Not chicken related, but I MISS MY SON!

[TitiBebbs]

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I COULD agree with you on this matter, except that when we lived 4 miles away, his dad took little interest in seeing him. Now that his dad is 400 miles away AND newly married, he asks for visits. Truth be told, I believe his wife (who is great) has made him take more interest. I don't think the "sacrifice" is on his part.

Beth

 

[GoodEgg]

I just wanted to say that I am sorry for you having to miss your son, and not be able to see him.

The longest I had ever been away from my daughter (she's 11) was 3 days, and then this "shared custody" thing started with the official proceedings, so since April she's spent a week with me and a week with her dad. To make matters worse, my phone was cut off (but I finally have one again, yayyy!!!).

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for you having to miss him. I know it's hard. I am glad to hear that his stepmom is good for him, and that you get along with her. That at least is good, that you don't have to worry on that count.

(Guess I'm sympathizing there too, because it's the live-in girlfriend I really have trouble with in my case. So I'm glad you don't have that problem. But a MONTH .... sigh ...)

Anyway, I'm sorry, and at least it won't be too much longer now. Although even a couple of days "not much longer" can seem like forever when you miss them so. Hugs!

trish

 

[usbr]

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Well maybe there were other influncing factors and your EX made a decision to just delay any visits untill those could be avoided? Im my case, my father did the exact same thing and it wasnt till I was an adult and we talked about things did I learn the full story. There are 2 sides to every story and I am glad I asked when I did because only then did I learn the truth. If I hadnt asked Im sure he would never had said anything and I bleieve that was the best way to have handled it.

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Sounds like the father wants to visit with his son, whats the problem? Let him visit, both him and your son deserve that. As you read above, I dont think if your Ex had a time where he didnt visit his son that it somhow dilutes his rights or desire to visit with his son now.
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Now we are getting some where. You son will grow up someday and when he does, these statements will stick out like a sore thumb. Even by junior high, kids talk about this stuff with each other but its a little rare to talk with the parent. When I talked to my dad, it was the exception rather than the rule. For the welfare of your son, I urge you to get over your feelings for your Ex and do what is nessary to give visitations to your son, even if it means you miss him.

HTH

 

[TitiBebbs]

I think if we lived closer, and if he wasn't a firefighter, (24 on/48 off shifts) he might now want to try to set something like that up. We never went to court because, I think hee [dad] sees that his schedule is too difficult to work around. We sat down and set up a schedule for visits twice. However, on his Wednesdays, I'd inevitably get a call canceling because he'd picked up a shift or a friend wanted his help with something. I think that a good part of his actually having more time comes from the marraige and the fact that his wife (also a ff) is not currently working. She decided to hold off trying until after the summer. I spoke to him a few days ago. They got back form NY on Monday and he was supposed to call me. He didn't, because he went to bed straight away (on his own) so he could go with "the boys" in the morning. On Tuesday morning, his father took him to the Keys with some of his buddies for Lobster Mini-Season. He was so excited, and this I cannot begrudge his father the opportunity because I'd never do it. I can snorkel very well, and I'm scared of the ocean a bit. I fret about the animals and such. When we talked he was telling me how one of Dad's friends helped him get the courage to go in and help spot lobsters for the next day. He also told me about the shark, the baracuda, and the 2 stingrays they saw. On Wednesday when he did go try to get lobsters, he got stung by a jelly fish (a baby one he tells me) and Dad told him to stay out of the water. He still had a great time and was super excited.

Anyway, to usbr: I don't stop his dad from seeing him. I have no ill feelings for his dad either. I just miss my boy! I understand your points perfectly, and rest assured that (except Christmas or missing school) he can see his dad anytime. I even drive the 200 miles to meet him halfway when they do. Christmas, last year he wasw with his dad and this year me until the 27th. I prefer to have him at his home for Christmas, since he does still believe in Santa. Besides, I took him skiing this year and we agreed to do it every year.

I pick him up this Thursday!

 

[TitiBebbs]

Update, sort of. . .

I picked up ds last week. When I got him, we talked about everything, but the topic of the new TV show "Kid Nation" came up. Ds said he wanted to try out for it. I tried to convince him that he didn't REALLY want to because he'd be away from me again for more than a month. He wasn't swayed.

SOOOOOO, being the glutton for punishment that I am, I relented. I helped him fill out the 14 page application packet, I shot his video, applied for the passport, and drove him the 400 miles back to Ft. Lauderdale for the casting. I am proud that my boy thinks he can do this and I'm now excited for him, as we wait to find out if he made it to the 2nd round (6-8weeks) of interviews.

I guess he is a stronger boy than I thought - No Mama's boy there. Well, I'm happy with my baby boy (yes, he's 10) again and we will see what happens.

Beth