New updates on DH

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by Alleyoops25, Feb 19, 2008.

  1. Alleyoops25

    Alleyoops25 Songster

    May 14, 2007
    Hi all I am sorry I havent posted updates until now. I know I have ran you all nutts waiting and wondering. Some of you have guessed right in that I was busy dealing with the waves of incoming family members. I temperarly lost my mind and I was having a hard time emotionally, and physically making it from day to day. I am sorry to hurt you all that I didnt confide more in your comfort than I did my family. I dont know how your family is ran but in Davy's side they all congrigate to where they feel needed. His family made it there mission to make sure that I was taken care of. From the time they had came until now I have felt lucky to go to the bathroom, and get a shower by my self. And then there were a few of you who been monitoring me being here on the forum, and yes I have been on a few times since I had made my last post. I have made a habit out of checking my PM and trying to reply to them, as there are a few people who I look forward to talking to, and have considered friends. I have tried making sure that they had gotten there reply's from me. I have also been trying to catch up and keep the number of PM's down so that I knew I wasnt missing anything that was important.I have spent several hours now between doing that and then trying to catch up on all your posts until the thread got locked.
    Davy got off the ventilator two days ago. He is still in CCU as he is totally stable, and they want to keep a close eye on him until they know for sure that he will be okay.He is still heavily sedated, as he kept trying to get up and move around, and he is not able to at this point in time. On the up side he doesnt remeber any of the past few weeks.He doesnt even remember the trip up here. So thankfully at least one of us wont be huanted with that memory. He is shocked to see his family hear, and is even more shocked by my cast. His family has been makig extra sure that he is getting what he needs as soon as he needs it. Today is the first day that I dont have at least one other person in here with me.
    I really do appericiate all of your support, and I dont want any of you to think I sound rude at all when I continue with this post. I wanted to make sure I get this all in the update as I may not get to do it again for a few days. I dont exactly know what all was said on the last thread as some of you have deleted your posts. But I have a pretty good idea. I have been talking with countryenterianment a lot during all of this mess. And even though I havent got a whole up date on whatever was said I am sure I will get it soon. Some of you have asked for adress's for both my home and the hospital where we are to send cards, and money. I have politly declined tghese offers, not because what is going on in my life is a big fabricated bunch of lies (which it isnt) but for starters I cant execpt ytour guys money. Its just not some thing I can do to anyone. I have had family try to give me money the last few weeks and I havent excepted it either. Its just the type of person I am. I aslo dont want to give scam artists the idea that they can come up with a good sob story and come on here and you all will freely start sending them money. The other reasons I dont want to give out my adress's and phone numbers is because I dont wangt to be screwed over, and put in a worse place than I already am. I am far from home right now, and I would like my things to be there when I get back. I know you all would love to call and give me your support. I really do apperciate you all wanting to help out and give me all the support that you can. But think about what would happen if I gave you all my numbers. The phone would never stop rining and I wouldnt be able to help take care of Davy, or be of any use to any body.Coming on here and being able to type up the updates and tell you all at once is far more better than trying to tell you all one by one on the phone. And I get all of your responses read, and know you care on here as well. As I have tried saying before about sending stuff here to the hospital, it wont go through. I declined them putting him on the directory. I did this because my side of the family has done a lot of hurtful things to us with in the last year. You all can read all about that in one of the threads, as many of you already have. I dont want anyone from my family here, or calling. It would make things a million tiomes harder and more stressful than things already are. This phone here at the hospital only rings whena doctor is calling, anyone else calls our cell phones. Last week my nieghbor who has beeen house sitting and taking care of our animals called upset becasue someone called my home wanting to know how to reach us at the hospital, She said that they told her they didnt know what she was talking about and that she had a wrong number. This was indeed really spooky. I am sure that the person who called only had good intentions, but there is always the what if factor in the back of your mind. They remembered her name and where she was from and that helped a lot in not getting to worried about it all. I planned on not even brining this up because I was sure it was only done with good intentions. I PM the person and told her that I did appericiate her concern for my family. But that I wasnt at a place I could call and talk to her or have her call me. I assured her that between all of you on the forum and the family here I had enough support to get through this. From what I have read on the thread I affended this person. the exact words are unknown since they were deleted but I am some how gathering that I was making all of this up to get a high number of posts to my thread. I can assure all of you that I am not making things up. Although I wish it were true, as I cant count the number of times I wished that this wasnt true. And you all can see how long I have been a member hear. And I have far less threads and posts as a lot of memebers who have been on here half the time I have been. I have other things I want to accomplish in my life instead of trying to get the highest numbers of posts on any givin forum. You all probably wouldnt even have a clue about any of this except I got on here the first while I was trying to stay awake and decided to vent about the horrible care we had just gotten from our home town hospital. And that started the ball rolling for you all being in on the very personal side of my life. I actually find that theroy rather amussing. And I will tell all of you up fronht that if you have a problem believing me I flat dont care. I am not worried about what you all think about me, or my family, or my life. But I dont ask that if you dont, please dont sit and try to stir the pot. If you care as much as you say you do then dont try and make my life any harder than it already is. And yes when people call, send mail, or come over to some one elses house when they have asked that they not, or when they havent directly told everyone to it makes the person feel creepy. You never know whats a good intention and whats not whenyou dont know that person. If this person had actually gotten a hold of me things would probably have been better because I have more faith in humanity and it wouldnt have bothered me. But getting a phone call from a upset nieghbor telling me that there is a strange pushy lady who didnt know me by my real name saying she read about my husband on the Internet, and some how went and found my phone number was trying to get our exact adress to both the hospital and my home and wanting more personal info. I think would really spook the splurt out of anyone. If you want to talk to me personally PM me. I have been talking to a couple people that I have made friends with off of here, and I dont have a problem giving them these things. But thats because I know them and am not blown out of the water or blind sided by them when they go and search up a phone number and start asking second parties about my person info. I just simply ask that you all think about how youd feel in the same situation, and if what you arfe about to do could raise a few hairs on your own head, and not just with me but with anyone you talk to on the internet. I accidentally gave you my DH's name when all of this began. I was in a mental break down. But It wasnt like I gave you all our whole names, and then freely tacted on our adress, and phone numbers.
    If you all would like I will try to keep you all updated, if not then we wont worry about it. Its all up to you guys, I just ask that there not be any one stirring the pot, and making my life more difficult and stressful than it already is. If byou have a problem with me, some thing I said or did that hurt you in anyway I am sorry. But right now I have to be overly cuatious, as I cant take anymore pain in my life.Thank you all and God bless.
  2. tiffanyh

