SO, where so I start.....my boss's wife passed away 18 months ago, kind of expected but she was young, and he is severly struggling with this but its getting out of control where work comes in. First I dont want you to think I'm cold hearted or anything like that I have no idea how he is still functioning I wouldnt if anything ever happened to my DH....I would be lost with out him. He went through the dont ask me about it stage, the I'm hear but I'm not, the party stage, the buy a new house/car stage, new girl stage, but Im kinda stuck with where we are now........He has mood swings and it doesnt matter who he is irritated he takes it out on me....I am his ONLY employee, I have let it go in one ear and out the other, made excuses for him to me and others as to why he is acting that way....he's going through a lot!! young kids single parent who wouldnt be stressed.....he has recently accused me lying about not doing things i did do and when I showed him proof he didnt apologize, he nit picks everything I do around here any more and I seriously dont know how much I can take. Oh and here is another example....the other day he was suppose to go out with his new GF and she fell asleep so he was at work longer than normal. So, he was mad and went through my desk which is no big deal to me at all but I forgot to shred my trash and there was a file in it and he threw a fit cause there was no notes or label on the file. It was in the SHRED pile because we had a duplicate file and the other one was already filed.....my bad cuz I forgot to shred...but you dont have to throw a fit about it! Then he said in the same conversation....your my office manager right? yes....If you seen that we are in desperate need of a filing cabinet why didnt you get one?.......I have asked him for a filing cabinet for the last 2 years and he says NO....its his $ not mine so I cant run out and buy something with his money when I am told no.....PLUS I told him the week before that one of the local companies had a sale on filing cabinets and he said NO?????? What am I suppose to do about that??????????? He is behind on his work and if he doesnt do his work I cant do mine and he gets mad cuz I am behind because he throws everything on me at one time! I understand he is going through a hard time but I can only be his punching bag for so long.......there is more instances than what I have mentioned but you dont want to read this for hours.....Please help me understand.....I dont want to quit my job but I cant walk on egg shells forever!!! He really is a GREAT boss I couldnt ask for a better one and I know things like this can change you but I really need help understanding or figuring out what to do......Sometimes I just go home and cry and thats not good. I cant do anything right any more and it doesnt matter what caused his bad mood I take the rap for it.