*sigh* I've been trying to decide how much I can say . . . .
Y'all may remember me telling you about my mother a while back; how she had fallen and shattered her arm, and then had a recurrence of the cancer she had fought about 20 years ago. Well, her doctor tells her her arm has healed about as well as it's going to, and she has tolerated the cancer treatment and her oncologist is about as encouraging as an oncologist is likely to be. At the moment, I'm not terribly concerned about her physical health (I mean, not more than one usually is for someone her age). I am far more concerned about her mental health these days.
Long story short, my older brother is getting divorced. Briefly, a year ago, his wife walked out on him - though, since she can barely dress herself without help, even that statement needs qualifying. An ever-increasing list of health issues means she's "disabled," and I want to believe at least some of this is the work of the people who are -um- 'helping' her.
18 years ago, my family embraced this woman and her children; my parents couldn't love them more if they were their own flesh and blood. The kids are grown and married and both celebrated the birth of baby girls this past spring. My mother has been ecstatic over her "great-grands." SIL had said she hoped she could remain friends with my family after all this, and my mother hoped so, too - she even had SIL come to the family dinner at Christmas. Well, brother got served the divorce papers recently - SIL is accusing him of throwing her out, and is demanding half of everything he has or ever will have (not the house; it's an older home and they owe more than it's worth so she doesn't want that). Since the separation, all kinds of things have gone wrong for her, so I know she's got major problems, but after all this man has endured for her sake over the years, he really doesn't deserve this - especially not the lies. My mother is broken-hearted and furious . . . I guess we all are. Having seen what the stress of their daughter's divorce did to my in-laws, I am deeply concerned about my parents . . . actually, everybody. I see a lot of pain and stress for all concerned; I'm hoping and praying that it doesn't get any worse.
Y'all may remember me telling you about my mother a while back; how she had fallen and shattered her arm, and then had a recurrence of the cancer she had fought about 20 years ago. Well, her doctor tells her her arm has healed about as well as it's going to, and she has tolerated the cancer treatment and her oncologist is about as encouraging as an oncologist is likely to be. At the moment, I'm not terribly concerned about her physical health (I mean, not more than one usually is for someone her age). I am far more concerned about her mental health these days.
Long story short, my older brother is getting divorced. Briefly, a year ago, his wife walked out on him - though, since she can barely dress herself without help, even that statement needs qualifying. An ever-increasing list of health issues means she's "disabled," and I want to believe at least some of this is the work of the people who are -um- 'helping' her.
18 years ago, my family embraced this woman and her children; my parents couldn't love them more if they were their own flesh and blood. The kids are grown and married and both celebrated the birth of baby girls this past spring. My mother has been ecstatic over her "great-grands." SIL had said she hoped she could remain friends with my family after all this, and my mother hoped so, too - she even had SIL come to the family dinner at Christmas. Well, brother got served the divorce papers recently - SIL is accusing him of throwing her out, and is demanding half of everything he has or ever will have (not the house; it's an older home and they owe more than it's worth so she doesn't want that). Since the separation, all kinds of things have gone wrong for her, so I know she's got major problems, but after all this man has endured for her sake over the years, he really doesn't deserve this - especially not the lies. My mother is broken-hearted and furious . . . I guess we all are. Having seen what the stress of their daughter's divorce did to my in-laws, I am deeply concerned about my parents . . . actually, everybody. I see a lot of pain and stress for all concerned; I'm hoping and praying that it doesn't get any worse.
So terribly sorry! Personality issues like that just fell me.... like a tree.... bang.... down in the dirt. 
