Not Again!!!!! Babies are back!!! An update after 7months

[schellie69]

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Sounds like she needed someone who understood. I could not imagine losing my DH or one of my children. Maybe this happened for a reason, Sometimes God does for reason we don't understand at first. Good Luck and I am glad that your dog and chicks are safe and getting better. Take care.

 

[wolftracks]

Been a while since I started this thread, but got another story to tell.

I just ran to the Quickstop and there was a woman in there, really wasted. The owner has 3 sons who work for him. This lady wants booze and the sons tells here they only carry beer and she started yelling and calling him a liar and just kept yelling on her way out the door.

Soooo I'm fixing a coffee and a man walks up to the counter and they start talking. Really nice looking man, dressed nice. The son says " Man I remember when you used to stumble in here. We used to really worry about you." The man starts telling him about going to the Vet Center and getting cleaned up, because his wife told him he really hurt some nice lady that had lost her husband. So I stopped what I was doing and listened, cause I just knew what was coming.

So the son asks if he hit someone. He said "no, but I guess I broke into the lady's yard and did some damage and the police took me in." Then he said when he found out he was just sick about it and decided it was the last straw. Then he kind of chuckled and said he thought his wife was cheating on him and bringing chickens home.

That's when I walked up behind him and looked at the owner's son and smiled. He had this look like , Oh No, because they heard what had happened. So then the guy smiles and moves for me to set my cup down and still talking to the kid says "Boy I hope I never run into her, cause I bet she'd knock me out." chuckle chuckle The son looks at him and knods towards me and says "you just did." So for 20 minutes we all stood there and talked and after his first look of terror and all the apologies we were all laughing.

I noticed burns on his hands and he has a limp. He was in Vietnam the same time as my husband and was also hurt. My husband had a limp too, but most times you didn't notice. I'm glad he's not drinking now. He said he doesn't even know how he started, because when he smells booze now it turns his stomach and had before. He's nice, he's smart and very polite. I can't believe this is the same man that peed in my backyard. LOL

Oh and they have a new puppy and his wife has 2 new hens. I never have happy ends to anything, but they have one and that makes me feel sooo good. He was there buying candy bars for his wife. My husband used to go there and buy my coffees sometimes and candy for us, so that kind of made me smile in a sad sort of way.

Anyway, I thought I'd catch everyone up after all this time. Very cool night at the Quickstop.

 

[WillowTreeFarm]

How touching! And ironic too that you should happen to meet. I have been feeling very disappointed with the human population lately, and this brought me a little smile.

 

[HighNDryFarm]

Our lives are so entwinded. What a great end (or beginning) to the story.

 

[wolftracks]

It's funny I didn't hear a whole lot that would tell me it was him, but from the very beginning I just knew it was. I'm so happy I met him this way than while he was drinking. I bet his wife is happy to have her husband back. That poor woman was so sad and didn't know what to do.

 

[justbugged]

I am so happy that I read the whole thread. The ending was by far the best. If he hadn't gotten into your yard, he might still be a drunk.

 

[wolftracks]

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Yep! I'm finally over the peeing in the yard thing. LOL It was all for the good.

 

[justbugged]

It is always hard to know the possible outcome when things are actually happening. It's is so wonderful to have such a positive ending.

 

[mkcolls]

Great update. I needed a happy story, now,

, and God bless us, everyone. Goodnight.

 

[Mamma_Duck04]

Wolftracks- wow... that's my first reaction (after reading the whole thread of course) You guys crossed paths for a reason & I'm really glad he was in a 'place' that his actions that night were a turning point for him to get clean again. A lot of times they're just not ready yet to feel anything & keep drinking.

Your whole story brought tears to my eyes though... I've lost 2 babies now, at term, to unexplained stillbirth, then placental abruption. Thankfully our first child was too young for both losses to know what happened. But I really felt for my husband who had to go right back to work (Navy & after our last loss, had to deploy 3mo later).
I'm not so much a drinker, really, & I've NEVER been the kind to just drink. Before my husband deployed, a friend introduced me to sparkling wine (more like a dessert wine) & I really liked it, but I really had to be in the mood for it or it still tasted nasty lol. My husband & I weren't in a healthy place when he deployed & after he left, I figured I would enjoy me some wine one night. I'll never be able to describe it, but it took hold that night & THANK GOD I noticed it after only a couple weeks, that it had become something I "needed" rather than a simple enjoyment occasionally.

I can definitely understand how it can take hold during the throws of grief, we're so numb to everything, yet the alcohol really does help remove any more feeling we might have, it gets so easy... Not that it's an excuse of course, but now I can understand how it happens & can easily take someone over.

You were a blessing to this couple. I'm very sorry for your loss and theirs, but I'm happy that your paths crossing had such an effect on this man & it's neat that you got to have that bit of closure of running into him & hearing him recount that night & be able to say it changed him. Unfortunately so many wait until they've caused serious damage or death to another while intoxicated, or they never change & continue in such destructive behavior.