MY grades and parents

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Well, did the punishment fit? Were you required to study more, spend less time on distracting things? Were their expectations realistic for you? Were you praised and/or rewarded for other areas of life in which you excelled? Was your sister repremanded for areas of her life in which she could have excelled, but didn't?

When the cause of a low grade was not obvious (and sometimes even then), I always requested a teacher conference to discuss the situation, determine what could be done to prevent the low grade from recurring. There are times with each of my kids when I can honestly say that the issue was my child, other times when it was the teacher and other times when it was both. It is not fair to punish a child for something that is beyond their control, but the reality is that every choice in life has consequences--some immediate, some much later; some strong and unmistakable, others subtle; and of course, some favourable and some not so.

As a parent, my goal is to raise a responsible, thinking adult who makes reasoned decisions, and who can excel in any career he/she chooses. Just as I would be remiss in not potty training my child or teaching him/her to walk and talk or how to do common household chores, I would be remiss if I ignored their education or left it entirely up to them with no parental oversight.

 

[M To The Maxx]

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My grandpa gives me $20 for every A and $5 every B. My mom and dad either let me get another chickens if I get straight A's or if I get like 1 B I get money from them.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

We reward A's and B's with $; but with C's or lower, they pay us.

 

[Wildsky]

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My grandpa gives me $20 for every A and $5 every B. My mom and dad either let me get another chickens if I get straight A's or if I get like 1 B I get money from them.

thats a pretty sweet deal!

 

[Year of the Rooster]

I don't get a big reward for good grades, but neither do I get a big scolding for doing poorly. I guess that's high school for ya

I've only ever gotten one C+ before and that was in Algebra II last year for 1 semester. The satisfaction of having an A is all I need. My parents know I have a lot going on and are understandable. But if anything get's lower than a C then things might get worse.

 

[cthrash1]

My DD is really smart... Usually all As through school... She also took the honors classes throughout and an AP(same as your IP I guess) US history in her senior yr. She always slacked off on one of her classes and would have a C halfway through the semester and it always gave me high blood pressure... But she always pulled through by the end of the semester and ended with B or B+... I was happy with that. She is now in her 2nd yr of college and doing great. Now my 11yo Son on the other hand is super smart too but he is ADHD/Dyslexic and it really gives him trouble on paper trying to keep his focus on what he's writing(with all the little movements and sounds going on) and writing it neat enough to be legible. If they would let him do everything orally or on a keyboard he would have all A's... But as it is, we are happy when he gets all Cs and thrilled when there is some As and Bs in there.

 

[Blackbird]

Like Year Of The Rooster, I have never really gotten in trouble for bad grades. I also have never gotten any reward for good grades. As long as I tried my best that is all that mattered; I guess grades were never exactly that important as my mother always felt school curriculum does not measure one's education because a majority of curriculum is often not even used. And just because someone has a bad grade on a test does not mean that they do not know it.

Other certain family members always expect me to fail and have also told me to drop out of school;
That said I usually get straight A's.

 

[fowltemptress]

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I wondered if there were other people who did that. Eight classes was one too many for me to focus on, so each semester I would choose one class to ignore and wind up failing it for that quarter. Since I took turns doing this with the classes, the end of the year would average out with me having As and Bs in all my classes. When I started doing that I thought my mother was going to kill me, but when I tried to focus on doing well in all 8 classes my grades would average out to all Cs by the end of the year. I did better when I was failing a class, as weird as that sounds. My mother backed off when she realized I really did know what I was doing, but there were scary moments with her before that. She was a teacher in the same district, so it didn't help that all my teachers could run to her with issues about me before I had a chance to confess and try to lighten the blow.

 

[Beekissed]

school curriculum does not measure one's education because a majority of curriculum is often not even used. And just because someone has a bad grade on a test does not mean that they do not know it.

I would agree with this. I made excellent grades in school, always have, but this is not a measure of one's intelligence or how well they will succeed in this world.

 

[M To The Maxx]

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My grandpa gives me $20 for every A and $5 every B. My mom and dad either let me get another chickens if I get straight A's or if I get like 1 B I get money from them.

thats a pretty sweet deal!

It doesn't happpen all the time though. Sometimes my parents make me a special dinner (usually spaghetti

) and other things.