My heart breaks

[KristyHall]

I was married to a police officer for 6 years. They used to have " choir practice " at our house eg. sit around all night get drunk and tell stories. Some of the stuff they got away with would have put anyone else in the penitentiary. This happened over 30 years ago in a rural town outside Chicago. It's gotten a lot worse since then. There is no excuse for what they did but believe me, some have done worse. They just haven't got caught yet.

I've been around my fair share of officers, and I have known some wonderful ones, and some that scare the crap out of me. what's sad is how many of the DV victims that come through our local women's shelter, are running from police husband/boyfriends. The new sheriff has helped to put a stop to a lot of that in this area, but the local shelter still gets women from other counties with the same problem. the new sheriff has made a name for herself being tough on domestic violence and when she ran for sheriff everyone in the local shelter and crises services groups voted for her. I hope she stays for years to come.

 

[hemet dennis]

I was married to a police officer for 6 years. They used to have " choir practice " at our house eg. sit around all night get drunk and tell stories. Some of the stuff they got away with would have put anyone else in the penitentiary. This happened over 30 years ago in a rural town outside Chicago. It's gotten a lot worse since then. There is no excuse for what they did but believe me, some have done worse. They just haven't got caught yet.

Maybe all cops should be fired.

 

[FuzzyButtsFarm]

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He ultimately became a physically abusive alcoholic but everyone on the outside thought he was wonderful. You never know what goes on behind closed doors and back then you didn't talk about it. You didn't have the support groups you have available now. I feel for all the women who end up in a shelter but at least it's a start to a new life.

 

[KristyHall]

He ultimately became a physically abusive alcoholic but everyone on the outside thought he was wonderful. You never know what goes on behind closed doors and back then you didn't talk about it. You didn't have the support groups you have available now. I feel for all the women who end up in a shelter but at least it's a start to a new life.

glad you got out

 

[chickened]

I was married to a police officer for 6 years. They used to have " choir practice " at our house eg. sit around all night get drunk and tell stories. Some of the stuff they got away with would have put anyone else in the penitentiary. This happened over 30 years ago in a rural town outside Chicago. It's gotten a lot worse since then. There is no excuse for what they did but believe me, some have done worse. They just haven't got caught yet.

You should know then that it is a cops' job to deal with the people that you or I choose not to deal with. Including this homeless man which would not be homeless if someone had helped him out personally. They cannot choose. That effects them and "choir practice" was most likely their way of dealing with what bothered them about their job.

I have seen way more instances of cops taking out someone by force that needed it then the random abuse cases

 

[kathyinmo]

The video didnt show enough evidence either way.. IMO
It only showed a few seconds of a man resisting arrest... not sure what all happend..

I do know that its a shame that so many mentally ill people are homeless... its shouldnt be happening here in our country.

Did you watch the entire 33 minutes? You saw a man resisting arrest? Really? Where did that start?

....... Including this homeless man which would not be homeless if someone had helped him out personally............

Ohhhhhhhhh, you are soooooooo wrong about this. I speak from experience. Not only am I a psych nurse, I also have a 37 year old schizophrenic son. He has rights. One of those rights is to refuse treatment, refuse to take his meds, and refuse help. He also has the right to be homeless. Sometimes, when he is sooooooo sick, we have to go to court and get him court ordered help. That is only a temporary fix. You see, when he is "well," and taking his meds, he is then free to do what he wants to again. It is endless ............ Ohhhh, I could go on and on..... but I will spare you.

Not every schizophrenic has family willing to do what we do. If you don't live with it, you really have no idea..... other than what you can imagine. The pain and fear I live with; I can not even describe it in just a few words. When I saw that entire 33 minute video, I was sick to my stomach and sick in my heart. I could see my son there. I have seen him look exactly as Kelly looked.... the disheveled look with long hair, unshaven, etc....

Ohhhh, I need to ban myself from this thread......

 

[herfrds]

Cannot watch the video.

There is a person who is mentally ill in a town south of us. He refuses to take his meds.
The community looks out for him.
There was a big stink awhile back because the local law enforcement had to take his shopping cart. It was piled over 6 feet high with stuff. It was now a hazard.
LEO empitied the cart of most of the stuff to make it safe and returned it.
The guy refused to take it back, His mental illness has him refuse to take anything someone else has touched.

 

[sourland]

Kathy, it is not you who should ban themself from this thread.

 

[kathyinmo]

 

[cupman]

Man that is really sad sounding, kathyinmo. Terrified of things that aren't even there... how do you even help in that situation? I had a schizophrenic friend that only developed symptoms around age 20, I haven't seen much of them since. It's not that I'm nervous by them or anything they are just ill and do their own thing, hard to keep in contact. Most people know chickened's comments were very incorrect and mental illness is not treated with money or room and board. He is a bit callous to things he doesn't understand so it's somewhat of a broad spectrum. Please don't feel you are causing problems here, your posts are very informational.