I think your "mom" problem may relate less to cultural and controlling problems and more towards a mom trying
to make up her loss youth through yours. I would include her, but enlist the help of your friend and do very athletic
and strenuous outings like hiking up steep steep hills or rowing boats for a few miles and generally things that only
the young can do and then push yourself but act like you're having fun. She will then be able to bow out gracefully and feel her age. I did something
similar when my very young children would wake up at night. I would go in to comfort them, but I would HUG and SNUGGLE
them just a little too much to the point they are sending me out of their rooms. My kids always slept through the night when
my friends struggled for years settling their kids down. The idea is, to over comfort over do whatever the insecure person
desires. I bet you'd only have to take one or two outings before she poops out on her own. If she is a city slicker take her
on a really rugged camping weekend, and hike, fish run just go go go. Of course if she is in better shape than you, you might
have to drag her to loud rap concerts or the most boring poetry readings you can find or sit around for hours boring her to death texting or
playing the most inane video games you can find. Or plan 2, date someone with bad hygiene and gross habits, or ask someone
that meets her criteria to pick his nose frequently and go out of his way to send her flying. Problem solved, no mom tag a long and no hurt feelings.