Ooooo.... see, it's not so bad, now is it?

[Mehpenn]

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Oh, but it's gotten so much worse within the last year or so. Foods that she USED to love, she won't even consider eating now. Whereas used to she would not think twice about picking up a slice of peperoni pizza and eating it, now she has to take the toppings off to make sure no one hid a vegetable under the cheese. We have pizza maybe once a month, it's a treat, and she's ruined it by convincing herself an onion or a mushroom got slipped under the cheese.

It's gotten ridiculous.

Usually I'm just like "Whatever, fix yourself a peanut butter sandwich, then." But you know what, I stand in the kitchen, weather I feel like it or not, to make my family a decent meal. It's insulting for her to turn her nose up at it, and I won't have her setting that example for her sister.
From now on, you either eat what I cook or you do without until the next meal time. Period.

I couldn't imagine being a child and telling my mother or grandmother that I won't eat what they cooked because I don't like (vegetables, fruits, eggs, any dairy at all, wheat based whatevers, jelly with real fruit in it, meal that's not coated in batter and deep fried, or anythiing else that's not processed, packaged crap filled with chemicals and fat.)

My mother and my MIL cater to her (and all the kids).... My mom knows she's spoiling her, but she sees her once a month... MIL doesn't see it as catering to her, as that's how she eats as well......

Lucky for me, her dad will for sure back me up on this, trying to get her to eat healthier and try new things. He's been a lot less patient than I have, with this mess she's trying to pull, especially since it's gotten so out of control.

 

[Southernbelle]

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That is brilliant! Your sis is super smart! My kids have to eat what I fix, too, and they have to try at least a small amount of everything served.

 

[Mehpenn]

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At least I'm not alone!!

Come on Spacepony, we can remain strong. We will win one battle at a time, and eventually the WAR!!!

One night I'd fixed a pot of pinto's for supper, grilled some pork chops and made some biscuits.
Poptart finally decided she'd eat the pork chop and a biscuit but was NOT going to eat the spoon of pintos I put on her plate.

Her dad told her he wanted her to at least taste the beans, and boy she was NOT going to do it. She whinned and cried and just about made herself sick. But he made her sit at the table for two hours before she even TASTED a bean. Just one. Not even the whole spoonful. One little bean, and it took her two hours.

Now her sister, Bitsey, she'd eaten two whole spoonful's and was trying to get the ones off her sister's plate.

 

[Southernbelle]

My oldest DD has a really good friend that visits all the time and she happens to be autistic. Her mother doesn't cook a whole lot, but apparently there's a long list of stuff this little girl won't eat and she's afraid to push her because of the autism. I serve the little girl the same food I feed the rest of my family, if she doesn't like it, I won't push her, but she generally wants to try whatever my DD is eating. She's really very sweet and eager to please.

I love going back to her mother and saying, "Your daughter loved the tuna melts." "She asked for seconds on the chicken enchiladas." Followed by the mother's suprised exclaimation and immediately asking for the recipe.

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

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The list idea came from one of her friends, but I think it is brilliant too. Let's face it- a lot of food issues are really about power. The list gives the kids the power to pick. It helps build decision making skills. It teaches them some negotiation skills. But in the end, it allows my sister to say "Oh, I'm sorry. That food isn't on your list. Perhaps next time you can choose to put it on the list." It isn't that their mother is forcing them to do anything. It is their choice what are their top three no-nos. It really cuts down on the arguing.

 

[LiLRedCV]

Congratulations! Just keep at it. She'll come around.

My oldest son started out eating anything and everything... loved, loved, loved all things fruits and veggies and would eat those over cookies and candy. But then he went to spend his first summer with his father - who was a very picky eater (wouldn't touch anything "green" with a 10ft pole!) - and our battle was on at home! UGH!!!! After that? It was nothing but crappy junkfood. I don't know how many battles over food we had over the years from that point out.

As a direct result, I was doing that neat little trick of sneaking in "healthy" stuff long before Seinfield's wife came out with her little cookbook! LOL Spinach? Yeah, that'd go into spaghetti sauce, chopped up into little pieces to look like parsley. (because spaghetti and sauce was ok on his list)

He finally came back around again when he was 14yrs old. (And dangit.. why didn't I tell him that tasted so good????

) He'll be 25yrs old on Monday and he's really into trying new foods wherever he goes.

My second and only other child (who is 8yrs old) started out eating anything and everything and he's still that way to this very day! He'll even eat things I won't (and that speaks volumes! LOL) He has only one food he dislikes, but that started out 'cuz he thought they were one thing (grapes), took a bite and found out they were completely something different than expected (olives). I bet he'll get over that one day too.

But wow... put anything down in front of him (outside of olives) - recognizable or not - and he'll dig right in! Thankful for that on so many levels after having dealt with a (trained-by-his-father) very picky eater the first time around. Put healthy options or junk food in front of him? 9 x out of 10 he'll choose the healthy. I once had a little girl come up to me at our 4th of July party to rat him out for eating *gasp* broccoli! Sure enough.. look over at the table full of potato chips, cookies, brownies, etc and he's standing over the veggie tray scarfing away the broccoli. After he'd had enough of that? He moved on to the cauliflower and then the carrots. No dip required.

 

[runsw/scissors]

I tried this with my son... It failed, miserably. He was 2 and lost 15% of his body weight... My pediatrician turned me into DHS.

He eats perhaps 7 foods total. Heaven help me if a package changes, because then he will NOT eat it. Ever again. I am sooo jealous of you guys with your normal fussy eaters.

 

[xchairity_casex]

my mom with my nephew guh if he says no i want candy seh caves and elts him so he "doesnt go hungry" then complains that he doesnt eat good food ever its like what do you expect!?? if it were me and he didnt want to eat somthing that was good he would get nothign not gum not soda nothing untill the next meal. but no that kid lives on cereal,candy and junk

 

[spacepony]

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The battle cry of parents everywhere!!!!!!
.....Now, where is the battalion of reinforcements?

 

[luvs2garden2000]

Good job mom's.

My 8 yr old grandson is exactly like this, his thing is potatoes. He hates potatoes in any shape form or fashion. At about age 5 he would eat the hash rounds, not hash browns or tater tots, just hash rounds. Now he likes "pickled" mashed potatoes. He had them at school the other day and was telling me about them, I was like what did it have in it. He told me little bits of sour pickles. I thought to self, he he he this boy like tater salad and dont know it. So now we have a new name for tater salad. "pickled" mashed taters.