No call, no show.

[Dona Worry]

My mental health has been suffering over the past year and a half, partially due to some physical health challenges. This led to a loop of being completely overwhelmed by my housework and to exhausted to start and then there is MORE housework and it is MORE overwhelming, etc, etc.

Last week, I decided: I would hire a cleaner.
I found one on the community pages, reasonably priced and local. Made an appointment for last week-- she never showed up. No explanation, nothing.
Finally got ahold of her midweek. She had the flu, wasn't able to come. Fair enough. We reschedule for today.
I emailed LAST NIGHT to confirm we still had an appointment for this morning.
She was supposed to be here at 9, it is now quarter to noon.

No call, no email, nothing.

I am so annoyed. This was a huge step for me, to admit I need help, and ask for it, and I was so looking forward to gaining control over my house and life again, and now I am so very tired.
I am trying to decide how to proceed. Email her again? I mean, I know stuff happens, but come on! It only takes a minute to shoot a text!

 

[A_Fowl_Guy]

I’d leave it alone, not recommend her, and hire a professional service. More money but guaranteed to show up.

 

[Dona Worry]

I’d leave it alone, not recommend her, and hire a professional service. More money but guaranteed to show up.

The professional services are all at least an hour and a half away from me, and do charge for travel, so I can't really afford that route.
I would say you get what you pay for, but I didn't even get a chance to pay for anything!

 

[PirateGirl]

I'm sorry you are going through this. If it was me, I would not call the same person again, but look for someone else.

When I feel housework is overwhelming I will try to accomplish one task each day. It doesn't get everything done, but it makes it seem manageable and it feels good knowing you tackled at least one project. It can be as small as wipe all the counters in the kitchen. I might clean the toilet, but not clean the rest of the bathroom, or wash/dry one load of laundry, but folding and putting it away might be a task for the next day. I at least feel like I'm plugging away at things.

 

[Dona Worry]

I'll see if I hear from her at all today. If I don't, I won't reach out again, and just figure out something else.

 

[townchicks]

That is a real drag, but you have made the first step by deciding to hire someone, and reaching out. Don't give up now. There are other cleaners out there that are more responsible. You might be better off going through an agency, but as @A_Fowl_Guy stated they are often more expensive. You might try reaching out to some mental health advocate agencies, or disabled advocate agencies. There may be some financial aid or discounts that way. Your doctors office might be able to advise you whom to reach out to. Meanwhile, @PirateGirl's advice is great, take small bites, one room at a time. It doesn't have to be perfect, either, just something you can live with. Put on some upbeat music to work by, that helps me a lot. I hate doing housework, but I love the feeling of a task well done.

 

[pertnear09]

Sorry but it sounds to me she is someone who would perpetually be late or a no-show.

 

[Gold Griffin Chicken Mom]

Look up FlyLady (dot net, I think) and see if you like her approach. It’s helping me to reprogram my thinking.

Btw, I am diagnosed with depression and migraines. Just saying I understand health issues making everything harder to accomplish.

So... Back to FlyLady. Babysteps is the “secret”. Break everything down into smaller bites and do a little bit along. If you sign up for the free emails, you will get bunches! Don’t feel like you have to read them all! (I’ll stop with all the !!!s because all this just needs All Caps or exclamation points all over the place).

Read up on what she (FlyLady) and FlyBabies have to say. If the title doesn’t interest you, delete it. “Testimonial” emails are messages from regular people that have something to share. I have learned different approaches to my thinking, cleaning, and organizing habits from these emails.

This doesn’t address your problem of the No Show Cleaning Person, but perhaps it will help you now and in the future. Pace yourself! Be blessed!

 

[CapricornFarm]

Hugs to you, OP. I know how it is. I have been suffering depression for a very long time. I have so many other health issues i have decided to get rid of many of my animals.
I find it very disturbing how many people can't be bothered to let you know if their plans change. I have people say they are coming to buy something, guess what? No show, no call. They also expect everything for nothing. I put very cheap prices on some of these chickens because i can barely get myself to go outside some days. Yet people seem to think you should take less. And they want them delivered?!! Twice now i had people expect me to drive over 90 minutes to sell them beautiful chickens in the prime of life for $25. a pair!?
Just expect people to be greedy, ignorant, and inconsiderate. You are less likely to be disappointed. You are not the problem, they are. I would forget that cleaner and find another. And concentrate on feeling better. Hugs to you.

 

[Dona Worry]

The cleaner still hasn't made any effort to get in touch or offer an explanation. I have someone new lined up for Wednesday, let regaining control of my life BEGIN!