My leukemia's back.

[LittleLakePhil]

I keep threatening to get one of those Roomba floor scrubbers. Can't keep up anyway, between the dog and Ken tracking in (in 50 years I have never, EVER been able to get him to take off his shoes when he comes in the house!) so instead of a heavy scrubbing every couple of days at least I could stay on top of it a little bit by running the Roomba just before bed and do a weekly heaving mopping. I hate the floors not being clean. Kendra crawls on these floors, and if they are gritty that bothers her hands and knees, not to mention that everything that gets on the floor ends up on her hands. I do love my Roomba vaccuum. I can't push the big Dyson as easily any more, so the Roomba gets run almost daily. Then I do a deep vacuuming every couple of weeks, and that's been a good system here. Now with the dog, I suppose I should up the big vacuuming to more often, but I don't want to.

Oh you just touched s nerve there.... My wife was all over me today... Cuz I kept tracking snow in when I came in for bathroom breaks today.... Plowed all day... Freaking got 18 " of snow whole we were gone.

 

[bobbi-j]

My son worked hard for what he has too... But it worries me it came too easy... But I'm not sure why it worries me. But the term easy come easy go comes to mind. He's only 36 and tells me he's up for V.P. of ambulatory services for all nine hospitals that Munson owns.... He does have a PHD. So I guess he's qualified..... But he went from a nightshift nurse.... To teaching.... To nurse manager.... To director of nursing..... Now up the ladder again.... It's all dizzying to me.
I'm proud of him..... But I also realize that I see this success and use it to point out my failure.

Or, you can look at it as your success. You raised a son who is a contributing member of society and has done well. That says something about his character, and that is developed as they grow up.

Good evening folks, we had a private showing the undertaker found out the twin sister was throwing a major hissey fit so he said even tho it was not technically legal he said he'd clean mom up dress her and drop her in a coffin for a short-half hour for family only viewing for us kids and her. He nearly flipped his lid to find out that 2 brothers and a s-i-l showed up. twin was throwing a tantrum because mom wasn't "prettied up" well you were told she was washed, hair combed and dressed and dropped in a box (I'm so tired of it I'll stick to brass tacks if you don't mind) then because of discoloring due to decomp (she's been on ice since late sunday but some decomp is expected) and sis was mad because she thought mom's nails were painted, and it was a "sin" to have painted nails esp. painted purple. she thought they did that because her outfit was purple. Mom Loved purple her sister hated it. I almost asked if she wanted to join her but I held my tongue.

to you oldrooster. It's never easy, and your extended family just makes it worse. The service will be over soon, and you can be done with these people.

 

[LittleLakePhil]

Phil, I was reading a letter that a grandfather left for his grandkids. He talked about how he hoped the parents didn't buy them a car when they got their drivers license, and made them work a full summer, before allowing them to have one. No work, no car. No work, no appreciation for what is required in life. He wished they would get made fun of at least once, so they would know what it felt like, and not do it to others. He hoped they would get a black eye at least once, for standing up for something they believed in. He hoped that even though little brother slept in the other room, that the older brother would learn enough compassion to let little brother sleep in his bed when he was scared of a thunderstorm. He hoped little brother would learn compassion, by not being obnoxious when he went to the movie with his big brother, and big brother ran into friends, especially female friends. He hoped they learned to fish, so they would understand that not everything is about money, and the things it buys. He hoped they would get to see a litter of puppies being born, and have to take their pet to the vet for it's final visit, having the compassion to stay with the pet until the end, not just dropping the ball on someone else for the hardest part. It said more, but upon reading it, money alone does not teach important values, and lessons. Those are learned in the struggles of life.

Yeah I love it.... My kids grew up poor...I just don't think they knew it.
I did a lot of side jobs....I even did a bunch of side jobs as I was recovering from my bone marrow transplant. .....I worked year round in my driveway..... Sat out many times working in twenty below on cars.
So I bought my kids everything I could.
But they were raised with those same values....... My other two kids are still very down to earth.
My oldest is just in a while different world than we are.....

