Questions about wedding invitations

[jjdward]

Who all should I send them to? I mean I know a lot of people and would love if they all could/would attend but I am also not an idiot and know that most will not. I hate the idea of "leaving someone out" and not sending them one but I also don't like the idea of wasting a boatload of money on invitations that I really don't need. Is there any kind of etiquette on this? I have done a few searches and haven't come up with anything but how to address them. I was just wondering if anyone might be able to help. Thanks!

 

[SAORSA]

Aside from all of the obvious, family, close friends etc. you should send one to everyone involved in your life and all those people who you wish were still involved in your life.
It is also a good time to remember those people who you feel are a part of making you who you are today, i.e., teachers, that friend you confided in in high school who you often wonder about, etc.
Lastly, those people who's feelings would sincerely be hurt if you left them out.
Anyone else who might say ... "Hey, I didn't get an invitation" will get over it, and if they aren't already married, if or when they get married, will understand.

Just my two cents

CONGRATULATIONS !!!

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

First, you need to figure out the size of your wedding--number of guests. Then you need to divide that up between your famiy and friends and his. On your lists make note of who will likely not attend, but needs an invitation.

 

[DuckLady]

I agree with Sonoran Silkies.

Make your lists, then send invitations to people you know will value it. The last thing I like to see in the mail is a wedding invitation or graduation announcement for Great-Aunt May's daughter's niece I met once at a family reunion or from a friend I lost touch with years ago with kids that are getting married.

 

[Tigerjane]

Yeah, it really has to be based on your budget. Then, if you're into keeping it fair, go equal distance on each side of the family. Ex: all first cousins on father of the bride's side, means all first cousins on mother of the bride's side, and all first cousins of groom. Just my two cents - good luck!

 

[jjdward]

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hahaha I should have picked a picture that lets people know i'm a man!!!!! hahahah

I know most men really wouldn't care but I'll havt to say i'm very excited about this wedding and I like to be involved!!!! ( that and I'm paying for it!!!!! lol)

 

[Tigerjane]

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hahaha I should have picked a picture that lets people know i'm a man!!!!! hahahah

I know most men really wouldn't care but I'll havt to say i'm very excited about this wedding and I like to be involved!!!! ( that and I'm paying for it!!!!! lol)

Lucky bride, because planning a wedding is NOT FUN! I just got married in march, and I thought it would be fun to arrange, but as it closer and down to nitty gritty details and people calling to ask things answered by the wedding website . . . oh boy was I getting stressed. I hope you guys have some help so it's not just the two of you handling everything!

 

[EweSheep]

Send your best wedding invites like the cards and fancy things to the ones that will attend and the nice computer print outs of the invites on those you know who would not show up. Its cheaper that way and still in good taste. YOu can even find embossed papers that would look very good for a nice wedding invites!

 

[jjdward]

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That's a great idea!!! Thanks!

 

[mom'sfolly]

Another choice is to send invitations to those who you actually want to attend, or expect to attend and send wedding announcements to the rest. An announcement lets people know, lets them know you care enough to send them one, and lets you off the hook about worrying about them showing up and ruining your budget.