It begins: Attack of the Momzilla (update post 62)

[clport]

As others have suggested you do, I got married the first time in another country. My ex-husband and I went to New Zealand, just the two of us, and stayed for a whole month! We spent only the equivalent of US $6000 on the whole thing....wedding included. We got married in the cathedral in Christchurch, NZ, with all the trimmings. I shipped my gown and his tux over there before we left, we had a Bentley take us to the church, bells rang, after the ceremony we went punting on the River Avon with a champagne toast. We spared no expense the whole trip. After we got back home to Texas, we had a party. The ONLY way to go in my opinion! Good luck and do what you want to do!!

 

[JennsPeeps]

UPDATE!!

Tonight I talked with her again. She was a total downer and I got mad and told her that:
* she's going to have to deal with "feeling sad" that my wedding isn't what she envisioned for me
* my wedding isn't about her, it's about DF and me
* she might have left a lot cool things behind in IL (long story short: my mom mooches off relatives for 3 months every spring and just returned) but she came back into a really exciting and joyful time in my life
* DF and I want her support and for her to share in our excitement about getting married
* since she and my father aren't paying for my wedding, if people don't agree with how we're going it and think it's trashy, it won't reflect on them one bit (she disagreed)
* since DF and I are paying for the wedding ourselves, we have to stick to a VERY tight budget and that meant minimal food, a rustic setting, and inexpensive accoutrements. We'd upgrade if we could (hint hint... crickets) but since the budget hasn't seemed to materialize, we're doing what we can.

DF and I have HAD it. We're been engaged for 3 days and she's moping about and being a PITA. We won't play whatever game she's playing.

 

[saddina]

I'm sorry she's like this, plan the wedding you want, and she'll show up or not, either way you let her "win" now and she'll think she gets a vote in everything from here out.

 

[danielle82]

I think those are some great responses, those answers should be hard to argue with

 

[FrenchHen]

Get Purple Chicken to act as your parent bouncer. She slips, she bounces.

Buy her some wax lips and tell her to wear a plastic smile if she must.

 

[redhen]

Send her the link to this thread....

maybe she'll get it after she hears what so many people have to say about it..

 

[WriterofWords]

Go for the shock value, tell her that since your budget was so small you volunteered to be on My Big Fat Redneck Wedding and your ring bearers are going to be chickens with pillows strapped on their backs and cute little hats on their heads.
Then you're going to go to a premier showing of You Might Be A Redneck if most of your wedding guests had feathers!
Then after she faints have her locked up until your wedding is over and then you can release her back into the wild.

 

[redhen]

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[danielle82]

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OMGosh FUNNY

 

[Judy]

OF COURSE, the choices that you and DF make are valid for the two of you. By definition. End of conversation. I suspect that she actually gets this, whether she would admit it or not.

Sounds to me like she wants someone, or others, to believe she and your father paid for the wedding, or contributed. Her problem. I wouldn't take a dime at this point. I'd go to a JP first. (Their secretaries are fine as the witness.)

Also sounds to me like you both have your heads screwed on quite straight about the whole situation.

Have a great marriage!