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Do you think things could change (SEE him more) if now that the kids are older, you got a part time job to help with $ issues, or made up for it by trying to have more of the things he normally does already done, like the lawn mowed, or walk shoveled, cars taken for their oil change, stuff like that? Would it make a difference with him?
If those things are done when he gets home, spending time with you will become an option for him
I do have a sporatic partime job with the school district,kind of an oncall thing. I did have a part time job as a vet tech for 12 years,that ended abruptly 3 years ago. I've had hip dislpaysia all my life, but it started causing problems about 10 years ago. When I got laid off from being a vet tech, my hip displaysia had started to kick into full gear, so I guess that happened for a reason. As for getting stuff done, so he doesn't have to when he gets home, it is really hard for me to do stuff like mow the lawn, we have 1 1/2 acres, with a walk behinhttp://
www.backyardchickens.com/forum/help.php#smiliesd mower. I used to do it all the time, this was the first summer I didn't. We live in the country, so no walk to shovel, and his business takes care of all automotive stuff. I still do more than I should, in regards to my hips. I had the right one replaced in June, and the left will be done in December, But still, I clean out the goat barn, ( which requires pushing about 5 wheel burrows full of junk through mud and muck, doesn't exactly feel good on the 'ole hips and back), take care of all the other pets, chickens, cats, dogs and goats. We have a mini farm, and I take care of about 90% of it. I'm not extactly sitting on my tush all day. I do all the cleaning, grocery shopping, accounting, house care, animal care, laundry, cooking, and now Christmas shopping. I understand what you are saying, don't get me wrong. But all the stuff he has to do when he is not working, is stuff I really can't do, like mow the lawn. Honestly, he finds things to do when he's at home, regardelss. I try not to ask him to do stuff, just because I don't want him to feel like he has to do everything, even though I do plenty. He told me that when he was power washing the neighbors roof, which is where he is again right now, that he wanted to be home. But then admitted that he would of done it anyway whether the neighbor paid him or not, since he likes to help people when they need it. I like that trait in him, but sometimes he doesn't know when to say no. Sorry to hijack the thread.
It does sound like you help out alot and in pain too. sorry to hear it. It's not so much we are hijacking the thread, we are keeping it going by putting it up top in the 'recent postings' section!!
I hope something can change that brings him to you for more time! Maybe colder weather will bring him inside a bit more.
