my new pyr was guarding my chicks and bit my husband...

[LizzyJo]

This thing about getting rid of the man instead of the dog is humor, although we may or may not agree with how funny it is, people do have a right to express themselves. You might note that the original poster didn't say she was going to do such a thing.

The advice about the anger issues is also valid, but when you marry someone for better or for worse it's part of the package. Maybe it is a medical issue. None of us can tell from here.

 

[tash]

haven't read the whole thread so sorry if this repeats...

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does your husband have adult add? being impatient and quick to temper are two classic symptoms. being forgetful and impulsive are others. They can also be symptoms of depression (which can easily accompany adult add). if it bothers you or him then it might be something worth mentioning to his dr on his next checkup......

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that sounds like an excellent screening program

all women should have something similar.

 

[purr]

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[ChickieNikki]

So after getting a little more in depth on the issue (calmly) with DH, it seems the dog actually sensed fear. He wasn't afraid of the dog, exactly, but is generally afraid of what the expense of a dog will do to our budget. And to be fair, he isn't normally an impatient aggravated person, but he is an auto worker (GM), so for the last number of months has been "in a funk." So even though he agreed to the dog, as someone suggested a few posts back, he really doesn't know what he wants, and the dog probably sensed his fear and concern, which is always there for him lately.

As for the posts of rehoming him, etc., I have a great sense of humor and am SO not easily offended--good laughs were had by me on this one. And as far as the suggestion for the rescue for abandoned husbands, I would foresee one major problem: overcrowding.

And for those who expressed concern for DH and his health, he's high strung compared to me (I'm SOOO laid back), but he's not off the charts or anything. I'm a perpetual optimist, always hopeful and upbeat, but he's more a worrier. Lately here he's just extra anxious over the economy and his job (although he builds the Express van, and that's the least likely product/plant to go), and he's stressed over finishing the coop, and he pretty much thinks the country is going to he!! in a handbasket, so he's just not encouraged by anything. For me, a dog makes me feel better, gives me a purpose (as if I don't have one!) and a place to focus my energy and get joy and fun in return. But for him, a dog costs money in our budget which may be scarce sooner rather than later. Both valid perspectives, but I sure am the one having more fun. He's working on it, though...but still without a dog...but once the fence goes in, he might be more willing to reconsider...with the coop project complete and all...

And his one huge pet peeve with regard to me is that I do SOOO much and it makes our lives SOOO complicated and SOOOO much work and there's NO end to it! Which just isn't the way I look at it--I'm filling my life with people and animals and projects that I enjoy, that fulfill me, and that keep me busy and having fun! And when he stops to look at it, that's what his garage full of guitars is...they just don't poop everywhere!

Thanks for the laughs, the support, the feedback and advice. That's why I come here!

 

[Cetawin]

Well I am sorry you are going through this but I can tell you what I would do...

1. NO ONE would take my dog away period end of discussion

2. DH would be given the option to act like an adult or go live with his friend's newfoundland

3. The dog is newly acquainted to the home, the chicks, the people, the environment and so forth and needs time to know exactly what is job is and what the limitations are

Getting rid of the dog is like getting rid of a toddler who throws a tantrum for the first time. If he is surly by nature, lacks patience and does not understand the animal, he should not be the one making the judgment about the dog.

Most likely the poor dog did not understand what was happening and bit...which would explain why no blood was drawn. That was not an attack that was a warning which says "I do not want you doing what you are doing so please back away"

Thankfully, my DH read the OP and said the man needs to get a grip and the dog needs more time.

 

[Backyard Hencam]

When you vent on a site like this, I'm sure you know you will get all kinds of opinions in return.

We all come with our own experiences. After hearing your circumstances I would like to suggest that you and your DH come together on an agreeable solution. It is not fair to any of you: including the dog, to be in disagreement and try to maintain a balanced home.

I'm wishing you all the best as you work together through your difficult circumstances. You will, I'm sure, make the right decision.

 

[toredano]

It will work out at the end..trust me

Only thing is he needs to show any dog that comes into the home or house who alpha is Both of you. Our dog knows both of us are above her and she accept it.
Another thing is too.. a younger pup is prolly better.. rI wont take any dog that is over 6 months old. No socialization, fear of something etc .. to much baggae and half the time you dont knowwhat happend in a previous home. So a puppy riught from the start more than likely will not have those problems
He cant be that bad.. you married him And the economy sucks for everyone right now..But worrying constantly and stuff makes for a good stroke or heartattack.

Ohh and for the person who YELLED about Divorce etc.. seriously..you think someone making a joke about trading husband in is the doom of our society? That is laughable at best.


My second husband had to " flew the coop" so to speak .Heck yeah....he went out the door with his nonloving animal butt. I wont tolerate that.I had dogs ,horses and cats he didnt like it.. so out he went with his ties and polished shoes.

Now this one I have now.. he is a keeper. 18 years and counting. And sometimes.. even tho I get b kad and frustrated at him and call him a few choicewords.He still is my soulmate and I wouldnt want any other..Now his mom is a different story alltogether

Keepyour chin up.. it wil lall work out at the end

 

[Boyd]

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If you havn't re-homed puppy yet......

Dog definately needs to know who the Alpha is. My wife's Boxer mix needed to be taught when we first started dating. Now he's the worlds biggest baby to me

Hubby needs to wrestle it down and chew on his ear some!

 

[chickbea]

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Yeah, I considered putting that husband down for the same reason, but there are laws. (sigh)

You are just too funny!