My leukemia's back.

[oldrooster]

Just blah myself...doing paperwork which always bumps me...

Eldest kid took a learning disability test friday... results don't come in until Wednesday....

But testing doc said she guessed from the teaching history that I gave her that the kid has ADD, dyslexia, and aspergers.

Really? All of them?

My baby sis said "oh yeah, I totally see that"

The shrink he is going to twice a week said nope, 2 months of twice a week visits will not get his head screwed on straight.... he will need more...

He only has housing in Portland for 2 months... and since his head is NOT yet screwed on straight.... I have doubts that he can support himself at this point....

Whatever... 1 day at a time...

Blooie, forgive me my mind gets full and "deletes" stuff time to time, makes me ask is this he fiercely independent and takes a bus everywhere? or am I trying to mix and match stories of my BYC friends?

 

[oldrooster]

What @Blooie said. He does fine in social situations... he just has a few odd responses... (has trouble in smoothly ending a conversation) and is incapable of reading body cues.

Yes I understand how that can happen to me this is a misswireing or misfiring of the brain in MHO and it varies from person to person, and it might also be how he was raised and the environment he lived in, it may have caused his brain to fix itself in some respects. why I cay that is because in many such disorders someone stumbles on an early diagnosis and/or some sort of therapy for something else and it either "fixes" or at least lessens the toll of the problem. I point out several years ago there was a disorder (God forgive I can't remember what it was) that was late in diagnoses and therefore treatment was delayed until symptoms developed and they were later years of childhood, and someone noticed those kids did not crawl (or barely did) but started walking almost immediately, and one of the therapies was literally having the kids crawl to help re=wire the brain. I know weird right? I understand it might not be as simple as that but sometimes life is strange like that....

 

[Alaskan]

Yes I understand how that can happen to me this is a misswireing or misfiring of the brain in MHO and it varies from person to person, and it might also be how he was raised and the environment he lived in, it may have caused his brain to fix itself in some respects. why I cay that is because in many such disorders someone stumbles on an early diagnosis and/or some sort of therapy for something else and it either "fixes" or at least lessens the toll of the problem. I point out several years ago there was a disorder (God forgive I can't remember what it was) that was late in diagnoses and therefore treatment was delayed until symptoms developed and they were later years of childhood, and someone noticed those kids did not crawl (or barely did) but started walking almost immediately, and one of the therapies was literally having the kids crawl to help re=wire the brain. I know weird right? I understand it might not be as simple as that but sometimes life is strange like that....

I have heard about that too... can't remember what crawling is supposed to do (but I remember it is supposed to help the 2 brain hemispheres to connect better)... but yeah, something important....

 

[Alaskan]

He sounds like a perfectly normal human to me.

Funny

Blooie, forgive me my mind gets full and "deletes" stuff time to time, makes me ask is this he fiercely independent and takes a bus everywhere? or am I trying to mix and match stories of my BYC friends?

My eldest.. he doesn't drive, so yes goes by bus... I don't know if I would call him fiercely independent... but impressively stubborn.... yes.

And nah... his issues are not due to environment.... and no... in his case I think all of the early intervention that could have been done was done...

There was some stuff I wanted to do and couldn't because he HAS to think it is a good idea before he will work to change.

Luckily he does now clearly see that there are things that need to change... so he is working hard to change them.

And he is now 20...

He signed a release so his doctors can talk to me... they tell me that he is clearly motivated and working hard to learn better coping skills.

 

[getaclue]

Al, you and yours are in my prayers, as always.

 

[room onthebroom]

Funny

I hope you don't think I was being flippant. My extended family is an awkward combo of ADD/ADHD, depression, learning disabilities, dyslexia, mild OCD & Asperger's. We even have a couple hoarders. We're a crazy bunch. I know you're worried & frustrated. Hang in there!

 

[Alaskan]

I hope you don't think I was being flippant. My extended family is an awkward combo of ADD/ADHD, depression, learning disabilities, dyslexia, mild OCD & Asperger's. We even have a couple hoarders. We're a crazy bunch. I know you're worried & frustrated. Hang in there!

Nah... I took it in the lighthearted way it was meant.

"Normal" and "average" are way overrated. Probably boring too.

But I really wouldn't know.

 

[Alaskan]

Poor eldest kid... he got lost on the bus again today...

Poor kid.

He can learn new things... but dang, going from tiny podunk to Portland is a bit confusing.

Luckily it doesn't bother him... but he did say that by the time he finally got to the library he was too mentally exhausted to do any learning stuff... so just read some junk books and enjoyed himself before heading home.

 

[getaclue]

Tell him not to give up, and not to become too frustrated if he gets lost. It's NORMAL. Hang in there. When I was 12 is when my family first moved overseas. Even though I had been raised here until the age of 12, and we'd come back on vacations, so I mostly knew where I was at, it took me almost 2 weeks to learn how to get home correctly, without going out of my way. I had been too young to actually drive here. For whatever reason, I would end up on 92. Yes, I knew my way home from 92, but I wasn't suppose to end up on 92 to begin with. It took me almost 2 weeks to figure it out, and I was not coming a small podunk town to a big city that was totally unfamiliar.

I can totally understand his frustration trying to navigate a strange, large city, and getting lost. It's stressful. Some of these college campuses are as big as some small cities, so they too take awhile to learn to navigate, without getting completely lost. It takes time, and perseverance.

Heck, when we moved to this town, I had to learn to navigate my way around. Had it not been for my Garmin, or Google navigation on my phone, I would have probably stayed lost most of the time. When I'm going to a new store, business, doctor, lab, etc., I still use it. Most of the business district is miles of strip centers on both sides of the roads, with an entrance for each strip center. The navigation system makes it a lot easier to figure out which of the entrances to pull into, to get to the specific place I'm wanting. That way I'm not hunting the entrance, blocking traffic, missing the turn, and having to turn around, and go back.

 

[bruceha2000]

(has trouble in smoothly ending a conversation) and is incapable of reading body cues.

I have a problem with that first one, ask @Blooie But I can generally read body cues.

I have heard about that too... can't remember what crawling is supposed to do (but I remember it is supposed to help the 2 brain hemispheres to connect better)... but yeah, something important....

So THAT is why DD1 is messed up? She crawled ... exactly one time. Though I do think her hemispheres are connected, her issue is the "no idea what caused it to start" 24x7x365 migraine.

but dang, going from tiny podunk to Portland is a bit confusing.

Yes it is!!!!! Podunk anywhere to big city anywhere. Even a NOT big city.

Yes, I knew my way home from 92, but I wasn't suppose to end up on 92 to begin with.

Kinda like DD1. She, DD2 and a friend wanted to go to the ECHO center in Burlington. DD1 new we passed it on the way to the rink from the old house (travelling north) and she knew how to get to the rink for the current house (travelling south) so she went by the rink and kept going until they got to ECHO. Took 50 minutes. Could have done it in 35 if she'd stay on the interstate and gotten off on Main Street in Burlington. But she DID get there.