love

[juniorf150]

Do you feel like you love or show more love in a relationship then the other person

 

[maxxsmommy]

yes, I totally understand where you are coming from! I am more of the "show" love type, my husband says it sometimes but hardly shows it..

 

[featherfinder]

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Same with me. Except we are only engaged.

 

[Criskin]

I'm the more physically affectionate of the two of us but he is much more thoughtful than I am so it kind of evens out.

 

[redhen]

I'd say my husband shows me more "love" than i show him... Hes always doing thoughtful, kind things for me.
I can be a grump sometimes..

 

[Alicia G]

I think each person shows affection (or love) in there own way. Sometimes its not as obvious, but that doesn't mean that he/she does not care as much

 

[justbugged]

I think we just have different styles of showing love. He wants to fix things, and I'm more of a let me feed you girl. We do end every phone call with an "Love you", but I tend to do that with a bigger group of people. We've only been together for nearly 30 years now, so what do I know?

 

[sourland]

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Redhen a grump?

No way!

The eensie, weensie spider went up the person's snout
The eensie, weensie spider went in the Redhen's mout'
The eensie, weensie

Ya Redhen.

 

[arabianequine]

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Hands down I do but I have had recent issues....with my husband cheating so that is what I see and how I feel.

 

[punk-a-doodle]

I feel like I'm on an even-keel with my husband, both in saying and showing affection, which is probably one reason why this is my only non-friendship relationship that has had any sort of bond, let alone a natural and strong one. He's very, very introspective, and I have social anxiety, and we're the only people we've ever met that we feel as comfortable with together as when we are alone.

Past relationships...heck, I didn't even want to hold hands. XD It took a long time to meet someone that was right for me, and who I was right for. If he dies before me, it's back to feeling like and unmatched sock and charity or police type/risky work (what I originally planned to do), because I don't expect to meet anyone else who comes close to that level of connection. If I die first...I strongly hope he finds someone to help him through that time.

Friendship wise, I tend to connect best with easy going and kind people, so it really doesn't seem to matter if one person is more eager about the friendship than the other. We get together whenever, and help each other when it is needed and asked for. No prying, no gossip, and no sense of obligation. Seems to work great.

It's always good to stand back and see why a relationship feels or is one-sided. It's something a *good* therapist can really help one with if the problem is serious enough and affects a person's mood and thought process. I could easily have seen myself go down a road into unhealthy unhappiness dead-end lane. It took a lot of work and a lot of luck to end up on a level self-aware and aware of others enough to find what worked for me. Had I not met who I did and learned what I did, I'd probably be unhappily married to the person my parents chose, or in an unhealthy relationship I didn't have enough coping skills and self-confidence (and complete inability to get over the feeling of: "I'll hurt their feelings) to get out of. It's scary how likely that was to happen to me, and how unlikely I would have been able to escape from that.