My coop is going to end up in a divorce!

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Good garden o' peas! If he wants to build it, let him. When I think of the things we fought about thirty years ago they hardly seem important. I once had 129 guinea pigs. When I think of the money I spent, I don't know why she didn't pack up and leave. So I try to think of that and she is the most precious person, thing in my life. Oh sure she's done foolish things too, but this is life.

When I said I wanted to get chickens and she was fine with that, I thought it was the right thing. Now however I can see things have gotten out of hand and are just snowballing. I'm ready to cut my losses and just give these birds away. I'm just to blankety blank cheap.

I've got chicks comin out of my ears, and more on the way with three hens brooding. What started out as 25 is now nearly 50.

So what's my point? Do you love him or not? If you do then roll with it and hang on. I can attest that the best is yet to come.

All the best
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We have had our arguments, just like the rest of ya'll, and sometimes after I've offered help and he's refused and then he hurts himself its really tempting to say "Well, now I bet you had accepted my offer". Instead, I let him cuss it out, kiss it better, and then make him sit down so I can take over for a while smile Some people tend to let one person do it all, some people want to do it all with no help, and some people are able to work together as a team. Find what works best for your team and make that happen. If that means he builds it while you make dinner and clean up his work area while he's working, or he does that while you build it, or you do the nailing while he does the cutting, just make it happen!

Well said! Every domestic team has to find it's own balance.​
 
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i love it when my hubby goes outside and builds things with me, 1.) he is a complete techy , computer geek and non - outside person and 2.) he is severly allergic to anything that has anything to do with out side, and can not take many allergy meds. (so far he is not allergic to the chickens tho
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yet) so anything he does for me outside i know is a HUGE ordeal for him. even when i try to convince him i can do it, so that he doesnt have to suffer with the allergies he still is out there with me , that just shoes how much he cares
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thru thick and thin, laughing and cussing, and his sneezing , watery runny eyes we get thru it
 
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Ya mean, "if you have time to do it over, you had time to do it right in the first place!"?

We use up extra, leftover wood, nails, etc., but just for the reasons pokeytolman states, we don't usually reuse things that have been used to build something else. Usually, you notice I say!There are exceptions to every rule. We are also blessedly fortunate that we can afford to buy new supplies to build our things. We don't waste much, but we are careful what we re use things for. Everyone has to make their own decisions based on their own situation. Good luck to all!
 
To those who mentioned possibly also being married to my hubby:
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Yeah, there are more than one of him around!!

And I do appreciate all that he's doing with this build. The thing is going to be awesome when he's done. I haven't put the new pics up on my page yet, but we have rafters up and roofing (at least the sheathing) should go on this weekend. Part of the problem is that he works all week long, and so the time he can spend on it during the week is limited. It's been mostly a weekend project. Plus, I don't do power tools! But I have helped as much as I can with it. I can't wait to see it all done!

Here's to all the good guys out there!
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For those who have never recycled before if you recycle old lumber and stuff expect to throw away and dispose of at least half the materials. The biggest barn I tore down was 100x100 and fairly new. It was 20 years or less old and I still had to do away with half or better. The barn had fell down due to a large tractor hitting it and due to a bad foundation. Even with that I had to take another good size barn down to get enough materials. As far as houses today for the most part pass. Due to lead you have to be trained on doing anything to one. so don't even touch anything like that. Or don't touch anything with the old shingle siding. As far as electrical goes for the most part pass on it. The only thing I reused was antique light fixtures but I got lucky and bought a box of new sockets for 3 bucks at a yard sale. The person had them from a local factory and I got enough to redo my light fixtures. As far as the fixtures goes the only thing that was old was the brass and porcelain of the chandelier. But I have worked as a electrician so I was familiar with replacing all of that. Most of the savings on building my house came from buying liquidated items. I did put used antique doors up that were in great shape. As far as my shop goes it is a great building. It orginally was 40x24 and took two salvaged buildings to make it. I took a third one down to do a addition to make it now 52x30. Its all solid oak in the building and the difference in it and a building made from sawmill lumber is that the lumber had a grey patina and it was air dried and cured. So I have not noticed any warping from new lumber. I only have around 2200 in the entire building but be warned this extreme bit of recycling is not for the faint of heart. Its about twice as much work as just building one. But for me taking one down is extremely relaxing. I also tore down buildings for elderly people who needed them down and could not do it themselves. So everyone benefited from them coming down.
 
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Ya mean, "if you have time to do it over, you had time to do it right in the first place!"?

We use up extra, leftover wood, nails, etc., but just for the reasons pokeytolman states, we don't usually reuse things that have been used to build something else. Usually, you notice I say!There are exceptions to every rule. We are also blessedly fortunate that we can afford to buy new supplies to build our things. We don't waste much, but we are careful what we re use things for. Everyone has to make their own decisions based on their own situation. Good luck to all!

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I am an electrician and even though it keeps me busy I hate seeing people that have spent time and or money on something and then have to do it over because something is wrong with one small piece of it. But back to the original topic, even though the wife may have had her doubts about my lack of a plan except in my head . she did ultimately trust me to build a nice looking coop. Her words. and thats what its all about. we did stink-eye each other a couple of times though
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I did not know what my coop was going to look like until we have 2 walls and the floor done now I see his plan I told him I needed a bigger coop he made the plans he has reused old pallets for the walls the flooring and framing are new just the boards for the walls and the windows are used he is also making the nest boxes so I can get to them from the outside attached to my coop is my storage area for my chickens (i did not know he was doing this) okay i figured out he wanted his tool shed back and didn't want to share it with the crazy chicken ladies chicken stuff. lol. but I am very happy that he is building the coop for me, he also helped me with my raised garden this year and put up a fence to keep the chickens out of it. I am always grateful for all the work he puts into my hobbies and I support his hobbies but I do understand about the fights I think we have just got to a point after almost 17 years that we don't fight just talk it out or wait and it works out on itself..
 

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