, not in a public confrontation with the person where s/he is forced to react as negatively as he is approached.

Complaints to managers are like gold nuggests. Use them wisely, and use them very, very sparingly. Or things have a way of boomeranging back on you.

 

[Camelot Farms]

I try to live by the theory that if you arent saying NO to something that it wrong/inappropriate, then by default you are saying YES.

Good for you for standing up in your beliefs.

 

[Sjisty]

I guess I"m old school, but there is just some language that a man doesn't use in front of a woman. Of course a certain "word" is gaining quite a bit of popularity in use by women, too. My hubby had a coworker who came over once and was using a certain "word" constantly. I finally asked him if he used that word in front of his wife. He said yes. I told him, "Well, I will thank you not to use it in front of me." He looked a bit confused and said, "I'm sorry, at least I didn't use the "C" word."

I like to be treated with respect, and I treat everyone else with respect. Certain words have no place in or out of the workplace, and if that makes me a prude, so be it.

 

[Royd]

Sometimes, certain words, when said with the proper inflection, says more than a hundred other words...Sort of like a picture is worth a thousand words concept.

Remember the scream therapy of the late '70's or early '80's? You were supposed to go into a room and scream, until you felt better....Well, I have a different version of the concept...It's call cuss therapy...If things don't go the way you plan, you just let out a string of selective curse words, and you instantly feel better. Not that the situation has actually improved.

 

[shadowpaints]

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thanks but, lol no need to go to the manager, i am the manager lol. i hire every weekend to come do odd jobs for me

 

[Rammy]

Im confused. What word did this person use that set you off about a movie?


Rammy

 

[Ec_Prokta]

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It was probably a word typically used for 'slow' kids and/or to describe a male person's particular... *ahem* preference.

Either way, while I agree that no one should use those words to insult one another, I don't think you had to scare him.