No call, no show.

[skwarksy]

hello I hope everything goes well on wed ,I suffer from depression and arthritis .I often just sit and look at the housework ,if it wasn,t for my animals I don,t think I,d get up some days. just think positive and take one day at a time .try to get outside if you can ,amazing the difference even a few mins can make ,the best of luck to you ,

 

[drumstick diva]

If you can't get outside or its too cloudy often. Jo Ann Fabrics and other places sell
OTT lights that put out brightness to mimic the sun...

I also just sit and look at dishes piled high in the sink. Can't get motivated to wash them. So I cheat and use paper plates and plastic utensils .

Not truly depressed any more but have down days like anyone else. No one is bright & shiny 24/7. I'm 71 and that factors into my get up & go being largely gone. I also nap a great deal.

 

[drumstick diva]

I outlived two psychiatrists but, they helped me quite a bit. The first one waited a year before putting me on meds, to see if I was truly depressed or just feeling down. I had major depression with the other baggage of panic attacks, agoraphobia, social phobias.

Dr. started me on meds and I felt great but, was eating like crazy, I would have eaten the wall paper if I didn't find something else to chow on. Plus I got too brave, was walking around with a chip on my shoulder and a big mouth, looking for fights. I am tiny and its good thing no one beat the daylights out of me. Time for a different pill.

He tried various meds and none made a difference until Celexa, I was on only 10 mg. and doing great. Eventually insurance would only pay for generic (citalopram) which was okay but NOT as effective as the real thing.

My original doctor died of cancer. I started seeing his old partner, who put me on 20 mg.of the generic - it was satisfactory. This doctor also passed away from side effects of medication for a different type of cancer.

Over time I got over the panic attacks, agoraphobia, most of the social phobias and also over my fear of riding in an elevator. I don't have the money to see any kind of therapist to help with everyday issues like the nastiness of what used to be a great friend on BYC. I'm sure most regular Bycers know who that IS.

My sister also developed depression and has been on an old medication Nardil, that has some 'pain in the butt food restrictions'. This isn't to say either of these meds can help someone else.

Really you need a good psychiatrist to determine that. Nowadays they see a patient to decide on medication and then the patient sees a therapist at some interval who will report to the original dr.

 

[skwarksy]

hi drumstick diva a lot of your symptoms mirror mine ,years ago my doctor put me on some medication it worked then after 6 wks she took me of it and sent me back to work I felt good for all of 6 wks .all my old doctors are gone or dead now these young new ones just don't seem to want to know an old lady like me I,m nearly 71 .I nap a lot too ,now I find if I can just block my mind from past memories especially most of my ex work mates I can get through each day ,they and work were the reason I nearly had a breakdown ,I wish I could have had psychiatric help but could,nt afford it now I just try self help technics and they work some times my garden and animals are a great help will finish now hope I haven,t bored you too much

 

[Tortoise]

My mental health has been suffering over the past year and a half, partially due to some physical health challenges. This led to a loop of being completely overwhelmed by my housework and to exhausted to start and then there is MORE housework and it is MORE overwhelming, etc, etc.

Last week, I decided: I would hire a cleaner.
I found one on the community pages, reasonably priced and local. Made an appointment for last week-- she never showed up. No explanation, nothing.
Finally got ahold of her midweek. She had the flu, wasn't able to come. Fair enough. We reschedule for today.
I emailed LAST NIGHT to confirm we still had an appointment for this morning.
She was supposed to be here at 9, it is now quarter to noon.

No call, no email, nothing.

I am so annoyed. This was a huge step for me, to admit I need help, and ask for it, and I was so looking forward to gaining control over my house and life again, and now I am so very tired.
I am trying to decide how to proceed. Email her again? I mean, I know stuff happens, but come on! It only takes a minute to shoot a text!

Look for a new one. This person is not reliable and likely not trust worthy.

 

[CapricornFarm]

I have been on EffexorXR for about 30 years. It helps but i still have issues. And having other issues with my health doesn't ease the depression. But i am on the maximum dose. I have tried talking to doctors about depression, but mostly they don't want to listen. They want to write an rx and get on to the next patient. The psych doctors listen but really don't seem helpful. Mostly i try to keep myself busy with projects, and the animals help me get back outside. Exercise and sunshine help me feel better.

 

[skwarksy]

hello donna worry ,did your new cleaner show up I hope she did and you are now getting some help it will surely make a difference good luck

 

[CuriousQueen]

If your community has an FB page, you can find someone there.
Also look to see if they have a Nextdoor app community. It is an app where community neighbors join one list. In my community, we list lost, found, ask for contractor recommendations or suspicious activity. Etc
I like our FB page too. Ours is a sales group but people post for jobs, lost and found etc.
I get overwhelmed too. I’m terrified of people due to ptsd. I won’t leave my property except with my husband, even then it is rare because I still freak out.
I don’t let anyone in my house. I cry when the exterminator comes. There is no way I would let a housekeeper in. I would rather look at my messy house,

 

[Dona Worry]

hello donna worry ,did your new cleaner show up I hope she did and you are now getting some help it will surely make a difference good luck

Well, yes and no. She showed up, just enough to tell me I am too far out of her area and she can't clean my house.
It seems like we could have figured that out from 10 minutes on google maps, BUT HEY, let's waste everyone's time instead.
Still looking. I have a few more people I've found, but it seems the longer O look, the more expensive everyone gets.

 

[skwarksy]

sorry to hear that it did,nt work out ,last year my friend hired a cleaner who insulted her saying it was a wonder she did,nt have salmonella from the state of her kitchen ,she was never asked back !she now has someone from help the aged but it is expensive .don,t give up it will happen just think positive .