Hey Sally
I went through this last year. New farm new life. We moved onto a farm which had a HUGE chicken shed. Well we got all excited and had to fill the ****** thing. We had 100 mixed breed chickens and 8 turkeys. Well as you can imagine we ended up with half of them being roosters and after about 6 months of feeding them we decided enough was enough. The hens were getting jumped every time they tried to eat and we were spending a fortune on feed. So my husband and I decided to be brave while my parents were visiting and try one of the roosters for the pot. It was a horrible experience which ended up with me in floods of tears and my husband trying to console me while the rooster managed to flap its way down the bank of the creek. Hubby retrieved it and I plucked it (still crying but felt I had to "man" up) we bought it in and gagging tried our hand at gutting. My mum bless her took over. We cooked the thing and it was tough as old boots. We put it down to all that flapping though but left it at that.
I facebooked my experience (minus the me sobbing and the whole creek part) only for my old shop foreman to laugh at me and said there is no way I could ever become a proper farmer. Me being me saw this as a huge insult and had to prove him wrong. I put my one year old in her crib, threw a movie on for my four year old and stormed out to the chicken shed. Grabbed a rooster bagged his head and did the deed. I took it inside skinned him and put it in the pot. needless to say I was very proud of myself yet a little stressed and nauseated! Again the rooster tasted bloody awful tho. We did get rid of all our roosters but didn't eat them.
We did however do the extra Toms and they turned out to taste just fine sooooo we ordered 30 meat hens and went halves with them with some family. That started off horrific too with the whole plucking and gutting part but once we learnt to scald them I became chief plucker!! These birds however were not named and we did not spend any time hanging out with them. Just went in fed them and came out again. If I did watch them for any time I would think to myself don't like them they are food. and then turn to our pet chickens for the company that I love from having chickens.
Its hard but all I can say is distance yourself as much as you can from the meat birds and have special birds in your layers
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Cockerels need to be eaten by 4 months old to be tender. Older ones need to:
1. Rest for 48 hours in the fridge
2. brined
3. moisture cooked. I cook mine in a Pressure cooker. They can also be braised.
At four months many will be close to 3 pounds dressed or smaller. That does not matter. The monsters at the store are not natural.
It is funny that you look at them as dinner. The ones that were going to be processed were like that for me. One thing I did was pick them up every once in a while and feel how much meat they had on them.