    tiffanyh Songster

    Apr 8, 2007
    So glad Davy is moving in a positive directions! Take care of yourself!
  3. arlee453

    arlee453 Songster

    Aug 13, 2007
    near Charlotte NC
    Oh Alley - SOOOOO GLLLLAAAADDD to hear from you and to hear good news about Davy!!

    I for one understand completely where you are coming from about receiving calls/gifts - although it is flattering and heartwarming to see the outpouring of offers of help, etc, you really never know that anyone in cyberland who might stumble across your information would be of such good intentions.

    Keep on letting those folks who are there carry some of the burden for you - that's what family SHOULD be for, and it sounds like Davy has that with his side of the family.

    AND, let us keep on praying for you - that's the best thing that any of us can do to help from a distance!!

    Thanks for the update!! [​IMG]
  4. nccountrygirl

    nccountrygirl Songster

    Jul 31, 2007
    Sanford N.C.
    Glad to here your DH is getting better. Take care of your self too.
  5. Kristina

    Kristina Songster

    Apr 30, 2007
    South Louisiana
    Alley so glad to hear your hubby has improved...we'll keep you in our thoughts and hope that things continue to look up!
    Keep your chin up!
    Last edited: Feb 19, 2008
  6. [​IMG] Yay! I'm so glad that he's getting better! I am so happy for you and your family. [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]
  7. BantyChickMom

    BantyChickMom Songster

    Sep 25, 2007
    Henderson, NC
    Alley, it is very good to hear from you and I am so thankful that there has been much improvement with Davy.
    I will continue to pray for you and your family.
  8. Farmer Kitty

    Farmer Kitty Flock Mistress

    Sep 18, 2007
    Thankyou for the update.

    I'm so glad of the good news. It's great to hear that your DH is recovering! I'm glad his family is coming around you although, I'm sure you would like a little more private time.

    I would like to have updates from you and agree that you should not give out your personal info. As far as anyone not believing the post, they don't need to read any further! If you don't believe why bother.

    Prayers will continue for a great recovery and for strength for all of you.

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  9. JaciesCoop

    JaciesCoop Songster

    Aug 16, 2007
    Oh MY! I was so glad to see this thread. I'm so happy that things seem to be looking up for you and Davy. God Bless you and your family and my the sun keep shining on you..

  10. silkhope

    silkhope Songster

    Apr 30, 2007
    Pittsboro, NC
    I'm saddened that the last thread took the turn that it did and that you were forced to feel you should come here and clear the air. That's the last thing you should be worrying about right now. [​IMG]

    I'm very glad to hear that Davy is doing better and that his family is taking care of you!! I'm still praying for you guys.

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