 

[bruceha2000]

That's when I remember what he said about people like me that end up married as teenagers....... And he's right.

True. People who marry early and have kids typically do not fare as well monetarily over the long run. It is hard to work full time and go to college and raise kids at the same time. People who do not have kids typically fare better just because that huge expense isn't there. And it sounds like you rescued the mother he wouldn't have had from a bad environment and who knows where she would have ended up.

Look at your son and his material things. How many of them do they actually use and how often? How much of that (making assumptions here) massive master bedroom do they actually use? The bed when they are asleep and not much else. Would you be happier if you had a much bigger boat to fish from? A house with 4X the space filled with furniture you don't use? Enough clothes that you would not need to wear the same shirt but once every month or so?

I'm tempted not to go to the service, it's this weekend. I was there for mom when she needed me, she is no longer here. the shell remains, but the person is gone.

I don't see why you should feel any need to go to the service. You already had the small service. As has been said, the service is for the living to interact with each other, share their grief or whatever. You don't want to see those people so don't put yourself through the agony of spending time with them. If there are any family members you would like to see, invite just them over to your house for a small gathering the next day.

 

[bobbi-j]

True. People who marry early and have kids typically do not fare as well monetarily over the long run. It is hard to work full time and go to college and raise kids at the same time. People who do not have kids typically fare better just because that huge expense isn't there. And it sounds like you rescued the mother he wouldn't have had from a bad environment and who knows where she would have ended up.

Look at your son and his material things. How many of them do they actually use and how often? How much of that (making assumptions here) massive master bedroom do they actually use? The bed when they are asleep and not much else. Would you be happier if you had a much bigger boat to fish from? A house with 4X the space filled with furniture you don't use? Enough clothes that you would not need to wear the same shirt but once every month or so?


I don't see why you should feel any need to go to the service. You already had the small service. As has been said, the service is for the living to interact with each other, share their grief or whatever. You don't want to see those people so don't put yourself through the agony of spending time with them. If there are any family members you would like to see, invite just them over to your house for a small gathering the next day.

That's a great idea!

 

[oldrooster]

Phil I want you to know your the kind of looser I want to be around because that's a better class of looser than my family, I am a looser, I have never set foot in any jail that was not of my own free will (when the county built it's current jail they had an open house, my parents being poor and wanting to have a family outing and also wanting their kids to see the inside of a jail without having to be called an occupant decided it was the time to visit) the next fall a classmates mom was a jailer and we visited again and I was a little on the naughty side and was one of a half dozen boys who asked for our pictures to be taken along with our finger prints when we walked thru booking, I am the lone hold out who has not been asked to do it as an adult, they wouldn't do it to us since we were kids. For some reason I felt and still feel gyped that I didn't get it done without having to commit a crime....

 

[oldrooster]

invite just them over to your house for a small gathering the next day.

You don't understand out of 7 siblings, 1 has never visited us, nor her kids, she lives a little over an hour away with one child near her, the other two live within 15 minutes (one for 15 years the other 25 years) no visits. 4 siblings an hour away and 1 two hours away no visits in 30 years, before I started 7th grade (middle school starts then here) no visits from their kids, last sibling visits 1 or 2 times every 5 years... no kids. what makes you think they will drive to visit me now when they couldn't figure out how to point a car in this direction and find first gear? (assuming it was a stick shift)

 

[oldrooster]

That's why I think it made me so mad about the griping about the services, they could not find the time to see her when she was alive why make a fuss about it when she's dead? If they truly loved her why did they not make it an effort to see her when she was alive? or pick up a phone and be the one to call???

 

[perchie.girl]

should be news paper, nor sews paper...

Yep I was scratching my head on that one.... I figured out Some one would translate... Whew.

 

[perchie.girl]

What makes the dome gold colored? Is it paint or *gasp* gold?

Gold leaf is easy to work with and surprisingly inexpensive... I had a boyfriend in highschool that gold leafed the lettering on his van....

deb